From What Age Are You Allowed To Marry In Islam?

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Best to my knowledge from the age of puberty.
Evidence from the Marriage of Aisha (ra)

Allah Knows best.
 
i am 18 at the moment and i cant wait to get married!, its the best thing a young man/women, can do!, i am just waiting to start uni (very soon), and then its looking for my future wife:P, most people excuse to not get married at a young age is the issue with money and not willing to take responsibilities!?, but that does not make alot of sense to me
 
oeps sorry!, i misunderstood the question!! looool, i thought what age do you want to get married haha, yea its after you hit puberty, then its strongly recommended to get married,
 
But the age of puberty is not in agreement with the legal age in many Western countries (18 here in the UK, or 16 with parental consent).

Do Muslims marry earlier than that, even if they live in the UK?
Certainly consumating the marriage at such age would equate to underage sex, which is illegal and punishable with imprisonment!
 
glo said:
But the age of puberty is not in agreement with the legal age in many Western countries (18 here in the UK, or 16 with parental consent).

Do Muslims marry earlier than that, even if they live in the UK?
Certainly consumating the marriage at such age would equate to underage sex, which is illegal and punishable with imprisonment!
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ahh illegal to who? the law of man, or the law of god?
 
glo said:
But the age of puberty is not in agreement with the legal age in many Western countries (18 here in the UK, or 16 with parental consent).

Do Muslims marry earlier than that, even if they live in the UK?
Certainly consumating the marriage at such age would equate to underage sex, which is illegal and punishable with imprisonment!
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Erm regarding muslims marrying earlier than 16/18yrs of age in the UK I'm not sure of. However I do know that in other countries, some people get married in their early teens say 13/14yrs - and that is seen as norm.

'Legal' age varies between countries, at the end of the day the UK law is a man made law, and doesn't apply to the whole world.... can't put into words the rest of my thoughts for some strange reason...
 
rph105 said:
ahh illegal to who? the law of man, or the law of god?
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Well, that's really why I am asking.

Clearly, the Islamic law is at odds with the British law here.
That's why I am interested to hear what Muslims in Britain do.
Marry outside the legal age, or comply with the secular law?
(After all, waiting until 16 does not break Islamic law ...)

Do you know the answer to my question?

Peace
 
mestiza said:
Erm regarding muslims marrying earlier than 16/18yrs of age in the UK I'm not sure of. However I do know that in other countries, some people get married in their early teens say 13/14yrs - and that is seen as norm.
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I understand that, mestiza.
I am specifically interested in the age Muslim in Britain choose to get married at.
It would be interesting to see some statistics, don't you think?

(Incidentally, my daughter is 13, and will be 14 soon.
If she wanted to get married, I would tell her something else!! No way does she have the maturity (physicall or mentally) - but that's just me speaking as a mother, and it's irrelevant to this post, really. :X)

Peace
 
glo said:
Well, that's really why I am asking.

Clearly, the Islamic law is at odds with the British law here.
That's why I am interested to hear what Muslims in Britain do.
Marry outside the legal age, or comply with the secular law?
(After all, waiting until 16 does not break Islamic law ...)

Do you know the answer to my question?

Peace
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you could marry under islamic rules, without informing the british law. after hitting puberty tho! so its normal for 2 people even in britian to get married at an age of as low as 16, i havent see alot of 15 or lower, but it probally happens, non muslim people usually refer to it as boyfriend-girlfriend, we refer to it as marriage i see no difference except one stops the spread of corruption. hopes this answers ur question, and allah knows best!. forgive me for any spelling mistake i type careless and fast:P
 
Dear glo

raising the 'age of consent' even by western standards only occured last century
have a look here
http://womhist.alexanderstreet.com/teacher/aoc.htm

American reformers were shocked to discover that the laws of most states set the age of consent at the age of ten or twelve, and in one state, Delaware, the age of consent was only seven. Women reformers and advocates of social purity initiated a campaign in 1885 to petition legislators to raise the legal age of consent to at least sixteen, although their ultimate goal was to raise the age to eighteen. The campaign was eventually quite successful; by 1920, almost all states had raised the age of consent to sixteen or eighteen.
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I say get married when you are good and ready..
I have seen them pass birth control pills to 11 year olds, and I have seen pregnant 12 year olds.. think if they can have sex, frankly they should be married..

my two cents

cheers
 
glo said:
Well, that's really why I am asking.

Clearly, the Islamic law is at odds with the British law here.
That's why I am interested to hear what Muslims in Britain do.
Marry outside the legal age, or comply with the secular law?
(After all, waiting until 16 does not break Islamic law ...)

Do you know the answer to my question?

Peace
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It isn't an Islamic law to marry off teens once they hit puberty, I'm not sure if it's advised however, by Islamic scholars. I think it's common for some muslims in the UK to marry 'young' i.e. 18 onwards, some for reasons that the only way to have a 'legal'/pure relationship (no such thing as a girlfriend/boyfriend relationship in Islam) is through marriage. I know a few people who have married young (17/18/19) and are muslims.
 
here is another
School Approves Birth Control Pills for 11- to 13-Year-Olds
http://www.cnsnews.com/ViewCulture.asp?Page=/Culture/archive/200710/CUL20071018c.html


Again... I have no set age in mind for how old people should be when they get married, my sis got married in her thirties, I don't think it is up to anyone to decide what age is appropriate really.. but I do have a problem with the hypocrisy that disables you from getting married at puberty but allows you to put foreign hormons to halt unwanted pregnancies... It is a bit odd to me frankly...

cheers
 
glo said:
I understand that, mestiza.
I am specifically interested in the age Muslim in Britain choose to get married at.
It would be interesting to see some statistics, don't you think?

(Incidentally, my daughter is 13, and will be 14 soon.
If she wanted to get married, I would tell her something else!! No way does she have the maturity (physicall or mentally) - but that's just me speaking as a mother, and it's irrelevant to this post, really. :X)

Peace
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I would like to as well.

Personally likewise, if I had a daughter/son in their early teens, I would tell her/him to sit down and do their homework if they even considered marriage at that age. :enough!:
 
There is not actual year age. It is all dependent upon physical development. The MINIMUM age for marriage is the onset of puberty. a person is not required to get married then. that is just the minimum age for marriage. If that age happens to occur at an age older than the state minimum requirement they would have to wait until older than the state age to marry. If it occurs before the State minimum age, they must follow the state law.
 
isn't a type of marriage known as "misyar" sometimes done, when the kids are both young and still living at home and unable to set up their own household?
 
snakelegs said:
isn't a type of marriage known as "misyar" sometimes done, when the kids are both young and still living at home and unable to set up their own household?
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That is done at times.If done properly it is very beneficial. For example it can be the means young people can marry and not jeopardize their education. Far better they marry as students living with parents and build both a marriage and an education, then to try to handle an education and the problems associated with hiding an intimate relationship
 

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