MANY things are mandated by Allah, not just the hijab for women. Every Muslim makes a choice to either obey or disobey and some are ignorant. So there is actually a choice and no person can force another to obey Allah. Each individual has to mature and wise up (is that even a proper term? lol) in their due time. Allah guides who he wills.
So although hijab is not optional, a person can choose to disobey.
There is also alot of emphasis on the headscarf as the hijab. Not long ago we had a sister pose for playboy in her hijab wearing a deep red lipstick with her legs not closed... let's not forget that. This is so called empowerment of the hijab
and there were TONS of Muslim women who supported this! They didn't stop to think about the big picture, just about the scarf itself.
There are many women who are not even Muslim ( Amish, Pentecostals and Mennonites) who dress modestly as to not show their figure and they don't mix with men. So really, it is about how people are raised and THAT is where the focus should be. In the homes of Muslims. Men are suppose to be in charge of who comes in their home and this isn't just people, but also influences.
Men allow their women to roam facebook without any sort of say in the matter (usually they are too busy doing it themselves!), they allow soap operas in the house, they allow their wives and daughters to be friends with bad influences. They have no backbone and say nothing if their wives and daughters leave their home with inappropriate clothing... or they address them in a harsh manner to where they are oppressive. No balance.
It is a big responsibility and our men are failing in this department (sorry brothers). So, I say focus on yourself as a man and a leader (or future leader) of your home. Focus on what you can do to be the change and not on what others should or should not be doing.
My dad has always commented on my attire (I'm a convert by the way). I had the internet cut off many times as a teen, I got my car taken away permanently... the list goes on lol. ALHAMDULLILAH for a father who cared.
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