Easier to make jokes online. In real life, if you miss your timing for a one liner, that's it. Online, you can quote someone two days ago and drop a lol-bomb.
Generally speaking, whether offline or online I'm about the same behaviour/mentality wise.
Someone said to the Prophet, "Pray to God against the idolaters and curse them." The Prophet replied, "I have been sent to show mercy and have not been sent to curse." (Muslim)
The internet is often a place where people who are introverted can find their voice. It is easier for others to get to know them. This works for all individuals as well. Those who are agressive, often are moreso on-line. Those who are impulsive off-line, are often just as impulsive on-line, but on-line they actually are more able to go back and "fix" their errors.
Overall, it is not that people are usually someone else on-line, it is that their personality traits may be heightened or lessened.
So you act differently online. But HOW do you act differently? And why? What do you think the factors are?
And how would you feel if your parents read your posts?
salaam
Yes we do act differently online and most of us here I guess will be introverts as said before - the key factor being that nobody knows you - You could be talking to anyone online. I for one speak far more online then in real life. However all the views that I express are my real views even though I dont talk about them that much in real life.
No problem with parents reading my posts.
peace
Last edited by Zafran; 09-22-2010 at 01:44 AM.
Do you think the pious don't sin?
They merely:
Veiled themselves and didn't flaunt it
Sought forgiveness and didn't persist
Took ownership of it and don't justify it
And acted with excellence after they had erred - Ibn al-Qayyim
My mom always say ''Trust yourself wherever you are & speak nothing but the truth'' & ''If you ever lie once, you'll never stop as you'll always have to defend that one lie''
So you act differently online. But HOW do you act differently? And why? What do you think the factors are?
And how would you feel if your parents read your posts?
I think some parts of us are the same online as they are offline, while in some respects we are different.
For instance, I'm shy offline and wish I had an invisibility cloak when I go out. This feeling is same when I'm online. I hate chat rooms and even on the forum I use the invisible mode as I hate to be seen. I don't like social sites and only feel comfortable talking to people I've formed a bond with over a long period of time. The anonymity of the interent doesn't make talking to strangers any easier for me.
But there are parts of me which are different online. I feel I have to be careful of how I say things as my words can get easily misconstrued. That makes me feel my personality is suppressed, as I can't express myself openly. I'm much more comfortable talking to people offline, and can express myself much better vocally. I also feel unintelligent and stupid online, yet feel more intelligent than most people offline.
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^Hmm
My mom always say ''Trust yourself wherever you are & speak nothing but the truth'' & ''If you ever lie once, you'll never stop as you'll always have to defend that one lie''
That's very true. MashaAllah. In a nutshell...... "O, what a tangled web we weave when we practice to deceive" you only get yourself caught in it
I'm more blunt and to the point online, and less likely to tip-toe around people's feelings. That's not to say I am mean or ever try to be mean because I do know the difference between something that will genuinely hurt someone's feelings and something that will just make certain individuals whiny.
Like wasting of food, when I'm a guest at someone's house and someone wastes their food or whines about their food not being just the way they like it, I really need to bite my tongue because it is a pet hate of mine to see people complain about good food. But if a similar situation were encountered online (ok, can't be about food but something analogous to it) I would feel more free to say something. On the other hand, if someone is genuinely hurting or I feel what I'm about to say has the potential to genuinely hurt someone (as opposed to bruising their ego), even if it's online, I'll refrain from it.
In summary, offline I'm more quiet when I feel I should say something, online I'm more forthcoming when I feel I should say something.
^That sort of sound abit weird to me for some reason.
.....Wallahi the way things are going its better to stay in the house than be out there and if brothers think its safe to stay inside we shouldn't call them weird
Last edited by Cabdullahi; 09-29-2010 at 04:06 PM.
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