Wear a HIJAB ?? Why shud i ???

[Talib-ul-Ilm]

"I’m so tired”
“Tired of what?”
“Of all these people judging me.”
“Who judged you?”
“Like that woman, every time I sit with her, she tells me to wear hijab.”
“Oh, hijab and music! The mother of all topics!”
“Yeah! I listen to music without hijab…haha!”
“Maybe she was just giving you advice.”
“I don’t need her advice. I know my religion. Can‘t she mind her own business?”
“Maybe you misunderstood. She was just being nice.”
“Keeping out of my business, that would be nice...”

“But it’s her duty to encourage you do to good.”
“Trust me. That was no encouragement. And what do you mean ‘good‘ ?”
“Well, wearing hijab, that would be a good thing to do.”
“Says who?”
“It’s in the Holy Qur’an, isn’t it?”
“Yes. She did quote me something.”
“She said Surah Nur, and other places of the Holy Qur’an.”
“Yes, but it’s not a big sin anyway. Helping people and praying is more important.”
“True. But big things start with small things.”
“That’s a good point, but what you wear is not important. What’s important is to have a good healthy heart.”
“What you wear is not important?”
“That’s what I said.”
“Then why do you spend an hour every morning fixing up?”
“What do you mean?”
“You spend money on cosmetics, not to mention all the time you spend on fixing your hair and low-carb dieting.”
“So?”
“So, your appearance IS important.”
“No. I said wearing hijab is not an important thing in religion.”

“If it’s not an important thing in religion, why is it mentioned in the
Holy Qur’an?”
“You know I can’t follow all that’s in Qur’an.”
“You mean God tells you something to do, you disobey and then it’s OK?”
“Yes. God is forgiving.”
“God is forgiving to those who repent and do not repeat their
mistakes.”
“Says who?”
“Says the same book that tells you to cover.”
“But I don’t like hijab, it limits my freedom.”
“But the lotions, lipsticks, mascara and other cosmetics set you free?!
What‘s your definition of freedom anyway?”
“Freedom is in doing whatever you like to do.”
“No. Freedom is in doing the right thing, not in doing whatever we wish
to do.”

“Look! I’ve seen so many people who don’t wear hijab and are nice people, and so many who wear hijab and are bad people.”
“So what? There are people who are nice to you but are alcoholic.
Should we all be alcoholics? You made a stupid point.”
“I don’t want to be an extremist or a fanatic. I’m OK the way I am without hijab.”
“Then you are a secular fanatic. An extremist in disobeying God.”
“You don’t get it, if I wear hijab, who would marry me?!”
“So all these people with hijab never get married?!”
“Okay! What if I get married and my husband doesn’t like it? And wants me to remove it?”
“What if your husband wants you to go out with him on a bank robbery?!”
“That’s irrelevant, bank robbery is a crime.”
“Disobeying your Creator is not a crime?”

“But then who would employ me?"
“A company that respects people for who they are.”
“Not after 9-11”
“Yes. After 9-11. Don’t you know about Hanan who just got into med school? ..And the other one, what was her name, the girl who always wore a white hijab…ummm…”
“Yasmeen?”
“Yes. Yasmeen. She just finished her MBA and is now interning for GE.”
“Why do you reduce religion to a piece of cloth anyway?”
“Why do you reduce womanhood to high heels and lipstick colors?”

“You didn’t answer my question.”
“In fact, I did. Hijab is not just a piece of cloth. It is obeying God in a difficult environment. It is courage, faith in action, and true womanhood. But your short sleeves, tight pants…”
“That’s called ‘fashion‘, you live in a cave or something? First of all, hijab was founded by men who wanted to control women.”
“Really? I did not know men could control women by hijab.”
“Yes. That’s what it is.”
“What about the women who fight their husbands to wear hijab? And women in France who are forced to remove their hijab by men? What do you say about that?”
“Well, that’s different.”
“What difference? The woman who asked you to wear hijab…she was a
woman, right?”
“Right, but…”
“But fashions that are designed and promoted by male-dominated
corporations, set you free? Men have no control on exposing women and using them as a commodity?! Give me a break!”

