1. Al-Annaanah:
The woman who whines, moans and complains and 'ties a band around her head' all the time (i.e. complains of a headache or some illness but in reality she is not sick, rather she is faking).
2. Al-Mannaanah:
The woman who bestows favours, gifts, etc. upon her husband then (at that time or the future) says; "I did such and such for you or on your behalf or because of you.
3. Al-Hannaanah:
The women who yearns or craves for her former husband or children of the former husband.
4. Kay'atul-Qafaa:
The women who has a brand mark on the nape of her neck (i.e. has a bad reputation or doubts about her).
5. Al-Haddaaqah:
The women who cast her eyes at things (i.e. always looking at something to purchase, then desires it and requires her husband to buy it (No Matter What).
6. Al-Barraaqah:
The women who spends much of her day enhancing her face and beautifying it to such an extent that it will seem like it was manufactured.
7. Al-Shaddaaqah:
The woman who talks excessively.
Taken from the Book: 'A Concise Manual of Marriage' by Shaykh Uthaymeen
Narrated Abu Huraira: The Prophet said, "A woman is married for four things, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be A losers.
Wedlock, Marriage (Nikaah) [62:27]
Tunkahul mar'atu li arba'in (a woman is married for 4 things): Li-Maaliha (for her wealth), wa li-hasabiha (her family status), wa li-jamaaliha (for her beauty), wa li-deeniha (for her religion). Fadh-far bi dhaatid deen (so you should marry the religious one) taribat yadaak ([otherwise] you will be losers)
I believe that hadith is enough. Do shiek write what kind of men a woman shouldn't marry?
It is not Al-Birr (piety, righteousness, and obedience to Allâh, etc.) that you turn your faces towards east and (or) west (in prayers); but Al-Birr is (the quality of) the one who believes in Allâh, the Last Day, the Angels, the Book, the Prophets and gives his wealth, in spite of love for it, to the kinsfolk, to the orphans, and to Al-Masâkîn (the poor), and to the wayfarer, and to those who ask, and to set slaves free, performs As-Salât, and gives the Zakât, and keep their word whenever they make a promise, and who are patient in extreme poverty and ailment (disease) and at the time of persecution, hardship, and war. Such are the people of the truth and they are Al-Muttaqûn (the pious).
What do I think about the thread? I think she's a strong personality and thats it....?
format_quote Originally Posted by MO783
Nice,
here are some hadits regarding marraige;
Narrated Abu Huraira: The Prophet said, "A woman is married for four things, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be A losers.
Wedlock, Marriage (Nikaah) [62:27]
Tunkahul mar'atu li arba'in (a woman is married for 4 things): Li-Maaliha (for her wealth), wa li-hasabiha (her family status), wa li-jamaaliha (for her beauty), wa li-deeniha (for her religion). Fadh-far bi dhaatid deen (so you should marry the religious one) taribat yadaak ([otherwise] you will be losers)
JazakAllah khayr
format_quote Originally Posted by Chuck
I believe that hadith is enough. Do shiek write what kind of men a woman shouldn't marry?
where in this thread? I mean something like "don't marry 7 types of men"
It is not Al-Birr (piety, righteousness, and obedience to Allâh, etc.) that you turn your faces towards east and (or) west (in prayers); but Al-Birr is (the quality of) the one who believes in Allâh, the Last Day, the Angels, the Book, the Prophets and gives his wealth, in spite of love for it, to the kinsfolk, to the orphans, and to Al-Masâkîn (the poor), and to the wayfarer, and to those who ask, and to set slaves free, performs As-Salât, and gives the Zakât, and keep their word whenever they make a promise, and who are patient in extreme poverty and ailment (disease) and at the time of persecution, hardship, and war. Such are the people of the truth and they are Al-Muttaqûn (the pious).
Of course I want to get married again. And if anyone out there is unmarried, of course, you too, should want to marry and make an effort in this respect. For did not the Rasool of Allah Sallallahu alayhi wassallam tell us, 'Marriage is a sunnah (way) of mine, and whoever does not follow my Sunnah is not of my followers. Get married because I will display your outnumbering the other nations on the Day of Resurrection. Whoever has wealth should get married, and whoever does not should fast, because fasting is a restraint (of desire) for him.' (Ibn Maajah, authenticated by Al-Albaanee)
And this beautiful union has undeniable benefits. Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'ala has told us in the Qur'aan: 'And among His signs is that He created for you, from yourselves, spouses that you may dwell (in joy and security) unto them, and He set between you love and mercy; surely in that are signs for those who reflect.' (Surah Ar-Room 30:21)
And: 'They are a garment for you and you are a garment for them.' (Surah Al-Baqarah 2:187)
I guess her post is encouragement for those who are down because they're not yet wed?
where in this thread? I mean something like "don't marry 7 types of men"
Oh I'm sorry, lol I misread ur post.
Yeah there's a hadeeth that goes something like, marry your daughter to a pious man for if he loves her he will treat her well and if he doesnt he wont oppress her....Something along those lines anyway. Wallahu A'lam.
The shaykh didn't write that, the translator simply inserted an arabic saying in the footnotes. Sorry for repeating myself, but I just want to clear that up. The book is actually based on a lecture that the shaykh gave, rahimahullaah.
