Relationship advice

[anonymous]

Salaam,

I need some relationship advice please. Me and my husband have been married almost five years now. We’ve also recently had a miscarriage.
I’ve noticed that my husband goes through these phases where he’s very disconnected and distant. He has no interest in family matters or what’s going on around the home. I would have to keep on nagging him in order to get him to do something. And when he does agree to do something like fixing something in the house I have to be there holding his hand and doing everything with him. He doesn’t do anything on his own. He’d work in the morning and at night he’d make excuses to go see his friends and he’d be out at late hours of night. He doesn’t communicate much about what he’s doing. Instead of being at home or spending time with me, he much rather spend time with his friends. I have tried my best to be a good wife but I cannot tolerate it anymore. We’re just two very different people. Even on the weekend when he is at home, he’s either in a mood or he’s genuinely not happy. I feel like when he’s doing things with me. It’s just such a chore for him. I can see it in his attitude and behaviour. He has no motivation, no drive. He wakes up late, sleep very late, barely making it to work each day, Our schedules have become so different because I am the opposite; I sleep early and wake up early so I can be the best person I can be. I go to the gym, I look after myself. I am motivated and driven, whereas he’s not. I’m trying to improve my life but he’s just drags everything life.

I feel so sad that it has come to this but I feel like I am more of his roommate then his wife. And If I say something, he’s just so defensive that I’ve stopped saying anything or arguing for the sake of keeping peace and my own mental well-being.

[Murid]

:salam:

:bism:

Try to improve some aspects of living and nutrition to help him get out of the rut.

-incorporate differente superfoods into diet
-get him supplement saffron (Crocus sativus)
-nigella sativa oil
-different kind of nut, especially 5 Brazil nuts daily
-milk, milk based products like parmesan, kefir
-wholegrain bread only
-room, car scents that are uplifting/aromatherapy
-best hygiene of home too
-talk with him that you want him to be more productive
-show with your example, be even better and better
-supplement him with pomegranate or pomegranate juice
-fruit and veggies 100% organic juices
-get your friends visiting

-what is most important is dua, ibadah, try to increase and add sunnah duas in every circumstance
-increase salawat and kalima tamjid

-inshaAllah enough

-sabr and tawakkul

-cut off negative talks and don't grudge, behave merciful, respectfull

[Murid]

:salam:

:bism:

Some important duas which will help along everything inshaAllah.

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[anonymous]

:salam:

:bism:

Some important duas which will help along everything inshaAllah.

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