Zina has become widespread amongst Muslims but why?!

**anonymous** · 07-11-2011

After reading so many stories of our Muslims, not only in this forum but many other Islamic sites, it has become wide spread amongst Muslims practicing or not, make zina.
But what are the reasons for that?

subhAllaah, I don’t know what to say, it’s really worrying me for the future of our deen and our children, it seem like one that makes zina knows very well that’s totally against Islam and knows very well that there is a great punishment still goes ahead with it. but why?

It all starts with small things like texting, emails, social networks, talking to opposite sex without valid reason, going out were just friends, we work/study together, get to know each other before getting married without wali.

I say, cut all relationship with non mahrams, I mean shaytaan will come to you in some way and tempt you do something you don’t even think or realize, you will feel attracted to that person not knowing you’re not, you'll be really attracted but its shaytaan making you feel this feeling and whispering in our ears, don’t let shaytaan fool us.

I say, SAY NO TO ZINA!! And be one of those whom Allah mentioned when there is no shade but his shade on that day, you'll be on his shade, Allaahu akbar.

for those who wanting to get married try to make dua for urself, if you are late sleeper like me pray 2 rakat and ask Allaah his forgiveness and to give you a good wife/husband some people think it’s too early to make dua if your 16/17/18 but i used to make dua when I was younger around 17 to give me a good husband and Allhmdulilah got married when I was 19 turning 20.

if you find a suitable partner for yourself don’t try to do things without your wali or someone knowledgeable like imaam, visit the imaam often discuss and ask him how you can do things right, and go back to him all the time let him be your adviser or even if things don’t go right with the family, invite him to your house and let him discuss the issue with your family. Also continuously pray istikhara on that process if you have trust in Allaah, He will not disappoint you but it maybe its khair for you to continue or to stop.
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There are many forms of Zina, but what we are addressing here is the highest form. This is adultery, fornication, having sexual intercourse without being married to the person.

Allah (SWT)'s order in the Quran to stay away from Zina.

"And those who invoke not any other god along with Allah, nor kill such life as Allah has forbidden, except for just cause, nor commit illegal sexual intercourse (zina) and whoever does this shall receive the punishment. The torment will be doubled to him on the Day of Resurrection, and he will abide therein in disgrace; except those who repent and believe and do righteous deeds, for those Allah will change their sins into good deeds, and Allah is Oft Forgiving, Most Merciful." (al-Furqaan #25, ayat #68-70) "And come not near to unlawful sexual intercourse. Verily, it is a faahishah (a great sin) and an evil way." (Sura Al-Israa # 17 ayah # 32)

Imaam al-Qurtubi (may Allah have mercy on him) said: The ulama said that the phrase And come not near to unlawful sexual intercourse is more eloquent than merely saying Do not commit zinaa, because the meaning is, Do not even come close to zinaa. This means not doing any deed that may get close to zinaa or lead to it, such as being alone with a member of the opposite sex, touching, looking, going to evil places, speaking in a haraam manner to a woman to whom one is not related, thinking about and planning immoral acts, and so on.
"Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts. That is purer for them. Verily, Allah is All-Aware of what they do.

"And tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts and not to show off their adornment except only that which is apparent and to draw their veils all over Juyubihinnaand not to reveal their adornment except to their husbands, their fathers, their husband's fathers, their sons, their husband's sons, their brothers or their brother's sons, or their sister's sons, or their (Muslim) women (i.e. their sisters in Islam), or the (female) slaves whom their right hands possess, or old male servants who lack vigour, or small children who have no sense of the shame of sex. And let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment. And all of you beg Allah to forgive you all, O believers, that you may be successful." (Sura # 24, Ayat #30 and 31)

Hadith warning against not even coming close to Zina

"Some persons from Banu Hisham entered the house of Asma' daughter of Umays when AbuBakr also entered (and she was at that time his wife). He (AbuBakr) saw it and disapproved of it and he made a mention of that to Allah's Messenger (saaws) and said: I did not see but good only (in my wife). Thereupon Allah's Messenger (saaws) said: Verily Allah has made her immune from all this. Then Allah's Messenger (saaws) stood on the pulpit and said: After this day no man should enter the house of another person in his absence, but only when he is accompanied by one person or two persons." (Sahih Al-Bukhari Book 25, Hadith # 5403)