And Umm Shaheed, I dont know but maybe she keeps expressing her yearning before her current husband....and which husband would like that? Wallahu A'lam
WassalamuAlaykum
yh i was thinking about this before and realized that it says her former husband, not her deceased husband ...so maybe she would be divorced...but i dont get the bit about her kids tho hmmm and yh i agree with what u say about the yearning, i think if she were divorced it may be a little insulting to her hubbi...
Last edited by Ummu Sufyaan; 01-29-2009 at 09:42 AM.
...desperate for husnul-khitaam...
please make dua that Allah grants me a good end (to my life). please make dua that Allah guides me.
2. Al-Mannaanah:
The woman who bestows favours, gifts, etc. upon her husband then (at that time or the future) says; "I did such and such for you or on your behalf or because of you.
How one can sense that her prospective wife could be of this kind? Hope the learned shaykh would have given some tips for would-be-husbands.
3. Al-Hannaanah:
The women who yearns or craves for her former husband or children of the former husband.
Again one would need a manual to detect Al-Hannaanah.
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Kay'atul-Qafaa:
The women who has a brand mark on the nape of her neck (i.e. has a bad reputation or doubts about her).
Unbecoming statement from one who has got Shaykh affixed before his name. Very unislamic in my views to judge a woman by a mark on her nape.
5. Al-Haddaaqah:
The women who cast her eyes at things (i.e. always looking at something to purchase, then desires it and requires her husband to buy it (No Matter What).
Again how one is going the judge Al-Haddaqah? (Hope Shykh was not kidding)
use ur common and read the bit in brackets! its a figure of speech!
oh i don't know! maybe the tendency that some women have habits overspending and abusing her husbands wealth!
Sis how can one research about a woman whether she bestows favours on her husband and than sing about that? and that too before marrying her. Isnt it a dodgy situation? At least my common sense says that.
Kay'atul-Qafaa:
The women who has a brand mark on the nape of her neck (i.e. has a bad reputation or doubts about her).
Check it out Sis, it clearly says brand mark on the nape of her neck, is this firure of speech or some not-so-modest indication? Words in the bracket says has a bad reputation or doubts about her. I dont think that its very fair to reject any woman just coz of some doubts. I dont want to go into details but douts have been raised against most pious womans too, U can urself find the refrences.
And regarding few of those women who have tendency of abusing their husband's wealth can only be detected once they are married. So whats the use of such kind of foolish advice?
[PIE]1. Al-Annaanah:
The woman who whines, moans and complains and 'ties a band around her head' all the time (i.e. complains of a headache or some illness but in reality she is not sick, rather she is faking).
2. Al-Mannaanah:
The woman who bestows favours, gifts, etc. upon her husband then (at that time or the future) says; "I did such and such for you or on your behalf or because of you.
3. Al-Hannaanah:
The women who yearns or craves for her former husband or children of the former husband.
4. Kay'atul-Qafaa:
The women who has a brand mark on the nape of her neck (i.e. has a bad reputation or doubts about her).
5. Al-Haddaaqah:
The women who cast her eyes at things (i.e. always looking at something to purchase, then desires it and requires her husband to buy it (No Matter What).
6. Al-Barraaqah:
The women who spends much of her day enhancing her face and beautifying it to such an extent that it will seem like it was manufactured.
7. Al-Shaddaaqah:
The woman who talks excessively.
Taken from the Book: 'A Concise Manual of Marriage' by Shaykh Uthaymeen[/PIE]
...I wonder at the one who extends his right hand
To his beloved at the time of seperation and he hastens therein!
I felt weak and incapable of saying farewell when I saw him
So my heart shook his hand whilst my eye wept....
1. Al-Annaanah:
The woman who whines, moans and complains and 'ties a band around her head' all the time (i.e. complains of a headache or some illness but in reality she is not sick, rather she is faking).
...I wonder at the one who extends his right hand
To his beloved at the time of seperation and he hastens therein!
I felt weak and incapable of saying farewell when I saw him
So my heart shook his hand whilst my eye wept....
1. Al-Annaanah: The woman who whines, moans and complains and 'ties a band around her head' all the time (i.e. complains of a headache or some illness but in reality she is not sick, rather she is faking).
2. Al-Mannaanah: The woman who bestows favours, gifts, etc. upon her husband then (at that time or the future) says; "I did such and such for you or on your behalf or because of you.
3. Al-Hannaanah: The women who yearns or craves for her former husband or children of the former husband.
4. Kay'atul-Qafaa: The women who has a brand mark on the nape of her neck (i.e. has a bad reputation or doubts about her).
5. Al-Haddaaqah: The women who cast her eyes at things (i.e. always looking at something to purchase, then desires it and requires her husband to buy it (No Matter What).
6. Al-Barraaqah: The women who spends much of her day enhancing her face and beautifying it to such an extent that it will seem like it was manufactured.
7. Al-Shaddaaqah: The woman who talks excessively. .
Taken from the Book: 'A Concise Manual of Marriage' by Shaykh Ibn Uthaymeen
قال احمد بن حنبل
لا تقلدنى ولا تقلد مالكا ولا شافعى ولا اوزاعى ولا الثورى وخذ من حيث اخذوا
Agree with everything said in the email, where do we find such a girl / woman?
If somebody knows a woman as such who is opposite of what Sh. Uthaimeen has mentioned in the topic, please recommend to me. I am looking for a someone for my br in law.
In my view we will know of such behaviour on the women's part - only - after we marry such a woman !!!
Anyways this article is more of enlightement to woman on "Characteristics to avoid after marriage"
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