I was going to post this earlier, but I didn’t have the time to so…
Originally Posted by salman786
I feel the same way sometimes. It's harder for us Muslimahs who do cover up to see sisters not completely dressed in an Islamic manner because we could be judged as a majority because of a few individuals. There have been many times, because of other Muslimah individuals, where I was asked by nonMuslims "Why don't you wear makeup and regular clothes like the other girls that wear that thing?"
and upon explaining they say "Oh, I was about to say! So why do they even wear it? It loses its point."
And I think, Subhanallah, if I never had explained it, I or another sister would have been judged differently. Like I say, sometimes you may be the only Islam someone may witness.
I will not defend the publicity of what some sisters portray, because as a Muslim, I'm not allowed to do that, I judge by what I can clearly see and Allah is the Judge of their true intentions. That by no way means that I treat them in a mean way or anything, but I do ask Allah subhana wa ta'ala for their guidance and I always encourage sisters to wear it explaining the benefits. I will also say that sisters who are trying hard to change, or to raise their iman a bit higher, it shows--it shows a lot, even if they aren't dressed Islamically. There's modesty, humbleness, islamic mannerism, quest for knowledge, and many other qualities that define a Muslimah, it isn't just in her hijaab. Hijaab is just a uniform, to what benefit is the hijaab without the Islamic qualities?
In ayah 34 in Surah Nur, Allah subhana wa ta'ala says in order:
And tell the believing women...
1. To lower the gaze;
2. Guard your modesty;
3. To keep from displaying any ornaments, other than what may appear thereof;
4. and to cover themselves in the presence of a nonMahrem
I think there is a reasoning behind the order of that ayah. If a woman lowers her gaze, she will build modesty in herself, and moreso if she continues by putting that modesty in practice by preventing any attention to herself, then she will then WANT to cover herself naturally, without any influences except that within herself. Imagine! A sister who will do something completely for the sake of Allah and stick through it without any doubt of removing it because she thinks she will look unattractive or be unjustly judged, Allahu Akbar!
That is how some sisters that wear the hijaab, update to a niqaab and cover even their face and hands. If you can get 3/4ths of that Ayah into practice, there's no doubt a sister won't be able to wear the full hijaab with ease
. Shyness is one of the strongest feelings that prevents a human being to do a lot, even if the entire world is against his/her judgement.
Just a reminder before people start attacking the brother for this thread,
I find it odd,
when I see hijabis but they are wearing tight tops and skinny jeans.
I have nothing against how people dress, because I dont wear the hijab etc
but it is like, why wear the hijaab and be modestly dressed only from the head?
He didn't even give a bad judgment, rather he just opened up an important topic to be discussed. I think if more brothers encouraged sisters to wear the hijaab, and acted upon that encouragement by lowering their gazes, defending them when ridiculed, and supporting them, there would be a lot more sisters who would wear the hijaab. It may sound weird, but some
are just waiting for encouragement and guidance--from the brothers. But sadly, some sisters easily attack brothers for trying to do that too saying "It's none of your business, I'll wear what I want, this is between me and Allah! You don’t know how hard it is to even be this far…etc" No sisters, it is his business, he's a brother fillah, and his word is valid as a concerned and obeying Muslim. We shouldn’t send mixed signals, so inshallah do not discourage them, even if they may be harsh in their tone, because we need more like them!
Just the same though, sisters shouldn't always expect to be praised for doing something obligatory, this is a duty to Allah subhana wa ta'ala, meaning its worthy enough to be rewarded and blessed enough to have a major
benefit. So why pass it up?
fi aman Allah