A lot of people are implying that we ought to look at religion only or that it ought to be the first thing inquired about - but in reality that probably isn't the proper way or smartest way to go about things. Imaam Ahmad (rahimullah) said:
قال الإمام أحمد: «إذا خطب رَجُلٌ امرأة، سأل عن جَمَالها أوّلاً. فإن حُمِدَ، سأل عن دِينِها. فإن حُمِدَ، تَزوّج. وإن لم يُحْمَدَ، يكون رَدَّهُ لأجْلِ الدِّين. ولا يَسألُ أوّلاً عن الدِّين، فإن حُمِدَ سأل عن الجمال، فإن لم يُحمَد، ردّها. فيكون ردَّه للجمال لا للدِّين»
“If a man proposes to a woman, let him ask about her beauty first. If it is praiseworthy, let him ask about her religion, if that is praiseworthy, let him marry. If it (meaning: religion) isn’t praiseworthy, his rejection will be on accounts of religion. Don’t let him ask about religion first, if it is praiseworthy he will ask about beauty and if that (meaning: beauty) isn’t praiseworthy then he will reject her, and his rejection will be due to beauty not religion.”
Very practical advice from someone who understands the nature of people. It basically means that we ought to leave religion as the thing that we look into after beauty - religion should be that which either makes or breaks the decision to marry after everything else, i.e. make it the deciding factor. Because then the decision to marry or not will be based on the person's practice of the religion, not their looks. So in lights of that, there's nothing wrong with rejecting someone if you feel their height is not attractive to you. A lot of people are say that as long as the religion of the person is good, I'll marry so and so, but attraction, compatibility and mutual connection are just as important as religion. Allaah knows best.
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