Are long engagements allowed in islam

[sweetbanana86]

Salam alaikum brothers and sisters, i hope this reaches you all in good health and strong imman

I was wondering if long engagements are allow islam, becuz it seems everyone wants to see me marry but i still feel i need to grow but there is a particular person i want to marry and if agree upon by other the person, to give me a some more to grow and then get married, will that be okay,

[Nusaybah]

i was also wondering about the same thing;D

[limitless]

:sl:

Interesting, I need to know this as well, would like a islamic perspective answer rather than a opinion answer.

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[sweetbanana86]

I would like both to be honest,

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What is done between the engagement and the marriage contract, and the marriage contract and the wedding party?
http://www.islam-qa.com/index.php?re...txt=engagement

http://members.tripod.com/maseeh1/advices7/id209.htm


You might also find these links useful insha'Allaah:


Islam's Stance on Love and Marriage
http://www.islamonline.net/servlet/S...=1119503544448


The Relationship between the Engaged Couple
http://www.islamonline.net/fatwa/eng...hFatwaID=19357


Ruling on engaged couple touching one another etc.
http://www.islam-qa.com/index.php?re...age%20contract

He wants to talk to a woman before he proposes marriage to her
http://www.islam-qa.com/index.php?ln...QR=13791&dgn=4


more questions and answers related to this topic:
http://www.islam-qa.com/index.php?pg...pglist=&ln=eng


They may be indirect to your question, but you'll find them useful insha'Allaahu ta'aala.


:wasalamex

[Ghazi]

:sl:

Long engagments are cool, they'll let you see your potentional spouse's true character.

[- Qatada -]

:wasalamex


On my opinion.. the longer the engagement - the bigger the chance of fitnah. If one was to carry on the engagement on for a long time - the person sort of gets attatched to the other person, whereas the person you're engaged to is just like any other non mahram female or male.

So getting married is alot better because then obviously you'll realise the character of that person and mould yourself (plus vice versa) into the other persons personality. Plus everything is permissible for both parties then insha'Allaahu ta'aala, without a chance of shaytan making both parties fall into major sins etc.


Allaah Almighty knows best.


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[Ghazi]

:wasalamex


On my opinion.. the longer the engagement - the bigger the chance of fitnah. If one was to carry on the engagement on for a long time - the person sort of gets attatched to the other person, whereas the person you're engaged to is just like any other non mahram female or male.

So getting married is alot better because then obviously you'll realise the character of that person and mould yourself (plus vice versa) into the other persons personality. Plus everything is permissible for both parties then insha'Allaahu ta'aala, without a chance of shaytan making both parties fall into major sins etc.


Allaah Almighty knows best.


:salamext:

Good Point

[muslimah_here]

:sl:
MASHALLAH nice resourceful website links uv given brother, its a shame that marriage has been complicated with so many unislamic customs that lead to wastage of wealth and resoruces, if wed marry INSHALLAH according to islamic shariah then our marriage would be full of blessings INSHALLAH.

FI-AMANALLAH.

[sweetbanana86]

wa alaikum salam i haven't had much time to look at the links but i will insh'allah but i was wondering what the Prophet (pbuh) and A'isha (ra) they were married at 6 but did not consumate the marriage untill she was 9 why the gap, was it becuz she still needed time to grow physically as well as mentally

and i was told a marriage is not official until you consumated

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:salamext:


I think it was because when she (Aa'isha radhiAllaahu anha) was 9 - she reached the age of puberty then. Even though the contract was done at the age of 6.

Allaah Almighty knows best.

:wasalamex

[sweetbanana86]

okay that makes perfect sense, may Allah bless you , for you have finally answer a question that many seem to not know the answer too

wa alaikum salam

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:wasalamex


Ameen to your dua' sister. You might also want to check this thread out insha'Allaahu ta'aala:


The Marriage of Aisha to the Prophet (Peace and blessings be upon him)
http://www.islamicboard.com/refutati...phet-pbuh.html


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