Re: hmm
Ma sha Allah, some really good advice has been stated! :thumbs_up
I think the trick is to start slow - obviously it's near-impossible to change your life overnight, but make changes, even if small ones, to your life and gradually build them up until you are out of the darkness.
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top of all that i know tht whtever i m doing is wrong but i m still doing ..!! kind of a phsyco case i should call myself but thts wht i m ..!!
Okay! Since you know what u're doing all wrong, why don't you start with a list: write down as many of the "wrong" things that you do as possible. Now this list is first for you: you need to set prioritites. What do you need to change right away? What are you going to do- and i'm not talking about tomorrow- what are you going to do
today? .
However, this list isn't only for you. You already know what you're doing wrong, right. But you're still doing it......... So what you have to do is get yourself "a little tattletale" and a buddy. Somebody who will be willing to call you at fajr (for example) to remind you to pray. Somebody that will check up on you and make sure you read a little bit of Quran every couple of days (at least). Somebody almost like a teacher making sure you do your homework....(perhaps a brother here will be willing to help
). However, family would probably the best thing (as long as they are practicing) since they could keep an eye on you at all times (as long as you actually live with them.)
Everyone has told you "good company." You need that 100%. And I think in this "beginning stage" the best thing to do, is to "hang out" by yourself as little as possible. Sound weird, right? But like somebody else said "you are now doing jihaad against ur nafs." For a person who hasn't read the Quran in a long time or prayed, I think it's going to be very difficult to begin this jihaad by yourself. When you are alone, Shaitain's whispers are very very loud. "Whose going to see you? Whose going to know you missed your prayer? whose going to blah blah." It's easy to forget that on Day of Judgement your own lips, skins, hands, eyes, and feet will testify against yourself. It's easy to forget that you are not invisible and that actually..........Allah does see you. So! It is my opinion that whenever you are alone, you keep yourself occupied.........^remember that buddy i told you about? Make sure he doesn't mind you calling him 24/7 cause in the beginning you're prolly going to need to talk to somebody.
Also: let's say you listen to music (not wanting to start a discussion on it): maybe next to your computer (if that's where your music is) you can post this aya: *or any other aya that you feel will remind you to stop*:
"O man! What has seduced thee from thy Lord Most Beneficent?- " (82:6)
And lastly:
On the authority of Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him), who said that the Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said: Allah (mighty and sublime be He) said:
Whosoever shows enmity to someone devoted to Me, I shall be at war with him.
My servant draws not near to Me with anything more loved by Me than the religious duties I have enjoined upon him, and My servant continues to draw near to Me with supererogatory works so that I shall love him. When I love him I am his hearing with which he hears, his seeing with which he sees, his hand with which he strikes and his foot with which he walks. Were he to ask [something] of Me, I would surely give it to him, and were he to ask Me for refuge, I would surely grant him it. I do not hesitate about anything as much as I hesitate about [seizing] the soul of My faithful servant: he hates death and I hate hurting him.
It was related by al-Bukhari.
May we all be of those whom Allah loves,
insh Allah.