“Wait, let me finish, I was saying…”
“Saying what? You think that men control women by hijab?”
“Yes.”
“Specifically how?”
“By telling women how and what to wear, dummy!”
“Doesn’t TV, magazines and movies tell you what to wear, and how to be 'attractive’ ?”
“Of course, it’s fashion.”
“Isn’t that control? Pressuring you to wear what they want you to
wear?”

---Silence----

“Not just controlling you, but also controlling the market.”
“What do you mean?”
“I mean, you are told to look skinny and anorexic like that woman on
the cover of the magazine, by men who design those magazines and sell those products.”
“I don’t get it. What does hijab have to do with products.”
“It has everything to do with that. Don’t you see? Hijab is a threat to
consumerism, women who spend billions of dollars to look skinny and live by standards of fashion designed by men…and then here is Islam, saying trash all that nonsense and focus on your soul, not on your looks, and do not worry what men think of your looks.”
“Like I don’t have to buy hijab? Isn’t hijab a product?”
“Yes, it is. It is a product that sets you free from male-dominated
consumerism.”

“Stop lecturing me! I WILL NOT WEAR HIJAB! It is awkward, outdated, and totally not suitable for this society ... Moreover, I am only 20 and too young to wear hijab!”
“Fine. Say that to your Lord, when you face Him on Judgment Day.”
“Fine.”
“Fine.”

----Silence----

“Shut up and I don’t want to hear more about hijab niqab schmijab
Punjab !”

She stared at the mirror, tired of arguing with herself all this time.
Successful enough, she managed to shut the voices in her head, with her own opinions triumphant in victory on the matter, and a final modern decision accepted by the society, rejected by the Faith:
Yes to curls on the hair, no to hijab. Astaghfirullah

And say to the faithful women to lower their gazes, and to guard their private parts, and not to display their adornment except what is apparent of it, and to extend their headcoverings (khimars) to cover their bosoms (jaybs), and not to display their adornment except to their husbands, or their fathers, or their husband's fathers, or their sons, or their husband's sons, or their brothers, or their brothers' sons, or their sisters' sons, or their womenfolk, or what their right hands rule (slaves), or the followers from the men who do not feel sexual desire, or the small children to whom the nakedness of women is not apparent, and not to strike their feet (on the ground) so as to make known what they hide of their adornments. And turn in repentance to Allah together,O you the faithful, in order that you are successful.

[Talib-ul-Ilm]

You got a scarf on your head
But jeans that stick to your skin
Your stomach is revealed
You’re into the SIN

When asked what you are
Your culture you name
Muslim don’t cross your tongue
What a pity what a shame!

You take pride in the tops
That reveals your back
Cleavage not an issue
It’s with the pack

Now it’s fashion to wear the scarf
In the way you do
Julia Stiles did it in save the last dance
Now you should too!

Your hair it is styled
With the gel and the mouse
You got the hip hugging jeans
With the matching shoes

You wake up at dawn
To apply your face
So guys can pick you up
What a disgrace!

You infuriated girl
Hit the road of the west
Your born in the truth
But you observe the rest

You do the dating scene
And the kissing guys
You think they’re the world
Open your eyes

Encouraging Muslim boys
To do the same?
But it’s all-good,
With the Muslim name

At least he is Muslim
That’s what your friends say
Encouraging a ummati
In the same way

Your life revolves around him
Your heart it does the dance
Pitiful are you
Within haram romance

DON’T YOU SEE…

Life doesn’t travel
Farther than the grave
It’ll pass you faster
If the world you crave

You think your getting educated
When you hit the school
But they’re playing you like puppets
You’re the fool

And those who do fear god
Those whom you tease
When you toss in the flames
They’ll cool in the breeze

Don’t you love the prophet?
Who was stoned for you?
Whose last words were for us?
Who came with the truth

The mothers of believer
Who cast their gaze down?
The best of the women
Upon you they would frown

