Probably a lame thread title but by that I mean intercultural marriages...
What do you think...Do you think the intolerance we see today....(When it comes to parents) will disappear over time?
Do you think that when it comes to us being parents, them prejudices will have vanished or do you think there is wisdom in sticking to your own culture/background etc and never experiencing the richness of another
Why do you think these prejudices exist...There is no nationalism or tribalism or racism in Islam...so why?? :enough!:
Have you personally married out of the culture and if yes did you face any difficulties/hardships/barriers?
I believe that we aren't allowed to give zakat money to sayyids, either.
Yeah, I just asked my mom about them, she told me that too. Zakat, sadaqa, anything besides a gift is not allowed to be given to them. I know them as "ahl al bayt" (people of the house), not sure if that's the word for them in arabic.
No, it's not a hadith. Just a book written on religious law by the scholar Ashraf Ali Thanwi. But I think he was just using the Sayyids and Shaykhs as example names to get across the point that the children take the father's name/lineage.
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I believe that we aren't allowed to give zakat money to sayyids, either.
Really? ....You learn somethin new every day.
‘Say: If the ocean were ink wherewith to write out the words of my Lord, sooner would the ocean be exhausted, even if We added another ocean like it.’~Al Qu'raan (18:109)
''The child is an extension of his father and the bearer of his characteristics. During his lifetime he is the joy of his father's eyes, while after his death he represents a continuation of his existence.''
^^ If you click on this link and read the rest of it, you'll notice that basically what the author is trying to say is the child continues on their father's lineage, which I was I was trying to get at this whole time.
The rest of it I don't agree with at all, I only agree with the part that I've quoted (well only slightly).
I also had some evidence from a book I had about lineage in Islaam, but it seems I can't find it.
Anyway, I hope this sums up what I've been saying this whole time.
Yes, a child can be the 'continuation' of the father after he has passed away, but it takes more than just sperm to make a baby. Two sets of chromosomes are in that child, the child could be a mirror image of the mother, in both physical aspects, as well as 'mental qualities and traits'. So no matter how much the father (and perhaps mother) want and expect the child to be a replica of his father, in culture, tradition, mindset, etc. he/she will still be affected by his mother, even moreso than they would by the father i would say, since the mother is the main person who raises the child.
So yeah, what was said in those two links doesn't cite any islamic evidence or sources, it's merely the opinion of whoever wrote it. I'm not saying that it is wrong for a person to take after their father, if the mother wants that, then so be it, but by no means is it "islamically" right that that happen.
Again, maybe we're just disagreeing because we had different ideas of "lineage". Like I said before, lineage =/= cultures and traditions, for me anyway.
I don't think anyone's doubting that biologically, a child is gentically half the mother and half the father, and therefore the child's phenotype will show both side's of his/her's heritage. But the child takes the last name of the father, and is carrying on his family name rather than the mother's. That's all.
‘Say: If the ocean were ink wherewith to write out the words of my Lord, sooner would the ocean be exhausted, even if We added another ocean like it.’~Al Qu'raan (18:109)
I'm not doubting that either, what I am doubting is thatislamicallya child must fulfill the traditions and culture of his father while ignoring those of his mother.
Oh ok. Then yeah, I agree. That isn't morally correct or islamic to completely ignore your mother's side/culture/traditions.
Last edited by Banu_Hashim; 12-11-2008 at 02:26 PM.
‘Say: If the ocean were ink wherewith to write out the words of my Lord, sooner would the ocean be exhausted, even if We added another ocean like it.’~Al Qu'raan (18:109)
I don't think anyone's doubting that biologically, a child is gentically half the mother and half the father, and therefore the child's phenotype will show both side's of his/her's heritage. But the child takes the last name of the father, and is carrying on his family name rather than the mother's. That's all.
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