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Ghira
05-11-2007, 08:03 AM
60 Ways To Keep Your Wife's Love, and the romance alive!
http://www.lightuponlight.com/islam/...=index&lid=431

Ahmad Shehab - 60 Ways to Keep Your Wife's Love - Guaranteed
1. Make her feel secure and sakinah - don't threaten her with divorce
2. Give sincere salaams
3. Treat her gently - like a fragile vessel
4. Advise in private, at the best time, in the best way and atmosphere
5. Be generous with her
6. Warm the seat for her, you will warm her heart
7. Avoid anger, keep wudu at all times
8. Look good and smell great for your wife
9. Don't be rigid or harsh-hearted or you will be broken
10. Be a good listener
11. Yes for flattery, No for arguing
12. Call your wife with the best names, cute nicknames, names she loves to hear
13. A pleasant surprise
14. Preserve and guard the tongue
15. Expect, accept, and overlook her shortcomings
16. Give sincere compliments
17. Encourage her to keep good relations with her family
18. Speak of the topic of her interest
19. Express to her relatives, how wonderful she is
20. Give each other gifts
21. Get rid of routine, surprise her
22. Have a good opinion of each other
23. Have good manners, overlook small things, don't nitpick
24. Add a drop of patience, increase during pregnancy, menses
25. Expect and respect her jealously
26. Be humble
27. Sacrifice your happiness for hers
28. Help at home, with housework
29. Help her love your relatives, but don't try to force her
30. Let her know that she is the ideal wife for you
31. Remember your wife in dua
32. Leave the past for Allah subhanahu wa ta ala, don't dwell on, dig into, or bring it up.
33. Don't act as if you are doing her a favor by working or providing, Allah is the Provider, the husband is the carrier of the sustenance to the family
34. Take shaytaan as your enemy, not your wife
35. Put food in your wife's mouth
36. Treat your wife like she is the most precious pearl that you want to protect
37. Show her your smile
38. Don't ignore the small things, deal with them before they become big
39. Avoid being harsh-hearted
40. Respect and show that you appreciate her thinking
41. Help her to find and build her inner strengths and skills
42. Respect that she might not be in mood for intimacy, stay within halal boundaries
43. Help her take care of the children
44. Give her gifts with your tongue, be an artist with your compliments
45. Sit down and eat meals together
46. Let her know that you will be traveling or returning from travel, give her sufficient notice
47. Don't leave home in anger
48. Maintain the secrecy and privacy of the home
49. Encourage each other in ibaadat
50. Respect and Fulfill her rights upon you
51. Live with her in kindness, goodness, fairness in good and bad times
52. Kiss your wife, foreplay, "Don't jump on her like a bull"
53. Keep disputes between the two of you, don't take it outside
54. Show care for her health and well-being
55. Remember you are not always right or perfect yourself
56. Share your happiness and sadness with her
57. Have mercy for her weaknesses
58. Be a firm support for her to lean on
59. Accept her as is, she is a package deal
60. Have a good intention for her
:bravo:

Enjoy lecture!!! I do all this for my wife....HA...I am not even married. I should say I WILL do most of these things with her....exclude 7, 11, 46 maybe more but from quick look..

Oh and make sincere dua that I get a good wife inshaAllah...please :)
They are hard to find..........
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ibrarfaiz
05-11-2007, 08:51 AM
nice
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vpb
05-11-2007, 09:04 AM
jazakallah for sharing, but, certainly all these things that you listed can be described just by one line "Follow the Sunnah of the Prophet saws". and all the points that you mentioned will be fulfilled even those that you missed :)
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united
05-11-2007, 09:08 AM
i gess life wud b boring with no 11. but 7 and 46 are specifically mentioned in hadith
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chacha_jalebi
05-11-2007, 09:20 AM
lol why would it be borin?

treat ya wife the way you want her to treat you:D
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united
05-11-2007, 09:25 AM
theres no natural high as potent as a good argument... :p
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HBot 5000
05-11-2007, 01:32 PM
Noted! Shukrun yakkii :thumbs_up
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iwuvaziaf
05-11-2007, 01:46 PM
this thread is so cool.. I have read books like.. "An Ideal Muslimah".. "How to win your husband's heart" etc.. all islamic ofcourse.. but from lookin at it from the brother's views.. It looks like hard work.. Goodluck..! we all need it!

Wsalam..

p.s. I say, get memorising and implementing..inshaAllah!
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Ghira
05-13-2007, 06:50 AM
format_quote Originally Posted by vpb
jazakallah for sharing, but, certainly all these things that you listed can be described just by one line "Follow the Sunnah of the Prophet saws". and all the points that you mentioned will be fulfilled even those that you missed :)
:sl:

Well then that is a good summary of the specifics of the hadith

“The best of you is the one who is best to his family (wife) and I am the best of you to my family.” :)

#52 is funny :giggling:....Jump on someone like a bull?? That would hurt.
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sevgi
05-13-2007, 12:57 PM
i like no. 33...and the 'put food in ur wifes mouth one...' they contradict but balance eachother out so well...

they are all very meaningful...i am happy that someone was observant enough to write all these down...

i think there were about five points which stressed on complimenting ur wife...so we really need it that much??? girls are weird...we'll jst complain about how he squashed us and chokes us with all the compliments...

i hope brother that u find a beautiful wife...thank u for sharing.

does anyone have a 'husband' version of this??? or do any brothers want to give us some pointers.omg...i sound married...:P
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afriend
05-13-2007, 03:58 PM
lol

Here's a few:

Occasionally tease her as a joke (:p)

Don't always go all sloppy by saying love-based things too much, keep those cheesey comments rare ;D

;D ;D ;D
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kitten
05-13-2007, 04:01 PM
:sl:

mashaAllah very true.

Oh and make sincere dua that I get a good wife inshaAllah...please
They are hard to find..........
inshaAllah brother..
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youngsister
05-13-2007, 09:03 PM
:sl: Ok I cant help myself....
AWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW
LUV it thats like soo cute Masha Allah
Jazakallah khair for sharing!

May Allah swt grant all the unmarried sisters a pious husband that will Isha Allah fufil her right and practise all this 60 points:D :w:
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al Amaanah
05-13-2007, 11:54 PM
Jazaak Allahu khairan.

:w:
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3ARABY_2005
05-14-2007, 12:11 AM
I Will Keep Them In Mind

They Seem Like A Good Plan

Jazakumullah Khair
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sister_united
05-17-2007, 06:19 PM
a good guide but i can't see that happening! lol but definately it is good to see a guide on how to keep your wife's love instead of how to keep your husband happy! (although that is very important!)
Good on you!
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