Raising our children

[unknown_JJ]

Assalam Alaikum brothers and sisters,



It is our duty to raise our children in the best way possible and enlighten them to the path of Allah. It is necessary to make this investment from a very early age so the beliefs are well settled by the time reach youth. Without doubt we will be questioned on the day of judgment about how we raised our children, from naming them to teaching them how to read the Quran to what actions we did to prepare them for this life and the next.



A couple of important decisions we need to make for our children are which school they go to and which friends they make.



Choosing a School:



The father should strive to carefully choose a good school for his child,

thus selecting the one that is of the finest quality and not necessarily

the one that is closest to him. He should also ask those involved in the

field of teaching and educating, who are sincere and honest, as to which of

the schools is the best.



School has a deep impact on a student since it is there that he spends a

quarter of his day – which is in fact the best time of the day. In the

school he learns and is educated, and that is the place where he finds

friends and companions.



So based on this, the father must keep a close connection with the school

by going to visit it, staying in contact with it by phone and asking about

the state of his son or daughter. He should be concerned with asking about

his child’s character, behavior and friends before asking about his grades.



He should also follow up on his child’s educational development and

studies, and check his notes and homework and be aware of the remarks the

teacher makes to his child’s work so that he may correct it.



So your concern with your child’s studies and your solid relationship with

his school, his teachers, his schoolwork, and his levels of education is a

good that will assist in his well-being and learning, by the will of

Allaah.



Choosing a Friend:


From the things in which there is no doubt is that a friend has a profound

effect on an individual – whether positive or negative. Sufficient to

clarify this point is the statement of the Prophet (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa

sallam) when he said: “The example of the righteous companion and the evil

companion is like that of a seller of musk and a blacksmith.” [Reported by

Al-Bukhaaree and Muslim]



The Prophet (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) also said: “A man is upon the

religion of his close friend, so let each of you look into whom he takes as

a close friend.” [Reported by Abu Dawood]



Therefore, O father, it is incumbent upon you to look for a good friend and

a sincere companion for your child before he chooses one on his own, for he

may choose the wrong ones and then grow attached to them, after which it

will be hard for you to separate them.



There are many accounts, too numerous to be recorded, in which children

were raised in good environments and in conservative households but ended

up mixing with bad companions on the pretext that they were going on a trip

or an outing with them or using the excuse that they wanted to play with

them or have fun with them or study with them. And the end result of this

was that they had a negative effect on them.



In these days it is extremely difficult for a father to raise his child in

exclusion of friends. Trials and temptations constantly surround the youth

from all directions.



Bad friends can either be people who are engulfed in their desires or in

misconceptions. If they are those who are given into whims and desires,

they will lead your child towards mischief and a digression from good

character. As for those who follow misconceptions, they will lead your

child towards innovations and opposing the guidance of the pious

predecessors (Salaf as-Saalih). Perhaps he may even fall into the acts of

declaring Muslims disbelievers and innovators. This particularly applies to

the members of those methodologies that are foreign to this country (i.e.

Saudi Arabia), as has occurred to some of our youth, may Allaah guide them

and return them back to the truth.



In conclusion, I ask Allaah to rectify for all of us our intentions and

offspring, and that He forgive our parents, granting them the best of

rewards on our behalf. I ask Allaah to assist us in being dutiful to them

during their lives as well as after their deaths.



I also ask Allaah to aid us in raising our children upon the Qur’aan and

the Sunnah and to make them righteous offspring and an enjoyment to our

eyes in this life by, through their uprightness, and after death, through

their righteous deeds.



May the peace and praises of Allaah be upon our prophet Muhammad.

[Pk_#2]

AsalamuAlaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh,

You have kids JJ!!! :eek: Where did you hide them :giggling:


Nah JazakAllah for the hadith quotes,

I ask Allaah to rectify for all of us our intentions and

offspring, and that He forgive our parents, granting them the best of

rewards on our behalf. I ask Allaah to assist us in being dutiful to them

during their lives as well as after their deaths.

I also ask Allaah to aid us in raising our children upon the Qur’aan and

the Sunnah and to make them righteous offspring and an enjoyment to our

eyes in this life by, through their uprightness, and after death, through

their righteous deeds.

Ameen to the du'a,

But seriously dou i wana see my nephews...or nieces :X

WalaykumSalaam Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh.

[unknown_JJ]

AsalamuAlaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh,

You have kids JJ!!! :eek: Where did you hide them :giggling:

lol i think u no that answer 2 dat 1
but we need it 4 future use init inshallah
tc asalamu alaykum.......

[FatimaAsSideqah]

:sl:

JakahAllah Khair for the post!

May Allah Ta'ala reward you for this!

:w:

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[unknown_JJ]

barakallah fiki :D

[Pk_#2]

InshaAllah i wana hav more kids then u :p

*baby factory*

[unknown_JJ]

Umm Yahya asked me to post the source of my article

so here it is....


Waqaas Rahman <waqaas.rahman4@ntlworld.com>

i dunno who he is, but he send me useful islamic emails :D