is marriage fardh???

[~Stranger~]

:sl: all,
hope u r in the best of health and iman. this is my first post :-[ and i hope u will find it useful and informative insha'allah


Nikah is an Arabic term used for marriage. It means "contract".
('Aqd in Arabic). The Quran specifically refers to marriage
as "mithaqun Ghalithun" which means "a strong agreement".


"and they have taken a strong pledge (Mithaqun Ghalithun) from you?"
(Quran 4:21)


The seriousness of this covenant becomes very obvious when one finds
the same term i.e. Mithaqun Ghalithun, being used for the agreement
made between Allah and the Prophet before granting them the
responsibility of the Prophethood. (Quran 33:7)

The Quran also uses the Arabic word "Hisn", suggesting "fortress"
for marriage. Marriage is considered the fortress of chastity.

The basic objectives of marriage in Islam are, first, securing a
comfortable atmosphere for a husband and wife and, second, producing
a new generation of healthy, faithful and virtuous children.

Allah says in The Holy Quran:

"Marry those among you who are single and (marry) your slaves, male
and female, that are righteous" (Quran 24:32)

"One of His signs is that He created for you spouses of your own
species, so that you might find comfort with them. And He put mutual
love and affection in your hearts. Surely in this there are lessons
for the thinking people" (30:21)

"He is the Creator of the heavens and the each. He has given you
partners from among yourselves and, similarly, made the cattle also
males and females. That is how he multiplies you. Nothing can be
compared to Him, He is the All-hearing, the All-seeing." (43:11)

"And Allah has made for you your mates of your own nature, and made
for you, out of them, sons and daughters and grandchildren, and
provided for you sustenance of the best." (16:72)

"Provide for them, the rich according to his income and the poor
according to his means, the provision according to the custom, this
is an obligation for those who act kindly" (2:236).

"Treat them politely for even if you dislike them, perhaps you
dislike something which God has placed much good" (4:19).

"They are your garments and you are their garments" (2:187).

"Men are protector of women because God has made them excel over the
other, and because they spend their property on women, so good women
are obedient (to their husband) and guard their modesty. As for whom
you fear rebellion, admonish them, and then banish them from your
bed (i.e., do not sleep with them), or beat them (lightly). If they
obey you, then seek not a way against them, God is ever High and
Exalted" (4:34)

"And give to the women (whom you marry) their Mahr (obligatory
bridal-money given by the husband to his wife at the time of
marriage) with a good heart" [al-Nisaa' 4:4]

"but the father of the child shall bear the cost of the mother's
food and clothing on a reasonable basis" [al-Baqarah 2:233]

"Lodge them (the divorced women) where you dwell, according to your
means" [al-Talaaq 65:6]

"Let the rich man spend according to his means; and the man whose
resources are restricted, let him spend according to what Allaah has
given him" [al-Talaaq 65:7]

"and live with them honourably" [al-Nisaa' 4:19]

"And they (women) have rights (over their husbands as regards
living expenses) similar (to those of their husbands) over them (as
regards obedience and respect) to what is reasonable, but men have a
degree (of responsibility) over them [al-Baqarah 2:228]

"O you who believe! Ward off yourselves and your families against a
Fire (Hell) whose fuel is men and stones" [al-Tahreem 66:6]

"Believers, men and women, are protectors of one another They enjoin
what is just and forbid what is evil. They observe regular prayer
and practice regular charity, obey God and His messenger, and on
them God will pour His mercy, for God is exalted in power and right.
God has promised to believers, men and women, gardens under which we
were supposed to dwell therein, beautiful mansions and garden of
everlasting bliss, for the greatest bliss is the pleasure of God,
that is the supreme" (9:71).

[farzana]

Walaikum Salaam Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatahu

Mashallah sister, indeed your post has been very 'useful and informative'

Alhamdulillah, I like the way you have used verses of the Qur'an to explain the purpose and importance of marriage in Islam

A very good post sister

Wasalaam Alaikum

[NooralHaya]

yea, jazakillahu khayr for that post sister =) i know i will benefit from it, and inshaAllah others will as well.

as salaamu alaikum

[TEH]

Goooo Sister Salaam...

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[sonz]

salam

i want to know if marriage is a must for muslims?? does it say in the quran and the hadiths??

also who doesnt want to marry in this forum??

salam

[Pinkrose]

:sl:

I heard that marrige wasn't fardh but it was sunnah!! I am not sure so don't take my word for it!!

~lol~

:w:

[NooralHaya]

the prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam said "When a man marries, he has fulfilled half of his religion, so let him fear Allah regarding the remaining half."

he also said, "Marriage is my sunna. Whosoever keeps away from it is not from me."

