Virgins -wishing to be treated like one - addictions, bad behaviour etc

[Sunshineday]

Plenty of posts regarding addictions to like pornography, committing sins. They go and and are upset and then say they've been praying and still are lost-this is because they are not after Allah's mercy, what they are after is to live as if on a clean slate, to be like if nothing has happened. Here, like to add some points:

1. People feel so bad, that they end up going even worse down the path, and as you would have heard people saying I am not going to be made to feel bad about my mistakes-to the extent of saying I haven't committed a sin so I don't have to feel bad about it. They externalise it complaining that others are judging them-if people are making fun out of them -then these people are not religious, as no Muslim is impressed and laughing about it. Why would we laugh? Allah accepts and forgives-is this not enough?? It still isn't as again they always have what every evil person had used a perfect ideal of living.

2. This is distorted-so when people don't get their perfect ideal way of living, they don't care about anything -so here they have elevated their mistakes or mistakes of others above Allah's bounty in both of the Worlds. This is why even if people get married, they don't care, no matter what they have, they still end up not holding onto what they have, but rather complain about the "life" they didn't have. Here, giving Allah an ultimatum -that their standard (it is worse when they use things if it is seen as normal-marriage, having children), if they don't get it they won't accept and put their trust in Allah-here they have not submitted to Allah's will.

3. Even prostitutes in the past and todays world have repented and never would they go around and say what they did didn't matter, here they are repenting as they are not elevating their sin and asking everything to work around and fit in their lives-which is what is happening, even if a person had children with so many different fathers-is asking for things to fit around them, being transgender to ask for things to fit around them -doesn't matter how much they feel they are right-this is the devil's work, this is what they do.

4. Another extreme example are those that go mad , here if you read under psychosis, it is a loss of self-they hold onto how they want to be, and whatever happens they cannot maintain this fantasy, and they break down -this is where sometimes in order to feel better they may use grandiose statements like they are better then people or flee to a fantasy.

5. Look at the amount of complaints and see, that if males were to face what prostitutes have faced being ridiculed, they would not have maintained themselves. This is where males who make fun out of females lives are foolish, as it is they the males who wouldn't have coped and it is awful to say but they may have even committed suicide. You have the same test as the sinful people -don't be arrogant.

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Being in this world is to serve-in Islam we are servants of Allah.

1. You can't say, I can't be obedient to your parents, because you were watching a pornography.

2. You can't say you can't do anything in your life, cause you saw some naked people.

3. Here, as above is what people are after is to be accepted by people -they are not complaining they are not accepted by Allah.

4. Here, what they are asking from Allah is to help them to be accepted by people. Instead you should repent, and just do what you can, work hard, apply yourself (but these people are not used to doing that, they have already demonstrated they had lack of discipline before their addiction.

This is why a lot of people fail-look and look, think and think. You cannot complaint to Allah that people won't accept you as you won't be caring about this on the Day of Judgement. It may be that Allah may make your life better, but if you are not doing enough with what Allah has already provided for you, why would Allah give you more??

Here, people are actually being selfish, your not kind and innocent because you couldn't handle something and committed suicide. This is what they do in the west , accept people to be weak and feel sorry for them and put it in all one box-even they elevate their problems, by relating to how children would feel if they were in their position, it is most unkind to even feel sorry for themselves. They wish to treat it like a child who is crying because they can't have their toy-this is where they are saying poor poor person, she/he wished to get married, was reject3ed, they committed and it is so sad, poor, poor them. Here, they have received no revelation from Allah and they are undermining people. As Allah never said it was normal for anyone to go to Hell. You don't go to Paradise because you didn't get what you want, you go there as you accepted Allah.

Accepting Allah is rejecting evil -forbidding evil and enjoining good, it is not asking for your sinful behaviour to be elevated to such an extent that you say you are not worth anything-so your whole self, body that Allah has created is nothing is it?? That the sin is much?? Anybody can repent, even Pharoah was allowed to repent. The wrongdoers who burnt the believers were allowed to repent. Of course even the homosexuals were allowed to repent at the time of Prophet Lut peace be upon him's time (when even they stated, this Prophet is telling us to be "pure")

If you wish for Allah's mercy and accept he forgives, you don't have a problem, if you wish to be treated like a virgin by others-then there is nothing that anyone can do.

[Murid]

:salam:

There is an another layer of reality some are not awere or neglect it.

Doing sins your spiritual plane gets involved. Malaika, jinn, people of firasa, arifin, priests, sahirs, witches, shaytan and other notice, even animals or unliving nature.

There the balance of like barakah, mercy, huda, fadilah, protection, noor and other change.

For example, you work for a relatively fixed salary and working 10 years brings you 1 million pounds savings. You can not earn that in 10 days that easily.

Change/repentence is needed, but consistant efforts in good deeds to.