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ishkabab
NEED ADVISE FAST!!!!
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well i know someone personally whos raised here in new york ....she's also wants to get married but is facing many problems because her parents are not with her....unfortunetly her parents dont agree with doing pardah nor do they like niqab or hijab....she's very strong in taqwah mashAllah ...she covers with full hijab and niqab and she's young mashAllah but the sad thing is she doesnt know what to do ...she even planned on running away to a different country like egypt just to so she can seclude herself...she says she wants to get married to a good muslim brother but she's not the type of girl thats goes looking around 4 a guy to get married to....she says whenever Allah Tala wills then and only then will it happen ....but unfortunetly she doesnt know any muslim sister or anybody in Egypt or else she would have left by now ...Really
she believes that there she will get married and live there if Allah wills....
any advice people?......anybody know a muslim sister in Egypt?.....plz help !
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Masha Allah, what a tough situation she is in, may Allah help her and make everything easier on her. I think its best you advice her to:
1. Tell her to stay istiqomah with her iman and tell her that she is on the right path and give her spirit and support.
2. Tell her to keep staying with her parent as strong as she can. Leaving the parents wont solve anything. And she should know better, its not only her who want to go to heaven, but also her parent. Its just they dont know what is right yet. So its need da'wah and explanation. But since you didnt mention wether her parent are muslim or non muslim then....if theyre kafeer, then show how muslims children respect their parents. Give them attention more, talk soft to them and give them advices and explanations about Islam softly but also stright and distinct. Then she will need to learn more about Islam to make her self clear so her parent can understand. IF her parent are muslim and just egnorant, then its sometimes a bit harder If they against whatever she say cause typical attitude of parent sometimes they always think they know better than their children. But sometimes easier too if the parent able to talk with logic and want to accept explanation and differences in family.
3. She shouldnt express her self in some condition which will give her worse image and make the situation harder. Maybe by wearing hijab have made her looked bad in front of her family, then plus niqab it will make the situation worse. First we should see the ruling of these, between hijab and niqab. Hijab is wajiib for every muslimah, no ikhtilaf between ulama about this matter according to Qur'an and sunnah from salafus shalih. And what about niqab? Wearing niqab is sunnah (there are two opinions about the ruling of niqab, some ulama said wajib, but more ulama said its sunnah, so the stronger opinion is its sunnah wearing niqab). So wearing niqab is sunnah and its about excelence and yes its better for muslimah to wear niqab BUT in certain situation, if by wearing niqab will put her in a really bad situation then better leave it. Just wear hijab ( I mean with hijab is wearing jubah and khimar) and its enough for her. If her parents understand Islam better and ready to accept the differences then she may continue wearing her niqab. Cause if just to get something thats sunnah will cause bigger problem then its better leave it temporarily while doing da'wah till the situation getting better.
4. I think shes still young, I think its best for her to do dawah first to family since they also need help and they also want to enter heaven. If I was her, I will choose to educate my family first and then get maried. Cause its a terrible feeling to see our parents is lost. Dont you will feel sorry if she ever go to egypt and one day she will hear that her parents die in egnorance or even kafeer? Its a big regret I think.
Thats all my suggestion, insha Allah I hope it can help.