In its 'ibadah aspect, marriage is an act pleasing to Allah because it is in accordance with his commandments that husband and wife love each other and help each other to make efforts to continue the human race and rear and nurse their children to become true servants of Allah.


inshaAllah, check this link out =)
http://63.175.194.25/index.php?ln=en...&QR=1665&dgn=4
^ i know its in regard to sisters but theres good info there inshaAllah, maybe someone can find something pertaining to the brothers

as salaamu alaikum

[Muezzin]

:sl:

I don't know if it's fardh or not, but are you telling me you don't want to get married? The benefits far outweigh the disadvantages if you get my meaning, bro, eh, eh? ;)

I am talking, of course, about leisurely family picnics.

[Umm Yoosuf]

Marriage is sunnah.

[Bittersteel]

Marriage is suicide.
(Obviously that is sarcasm but it got some truth in it.)

[Life Is Fitnah]

:sl:

Marriage in general is not obligatory but mustahab (recommened). But in certain situations it does become waajib. I do not want to get married Insh'Allaah the reasons are many. So trust me I pretty much researched this topic inside out and learned the rulings :D
:w:

[Bittersteel]

why?What reasons?

[Khattab]

:sl: Marriage is something we should all look forward too, following the path of Muhammed (SWH) is the best path and what he has said regarding it is not to be taken lightly. Alhamdullilah I look forward to having a wife and kids if Allah (SWT) wills, for me when we talk about material things of the dunya family is the most important, nothing else really comes close or is of as much importance and having a solid and close family will help you in this life and will inshallah be pleasing to Allah (SWT).

:w:

[Ansar Al-'Adl]

"Marriage is my Sunnah (that is a recommended action of the Prophet) and whoever does not follow my Sunnah is not my true follower" (Ibn Haiah, Babun Nikah).

Of course this does not mean that if someone does not follow one sunnah they will be not included amongst the followers of the Prophet saws; rather if they abandon the Prophet's sunnah fully or a large part, then they are not the followers of the Prophet saws. Some scholars never married like Imaam Nawawi. He said that he feared that in following one of the Prophet's sunnah he might fall into more wrong.

:w:

[Life Is Fitnah]

"Marriage is my Sunnah (that is a recommended action of the Prophet) and whoever does not follow my Sunnah is not my true follower" (Ibn Haiah, Babun Nikah).

Of course this does not mean that if someone does not follow one sunnah they will be not included amongst the followers of the Prophet saws; rather if they abandon the Prophet's sunnah fully or a large part, then they are not the followers of the Prophet saws. Some scholars never married like Imaam Nawawi. He said that he feared that in following one of the Prophet's sunnah he might fall into more wrong.

:w:

:sl:

The hadeeth is translated incorrectly by whoever did it, the actual translation is "...whoever is displeased with my sunnah..." This is more stable

[soulja-ess]

:sl:

why wouldnt someone want to get married? :S

:wa:

[Angel24]

:w:

Marriage is sunnah.
and soulja-ess sis....there are some people who doesn't want to get married of course for many reasons...which cannot be shared sometimes....
like myself i don't want to get married in my whole life.....but cuz of family we have to do somethings which we don't want to.....

:w:

[TEH]

Dude, if you dont want to get married, you dont have to, and no one can force you, and hey, honestly, getting married really isnt that bad...

:)

[aamirsaab]

:sl:

and hey, honestly, getting married really isnt that bad...
:)

You speak from experience? :p

[~Stranger~]

Assalamu ALaikom brothers and siter,
I apologize for the late reply to your posts. I want to thank all who have replied. Jazakum Allah khairan

I'm also not planning to get married evr insha'allah :)

[FatimaAsSideqah]

Marriage is half of deen..pervant from fitnah! It could be lead to the Jannah...

[DaSangarTalib]

Marriage is half of deen..pervant from fitnah! It could be lead to the Jannah...

:happy:

YEP thats what i was gonna say :)

[Shadz111]

Salams
Lovely post sis...said very nicely:)

Waslam

[Ghazi]

Salaam

Muslims seriously need to get hitched some time in their lives, especialey the ones living in the west.

[ummAbdillah]

salaam
Interesting discussion :)
jz/kh for the post sis
ma salaam

[Ghazi]

Salaam

A man needs a women simple as that, it's so hard keeping away from zina these days, marriage will solve this.

[~Stranger~]

A man needs a women simple as that, it's so hard keeping away from zina these days, marriage will solve

But firstly, men should learn how to treat women, don't u agree?? and many brothers (let's say most) don't know how to

[Maimunah]

But firstly, men should learn how to treat women, don't u agree?? and many brothers (let's say most) don't know how to

no sis not all men are like that. alhamdulilaah there brothers who are followin the sunah well

[DaSangarTalib]

:happy: :happy:

Etiquette between Spouses

http://www.islamicboard.com/marriage...n-spouses.html

The Merits of Marriage

http://www.islamicboard.com/marriage...-marriage.html

How to Preserve the Muslim Family

http://www.islamicboard.com/marriage...im-family.html