Seeing that there are quite a few marriage threads around, i'll add one...
What questions would you ask a potential partner?
This question has been on my mind for a while, and i know that it will depend on the persons but, on the whole which are questions that will help you get a better understanding of the person and his/her likes or dislikes?
I would ask whether or not he would let me work.. That would tell alot about his attitude towards women huh??
huh?
i dont want my wife to work, at the same time i wont stop her if she insists on working for say a school (primary not secondary or islamic) or something which requires no mixing with opp gender but i would insist when complications arise (helping family/pregnancy etc)
what does that tell you about my attitude towards women? seriously i wanna know
Assalamu ALaikum
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My tears testify that i have a heart
yet i feel me and shaytan never part
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Well maybe I have a very biased opinion because of my upbringing, where girls are expected to be housewives and nothing more, and thats what most of the men expect too! But honestly, if my potential partner expected that of me, I would refuse, since I want to be a nurse I cant years off work and go back when I want like teachers, I'd get kicked off the nursing register and never allowed back and thats something I dont want.
Oh, I can think of a question or two... Or several thousand.
I'll edit some into this post as I think of them.
-How many times a day does he pray at the masjid?
-How much quran does he know, is he willing to learn more?
-How important is travel to him?
-What role does he expect the woman to have in running a household? And the man?
-What does he think of my photography? (not whether he likes it or not, but how supportive he will be if i want to pursue a hobby/career in it)
-Does he have a temper?
-Where does he want to live, and for how long?
-Goals in life?
-When he makes a mistake, does he apologize?
-Does he smoke? (if yes, it's a definite no, unless he quits)
-Does he ever consider having more than one wife?
-I'll ask random subtle questions to try to figure out what comes first for him, culture or islam.
-Describe the person he wants to marry.
-Are the Jews behind everything bad that happens in the muslim/arab world?
-Are the Americans behind everything bad that happens in the muslim/arab world?
Well maybe I have a very biased opinion because of my upbringing, where girls are expected to be housewives and nothing more,.
subhanAllah you demean the position of wife and mother so much where our prophet sallallahi alaihi wasallaam raised their position so high by saying "he who is best to his wife is best of men" and "below the mothers feet lies jannah"...
"men are expected to work their asses off, nothing more" (bring home money n take care o stuff etc)
^ see how that sounds!
please try not to think like that inshAllah.
Assalamu Alaikum
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My tears testify that i have a heart
yet i feel me and shaytan never part
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and thats another thing, i would wanna know what his mothers like, I know too many people who's lives are made miserable because of their mother-in-laws.. if his mums a cow, forget it lol!
i dont like serious, during such meetings people get sooo tense and awkward and then you wanna throw serious into that bag n mix it? no thanks
Sure ppl are tense, but you dnt have to be dead serious, you may be with the person for life why not try and see for yourself what they're like? I guess a joke or 2 would be fine but to only joke? Nah.
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and thats another thing, i would wanna know what his mothers like, I know too many people who's lives are made miserable because of their mother-in-laws.. if his mums a cow, forget it lol!
Hey sis, i'm with you there. There are two sets of mom-inlaws the horrible kind and the nice. Girls here seem to worry about the inlaws than the boy!
Someone said to the Prophet, "Pray to God against the idolaters and curse them." The Prophet replied, "I have been sent to show mercy and have not been sent to curse." (Muslim)
Someone said to the Prophet, "Pray to God against the idolaters and curse them." The Prophet replied, "I have been sent to show mercy and have not been sent to curse." (Muslim)
Please don't let this become some sort of repository for lame chat-up lines...
Anyway, my questions:
1) How many angels dance on the head of a pin?
2) How long is a piece of string?
3) Who would win if a pirate and ninja fought?
4) Do you like eggs?
5) What are your bank details?
If she fails to answer these questions because of shock, she has an incompatible sense of humour and must find someone else.
If she fails to answer these questions because of laughter, she is my mother.
If she answers these questions seriously, she has an incompatible senses of humour and must find someone else. After I have withdrawn £200 from her bank account.
If she answers these questions jokingly, but fails to make me laugh, she is incompatible and possibly my father.
If she answer these questions jokingly and makes me laugh, it is a practical joke.
you probably and most useful really is ask of their medical history.. especially in the middle east where AIDS is on the rise as is the quest for virgins
UNAIDS estimates that 75,000 people from the Middle East and North Africa were newly infected with HIV/AIDS in 2003 alone, while 24,000 adults and children died from the disease in the same year. Moreover, the quality of the available data is seriously lacking. No country in the Middle East and North Africa conducts systematic surveys of groups at high risk of infection. As a consequence, the UNAIDS estimate of the total number of HIV/AIDS cases in the region lies within a very broad range of possible cases, from 200,000 to 1.4 million people.[1] Only 5 percent of Middle Easterners and North Africans who need anti-retroviral treatment receive it.[2]
anyone can feign religiosity really..
and Allah swt knows best
Text without context is pretext If your opponent is of choleric temperament, seek to irritate him
honestly ........ I will ask the following in the same order:
1. how many times you pray in masjid?
2. do you like to fast nafl?
3. what is your family to you (parents & sibling)?
4. what is the most thing made u upset?
5. what do you expect from me?
6. what do you think I expect from you?
5. what is your perspective of the other religions
*since I have the interest on the other religions*
7. how much time during the day you like to use computer
*supposing by default that he will be a computer Geek as me *
8. what are the cultures that you like to know more?
*have the interest as well*
and thats all.........feel pity for him
Edit: OMG Amat al Wadud you will need a week to get answers to all those questions
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