I have a few doubts that I need an answer to.Hope I can get some advice here.
I have received this marriage proposal, that I am not very certain about.My mother thinks it to be a good proposal whereas my father is in two minds.
I did istekhara for almost a month at different occasions, however I did not get any clear sign. Once I did get something as a no. but I was'nt sure.
I then tried reading the quran after praying nafl namaaz and got some indication that it is good.
Now I am quite confused as to what to do. Please let me know if there is some other way of confirming or getting a proper answer.
Sistyer the ONLY way of the Istekhara is the One The Prophet Sala lahu alihi wa sallam taught us , n practised n his sahaba practised.
There is no second or thord way
All those ways are inovated , and since u have mentioned this STRANGE n Inovated way siste , I will also like to take the opportunity to request u to STAY AWAY from whom ever u heared it from , be it a person n a group or sect coz they are clearely following their desires , n innovating in the deen new stuff that will lead them to destruction and their followers
I had heared aboutr this type pf istekhara before , That is opening the Quran randomly and taking a conclusion on the ayaat on the page, This is VERY wrong , This has absolutely got notthing to do with Islam and Muslimeen , n those who do it i will warn them with a sever warning , even though the warning are plenty f rthe Innnovators but this one is just too heavy
The one who inniovates will not get to drink fom the Haud Al kawthar
Here is one Hadith about it , about the haud and the one who will be denied from it
Verily, it is a river that my Lord, the Mighty and Majestic, has promised me and it has abundant goodness. It is a pond where my Ummah will be brought to on the Day of Judgement. Its containers are as numerous as the stars in the sky. Then a servant of Allah from among them will be (prevented from it) and I will say: "O Lord! Verily, he is from my Ummah (followers).'' Then He (Allah) will say: "Verily, you do not know what he introduced (or innovated) after you.)'' This is the wording of Muslim. Ahmad recorded this Hadith from Muhammad bin Fudayl, who reported from Al-Mukhtar bin Fulful, who reported it from Anas bin Malik. Imam Ahmad also recorded from Anas that the Messenger of Allah said
It is a river in Paradise which my Lord has given me. It is whiter than milk and sweeter than honey. There are birds in it whose necks are (long) like carrots.) `Umar said, "O Messenger of Allah! Verily, they (the birds) will be beautiful
So those who innovate in the religion , apart from other losses will miss out on such a special drink , From the hands of the Prophet Sala lahu lhi wa sallam , The one who get sto drink it will never get thristy again. So may Allah save us from innovations , Innovated people , n groyups that folow and introduce innovations in the deen , N help us live our lifes according to Quran N sunnah , n help us follow the way f the pious precedors , The way of the Prophet sala lahu alihi wa sallam n his ompanions n those who fololwed them, The pure deen with notthing added to it nor notthing taken away from it , It surely was enough for them , n what was not DEEN AT THAT TIME CANOT BE DEEN TODAY
N also i just remmbeer another form of INVALID n INNOVATED istekhara know and performed by big time molvis of the sub continenet , That is the type to take a bead ( Tasbeeh) and one one of its stones he says yes n the next one no untill the bead ends , so if he ends at a yes its a GO , and if he ends at a no Its not to be done!
Remindes me of how when some one is in love lol n take a flower n removes its petals saying She loes me , She love me no , untill he or she reac hes a conclusion!!Wow just look at their understanding of the deen.
This is how the kuffar of makkah used to be , When they needed to amke a decision they would take a bird n release it , If it goes right the would take it as a yes n if it goes left they would take it as NO , I guess soe muslims are not MUCH diffrent from the kuffar n disbelievers of MAKAH AFTER ALL!!
This is not deen , this aint got notthing to do with Islam ,
JUST KNOW THIS BEAUTIFUL PRINCIPLE
FOR ANYTHINTG TO BE LEGISLATED OR PRESCRIBED , IT HAS TO HAVE THE APPROVAL OF ALLAH N HIS MESSNEGER
Be it an act of worship, ibadah , Aqeedah , creed , or fiqh , or any thing to do with thw relogion
Coz the Religion is
Allah said
and his messenger said
It has got to have either one of those two stamps on it , or both to be legislated
So sis this is no istekhara
Nor are any WIRDS or WAZWEFAHS
that go like , say 11 times darood , 21 times read al fathia n then 21 times say this n that n 671 time sthis n then ASK Allah !!
Who prescribed these number?? Not the prophet , so best to leave n stay away , or we will be from those losers who will miss out on the haud al kauthar and jannah in he long run
coz the Prophet says
EVEREY NEWLY invented thiG is a BIDAH(INOVATION) and ever bidah is a going astray n every thing that taes u astray is in FIRE!
How perfect You are O Allaah, and I praise You. I bear witness that none has the right to be worshipped except You. I seek Your forgiveness and turn to You in repentance
sister if you want to know what actually happens after doing istikharah speak with your scholar its best because everybody will give u different advice also and that will confuse you more and you could possibly end up rejecting a man who was religiously good for u so sister don't just ask anybody about this. also sister don't tell people that you are receiving proposals from brothers because what will happen is you will end up getting bad eyes from jealous people so its always safe to keep these things to yourself
n also just wanted to warn u sister from another form of ONLINE istekhara or on air istekhara
There are desi channels that do istekhara online , where at one channel QTV they have a person Sitting behind a curtain , u cannot even see him n u tell him ur problem or issue n he answres n does an istekhara , Sister these are all magicians , n The guy must be soo ugly from the magic n jinns he deals with that they hide his face behind a curtain n there are other channels that do this as well where u can call one of thoese fortune telleres on air n they not only answer ur questuons , right there close their eyes n read shirki n magical talismans in their mouth n muble stuff n give u answers n tell u some un seen things , but only Allah knows the unseen , They only tell what the jinns n qareens tell them , such big thugs n cheaters n magicians al lover islamic channels , i once saw him do magic on air on a girl where he made the cloth she was holding LONGER over the phone.
The Prophet in a hadith told us that one who goes toa fortuneteler his 40 days of prayer will not be accepted n the one who believes in what he tells him has disbelieved on what was sent down to Muhammad sala lahu alihi wa saalm , so all this is pretty serious with grave consequences.
May Allah save us
Last edited by brotherubaid; 02-03-2010 at 10:36 PM.
How perfect You are O Allaah, and I praise You. I bear witness that none has the right to be worshipped except You. I seek Your forgiveness and turn to You in repentance
It is not necessary that you get a dream or even a "feeling." Rather, the istikhara is a prayer that Allah guide you towards that which is best (khayr) for you. If you do the prayer of guidance (istikhara) with the proper manners, the most important of which is to truly consign the matter to Allah and suspend your own inclinations, then Allah will make events unfold in the direction that is the best for your worldly and next-worldly affairs.
One should be pleased with what Allah chooses for one, and not seek to follow one's whims after the answer to one's supplication becomes clear.
From "Allah will make events unfold in the direction that is the best for your worldly and next-worldly affairs." I take it that the fact that I prayed isthekhara and because I was'nt convinced and we said no.
I did pray a lot of hajat salat and tahajuud one night and the next day we found that there was a minor thing that was untrue. So we said no.
Then we saw other proposals, but nothing worked out.
I now prayed that if the older proposal was right for me,please let it come back.
These people came back, in the meanwhile.
He has done isthekhara too and says that he got a positive feeling.
Is this what was the result of my isthekhara? That allah taala made other proposals not work out and this one to work out? (then Allah will make events unfold in the direction that is the best for your worldly and next-worldly affairs.) In my heart the feelings that i get are still mixed.
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