Close to leaving my mother

[anonymous]

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I don't where to start so I begin with a short background, I took care of my father for a few years then my mother now for few years. Both struck with illnesses that render them incapable of walking.

For these past few years looking over my mother things are escalating, she doesn't want to listen, argue with me a lot and love to spend money on her friends. I love to save money so I had given her loads of option to make her debt-free and settle it all but we end up selling some of her assets which helps temporarily but we are still in deep hot water because she decided to keep another of her asset which is becoming a liability. In short there's little to no savings left.

Whenever I argue it's the worst part, I get depressed the whole day and I get accused of many things that hurt my soul. Of course I fight back and it becomes a shouting match between us two.

I'm very close to leaving her but I always backtrack when I remember about Allah's command. I have stop doing salat for a few years now the pressure just get on to me. With money running out I feel like she doesn't even care if we will live a nightmare later on when all the money is finished.

I get fed up with her friends when they come to visit, we have to spend loads of money on lunch or dinner and when I tell her about going to a cheaper restaurant I always get scolded.

[Imraan]

:sl:

I don't where to start so I begin with a short background, I took care of my father for a few years then my mother now for few years. Both struck with illnesses that render them incapable of walking.

For these past few years looking over my mother things are escalating, she doesn't want to listen, argue with me a lot and love to spend money on her friends. I love to save money so I had given her loads of option to make her debt-free and settle it all but we end up selling some of her assets which helps temporarily but we are still in deep hot water because she decided to keep another of her asset which is becoming a liability. In short there's little to no savings left.

Whenever I argue it's the worst part, I get depressed the whole day and I get accused of many things that hurt my soul. Of course I fight back and it becomes a shouting match between us two.

I'm very close to leaving her but I always backtrack when I remember about Allah's command. I have stop doing salat for a few years now the pressure just get on to me. With money running out I feel like she doesn't even care if we will live a nightmare later on when all the money is finished.

I get fed up with her friends when they come to visit, we have to spend loads of money on lunch or dinner and when I tell her about going to a cheaper restaurant I always get scolded.

Assalam walaikum hope you and your family are in good health in sha Allah

Please do not leave your mother. There must be another solution.
Leaving your mother is a bad option, one that you probably will regret in the future. Especially if there are no other siblings.
It will probably go against you on the day of akhira...

Please seek help from a knowledgeable imam.

Im sorry I can't help any further as I don't have all the answers, I dont even have my own answers...

Please remember everyone in your duas.