Originally Posted by SalafiFemaleJih
There are two things in life:
(a) things you CAN control
(b) things you CAN'T control.
For the sake of practicality, write down in sequence things around you that belong to (a) and (b). Then you will see clearly, what to focus on.
The prophet while he worried about his ummah, he had his priorities. In fact, for a good couple of years, before his prophethood, he focused on HIMSELF. After the nuzul of the first three sentences of al muzzammil, qiyamullail was waajib on him alone.
then his family, close friends and then his da'wah becomes public.
I had that experience.
I was the only one praying. I bought Islamic magazines and would lay them around the house and I was always good to my parents and my sisters. I was blunt too, at that young age. :)
Bdays, movies. Been there, done that.
Allah guided all my sisters and my mom to wear hijaab after 3 years! All of them started to pray 5 times a day and then I told Allah, I'm ready to die. Because that was my wish.
anyway, sorting out your priorities is very important. You can change yourself, not others. You can try, but at the end of the day, only Allah can guide.
Look the prophet spent 23 years and the whole world wasn't even muslim when he died. The Islamic empire became bigger after his death. Was he a failure?
Cut yourself some slack and don't be down. Give them a chance.
If I had given up on my family, surely Allah would not have guided them. because I needed to provide the asbaab. Allah will do the rest.