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    So married people, can you tell us what you think reasonable and practical mahr is? Sisters? Brothers?

    In general, because I'm sure it's not right to ask for specifics..

    And non married sisters, what would you ask for?

    Brothers, what are you planning on giving?
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    Re: Reasonable and Practical Mahr?

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    Re: Reasonable and Practical Mahr?

    ^ The reason people like myself aren't married. :P

    Seriously though, it's a mandatory gift that the groom has to give the bride. Usually its an amount of money. She is allowed to ask for how much she wants.
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    Re: Reasonable and Practical Mahr?

    All I will say is I promised Aabidah the ring of her choice. I am in big trouble. It will take me another 10 years to save enough to pay for it.

    However, she did sign the Nikkah with the promise she will get it.

    Her choices of what she desired is a Qur'an and a husband with strong de'en.
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    Re: Reasonable and Practical Mahr?

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    Re: Reasonable and Practical Mahr?

    Then I'll give her two rings. The first one will be a crappy one then when she frowns I'll give her a diamond set (inshAllah if I have enough money).
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    Re: Reasonable and Practical Mahr?

    This should be interesting....
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    Re: Reasonable and Practical Mahr?

    a kiss & a happy life, atm, I'm broke working on it though.
    but usually people where I come from ask for something like $20k-$25k. atleast..well not atleast, but it's not uncommon. it really depends whether the two families are marrying or only the bride and groom, get my drift..
    bro Abu Sayyad, don't worry, it's all worth it, when's the happy news?
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    Re: Reasonable and Practical Mahr?

    Hmmmm hard question, I doubt most practicing sisters are materialistic so I don't know. I'd probably just ask for some jewelery lol (not too expensive though, like maybe a gold bracelet and necklace; it doesn't have to be real gold either).
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    Re: Reasonable and Practical Mahr?

    Can the brother not ask the bride what she wants or must the brothers find out himself ? or is that too embarrassing to ask
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    Re: Reasonable and Practical Mahr?

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    Re: Reasonable and Practical Mahr?

    it depends on the....
    country the bride from
    culture or background society of her
    the level of her family......many girls from rich family dont ask for a little amount of many, but there are always exceptions

    here, usually they the groom give the bride a specific amount of money and she can buy whatever she want.....some grooms give golds in addition of money....people are crazy about golds here

    so the same goes for me, I will expect a specific amount of money but it has to come from a "real Da'ee"

    dont care about how much, men deal with such things "fathers and brothers" so I dont bother myself that much
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    Re: Reasonable and Practical Mahr?

    format_quote Originally Posted by Pk_#2 View Post
    A cat!
    If I was forced to ask for something, I'd ask for the sunnah amount....is it like £200 or something? Other than that, whats yours is mine and whats mine is yours dude, and thats all there is to it for me.

    Some people say that you should ask for a considerable amount, as a fall-back incase something goes wrong, but subhanAllah you need to get married b4 thinking of things going wrong, and u cant get married if you ask for a 6 figure amount can ya.

    Hmm there was a thread like this on ummah, lemme find my posts insha'Allah

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    Re: Reasonable and Practical Mahr?

    format_quote Originally Posted by Amatul Wadud View Post
    If I was forced to ask for something, I'd ask for the sunnah amount....is it like £200 or something? Other than that, whats yours is mine and whats mine is yours dude, and thats all there is to it for me.
    MashaAllaah, if the majority of sisters hold the same outlook, then maybe the brothers dont have to spend the first couple of years just paying off the Mahr!!
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    Ah here are my ummah posts, kinda dumb when taken out of context but there ya go:

    format_quote Originally Posted by my username is a secret :$ View Post
    Erm.....lol ok

    Personally....I wouldnt wanna take 10k from him. And this isnt being naive or anything but....I dunno dude, why add that financial stress on him? Just want to be happy with him innit and thats it insha'Allah :blind:

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    format_quote Originally Posted by my username is a secret :$ View Post
    Sis just because you're leaving your home dont mean you gotta drain him of cash. Not as though he's tryna fill the void of u having to move outta ur house and leaving fam. Yeh its ur fallback and thats a good point....but its his duty also to provide for you. So some may not bother as much about a ginourmous mahr.
    I dont get why people gotta be so materialistic though, I really dont know.
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    Re: Reasonable and Practical Mahr?

    10 , 20 THOUSAND? oh:



    and what tha heck is she gonna do with it ?
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    Re: Reasonable and Practical Mahr?

    format_quote Originally Posted by Güven View Post
    10 , 20 THOUSAND? oh:



    and what tha heck is she gonna do with it ?
    Loadsa fings, make a mansion,

    And if he's a weirdo then pay someone with it to kill him, i duno
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    Re: Reasonable and Practical Mahr?

    ^

    her money is my money innit so my money is her money, so basically if she buys a mansion with it that means its also my mansion.
    so she putting me and herself into trouble with asking for that amount money.

    ...unless she buys a dress for 10k
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    Re: Reasonable and Practical Mahr?

    format_quote Originally Posted by Güven View Post
    10 , 20 THOUSAND? oh:



    and what tha heck is she gonna do with it ?
    Lol exactly.

    She needs to realise marriage is all about give and take (and not just money)...Just as its difficult for her leaving her home and all that she knows, it'll be equally difficult for him having to take on the responsibility of another person and maybe a family bi'ithnillah
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