Disgusting girl have some shame within you
While they cast their gaze down, you stare right through
While they feared Allah, the alone the True
You think the only problem is if people see you

What would my parents say, will I be allowed out again
Society will gossip, it’ll be the end
But little do you assume about the end that is near
And if only your death and Allah you fear

But you know the truth, there’s only so much I can say
And the guilt only lasts before you go back to the way
So before you turn back and to parties you attend
There is one small thing I do recommend

No matter where you go and what you decide to do
Just remember that Allah is always around you
Fear him more than being “caught” fear him there
And when you start to realize, then you’ll start to care

And the rest of the girls will disgust you true
If it worked for me it can work for you
Taste the sweetness of the veil and cover up well
And make the hereafter your eternity in Jannah you’ll dwell

So take off the shamelessness, throw off the nudity
Be a Muslimah stand proud most of all as an ummati

[The Ruler]

wow!! masha'allah excellent posts....da argument was jus a gr8 read :happy: :thumbs_up

:w:

[Guli7]

I have met muslims who have told me to wear a hijab because of modesty. I have had muslims tell me to eventually wear one when it feels right. I have had muslims tell me that it isn't the 5 pillars and I should follow the 5 pillars before anything. I have had some muslims tell me the Quran only says to cover your chest down.

confusing........yes lol.

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[Mohsin]

I have met muslims who have told me to wear a hijab because of modesty. I have had muslims tell me to eventually wear one when it feels right. I have had muslims tell me that it isn't the 5 pillars and I should follow the 5 pillars before anything. I have had some muslims tell me the Quran only says to cover your chest down.

confusing........yes lol.

Lol i see what you mean. Hmm you'll speak to a lot of epople who may say things to justify their own deeds, i came accross that myself when i started inquiring on wether to grow a beard or not. the best answer is to go to someone knwoledgeable who understands the Qur'an and hadeeth, ie a scholar and ask for yourself

I have met muslims who have told me to wear a hijab because of modesty.

Yep that's why it's there

I have had muslims tell me that it isn't the 5 pillars and I should follow the 5 pillars before anything

Yeah of course, but not murdering someone is also not one of the 5 pillars, doesn't mean we can murder people. Either way, the first pillar says to believe in prophet Muhammed PBUH as a messenger, that means following his commands, in which he has instructed women to do hijab

I have had muslims tell me to eventually wear one when it feels right

Umm are you a revert? If so i'd probs advise that, do it if parents feel ok with it. I know some revert sisters who initially didn't wear it around their parents ever, only when they were with their friends or in the mosque, or praying. but gradually they started, first came the conversion, then asking of halal meat and eventually to the hijaab

[lyesh]

Masha Allah! JazakAllah for the post!

[Guli7]

No it is just my culture/tradition. It is very wrong I know. The men don't wear beards and the women don't cover till after they get married. It is a usual thing. So no one ends up being a leader by changing the rules, but following everyone else. I am guilty of that, especially living in the city. However most of us follow the 5 pillars. I know that is not enough, I am just very confused about certain things especially at this point.

We (some people) mostly live in a time where we follow the pack and worry about what everyone else thinks on earth instead of Allah and the afterlife.

[Mu'maneen]

:sl:

Mashah'Allah. Jazak Allah Kher Fe Dunya Wal Akhira for the excellent post.

The woman arguing against Hijab is clearly showing pure Kufr from the heart. May Allah rectify the state of this Ummah. Ameen.



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[Mohsin]

No it is just my culture/tradition. It is very wrong I know. The men don't wear beards and the women don't cover till after they get married. It is a usual thing. So no one ends up being a leader by changing the rules, but following everyone else. I am guilty of that, especially living in the city. However most of us follow the 5 pillars. I know that is not enough, I am just very confused about certain things especially at this point.

We (some people) mostly live in a time where we follow the pack and worry about what everyone else thinks on earth instead of Allah and the afterlife.

Mashallah at least you have the concern though, and you have good intention aswell alhumdulillah. Some people just don't care

[Guli7]

thank you very much!