^ The reason people like myself aren't married. :P
Seriously though, it's a mandatory gift that the groom has to give the bride. Usually its an amount of money. She is allowed to ask for how much she wants.
“Do not argue with your Lord on behalf of your soul, rather argue with your soul on behalf of your Lord.” - Dhul-Nun
"It is the very pursuit of happiness that thwarts happiness." - Victor Frankl
And as for the onewho fears standing in front of His Lord and restrainsthe soul from impure evil desires and lusts, verily, Paradise will be his abode [79:40-41]
***** قال ابن أبي مليكة : أدركت ثلاثين من أصحاب النبي - صلى الله عليه وسلم - كلهم يخاف النفاق على نفسه
Ibn Abī Mulaykah said: "I encountered thirty Companions of the Prophet, every one of them fearing hypocrisy for himself." [Muslim]
a kiss & a happy life, atm, I'm broke working on it though.
but usually people where I come from ask for something like $20k-$25k. atleast..well not atleast, but it's not uncommon. it really depends whether the two families are marrying or only the bride and groom, get my drift..
bro Abu Sayyad, don't worry, it's all worth it, when's the happy news?
Hmmmm hard question, I doubt most practicing sisters are materialistic so I don't know. I'd probably just ask for some jewelery lol (not too expensive though, like maybe a gold bracelet and necklace; it doesn't have to be real gold either).
Can the brother not ask the bride what she wants or must the brothers find out himself ? or is that too embarrassing to ask
And as for the onewho fears standing in front of His Lord and restrainsthe soul from impure evil desires and lusts, verily, Paradise will be his abode [79:40-41]
it depends on the....
country the bride from
culture or background society of her
the level of her family......many girls from rich family dont ask for a little amount of many, but there are always exceptions
here, usually they the groom give the bride a specific amount of money and she can buy whatever she want.....some grooms give golds in addition of money....people are crazy about golds here
so the same goes for me, I will expect a specific amount of money but it has to come from a "real Da'ee"
dont care about how much, men deal with such things "fathers and brothers" so I dont bother myself that much
If I was forced to ask for something, I'd ask for the sunnah amount....is it like £200 or something? Other than that, whats yours is mine and whats mine is yours dude, and thats all there is to it for me.
Some people say that you should ask for a considerable amount, as a fall-back incase something goes wrong, but subhanAllah you need to get married b4 thinking of things going wrong, and u cant get married if you ask for a 6 figure amount can ya.
Hmm there was a thread like this on ummah, lemme find my posts insha'Allah
If I was forced to ask for something, I'd ask for the sunnah amount....is it like £200 or something? Other than that, whats yours is mine and whats mine is yours dude, and thats all there is to it for me.
MashaAllaah, if the majority of sisters hold the same outlook, then maybe the brothers dont have to spend the first couple of years just paying off the Mahr!!
***** قال ابن أبي مليكة : أدركت ثلاثين من أصحاب النبي - صلى الله عليه وسلم - كلهم يخاف النفاق على نفسه
Ibn Abī Mulaykah said: "I encountered thirty Companions of the Prophet, every one of them fearing hypocrisy for himself." [Muslim]
Ah here are my ummah posts, kinda dumb when taken out of context but there ya go:
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Erm.....lol ok
Personally....I wouldnt wanna take 10k from him. And this isnt being naive or anything but....I dunno dude, why add that financial stress on him? Just want to be happy with him innit and thats it insha'Allah :blind:
WassalamuAlaykum
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Sis just because you're leaving your home dont mean you gotta drain him of cash. Not as though he's tryna fill the void of u having to move outta ur house and leaving fam. Yeh its ur fallback and thats a good point....but its his duty also to provide for you. So some may not bother as much about a ginourmous mahr.
I dont get why people gotta be so materialistic though, I really dont know.
And as for the onewho fears standing in front of His Lord and restrainsthe soul from impure evil desires and lusts, verily, Paradise will be his abode [79:40-41]
her money is my money innit so my money is her money, so basically if she buys a mansion with it that means its also my mansion.
so she putting me and herself into trouble with asking for that amount money.
...unless she buys a dress for 10k
And as for the onewho fears standing in front of His Lord and restrainsthe soul from impure evil desires and lusts, verily, Paradise will be his abode [79:40-41]
She needs to realise marriage is all about give and take (and not just money)...Just as its difficult for her leaving her home and all that she knows, it'll be equally difficult for him having to take on the responsibility of another person and maybe a family bi'ithnillah
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working on it though.
Hmmmm hard question, I doubt most practicing sisters are materialistic so I don't know. I'd probably just ask for some jewelery lol (not too expensive though, like maybe a gold bracelet and necklace; it doesn't have to be real gold either).
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