"Abd-Allaah ibn Masood (RAA) said: I asked the Messenger of Allah (SAW), Which sin is worst in the sight of Allah? He said, To make any rival to Allah, when He has created you. I asked, Then what? He said, To kill your child for fear that he will eat with you. I asked, Then what? He said, To commit zinaa with the wife of your neighbour." (Reported in Sahih Al-Bukhaari, Hadith #492 and In Shaih Muslim, Hadith #90).

"Rasulullah (SAW) explained: If one of you were to be stabbed in the head with a piece of iron it would be better for him than if he were to touch a woman whom it is not permissible for him to touch." (Reported by al-Tabaraani; see also Saheeh al-Jaami, 5045).

This refers to the punishment for touching, so how about worse deeds, such as embracing and kissing, and even worse kinds of illicit activity?

May Allaah protect and guide us all to the right path and follow the footsteps of rasullah s.a.w and his companions. ameen

**tigerkhan** · 07-12-2011

ya its most heart breaking i feel so much pain while seeing this...i think one main reason of this is listening to the music in every form either nasheed or islamic song. bcz its in hadith music lead to zina. 2nd watching videos of opposite gender or Movies. u blv i am registered on other muslim forum and there is a thread "movie review" and member shares their views on diffrent english, indian movies they watched.
alhumdullaih i never did anything wrong in whole my life, only allah swt knows that. and alhumdullaih i am proud of it. i wish all muslism learn what is the value of purity and poiuty. allah swt oder us to do good and stop from "fakhas" and "munkir" and shyness is important part of iman.

**Riana17** · 07-12-2011

Salam

Not only Zina,

The main reason for this is lack of education, we have to be strict with ourselves and force ourselves to read & study the teachings of ISLAM, keep reminding ourselves and stay away from bad places, bad people, avoid major sins, otherwise if we try one big sin, next one will come again & again, it's like addiction. So there are many ways to keep our deen inshallah, read Quran and hadith, and read Muslim's inspirational stories, that will keep us on track inshallah

Meanwhile, I also feel that damaging oneself is much better than destroying others lives. So If i smoke, drink and so on, it is not same to me when I am doing everything to make someone's life a hell.

The only thing I guess is that we cant change the world, we cant change others but we can improve ourselves inshallah.Amen

**Caller الداعي** · 07-12-2011

i think also as the years go by the means for encouraging fornication have risen very steeply.

**Salahudeen** · 07-12-2011

There's no single reason, there's many reasons such as lack of education, the content we're exposed to like movies/music/media they all play a part in leading a person to zina.

Originally Posted by caller

i think also as the years go by the means for encouraging fornication have risen very steeply.

Couldn't agree more, society today is very different from when our grandparents grew up.

**Who Am I?** · 07-12-2011

Look around you. Sex is everywhere, and it's encouraged in our society. Some days it is all I can do to lower my gaze when an attractive women not wearing many clothes walks by. In recent weeks, I have had women checking me out, giving me the eye, but I don't approach them (even though sometimes I want to). I appreciate the attention of course (at least some women still find me attractive), but at the same time, it irritates me. I'm being tempted by forbidden fruit, and that's not fair.

It was suggested to me in the past that I find a Muslim wife as soon as possible to help me with this. However, after much prayer and reflection, I have come to the conclusion that I cannot marry for the forseeable future for personal reasons. So I will just have to keep praying and struggling on my own. I'm trying to stay on the straight path and don't need the distraction of women right now.

**Riana17** · 07-12-2011

Originally Posted by King of Nines

Look around you. Sex is everywhere, and it's encouraged in our society. Some days it is all I can do to lower my gaze when an attractive women not wearing many clothes walks by. In recent weeks, I have had women checking me out, giving me the eye, but I don't approach them (even though sometimes I want to). I appreciate the attention of course (at least some women still find me attractive), but at the same time, it irritates me. I'm being tempted by forbidden fruit, and that's not fair.

It was suggested to me in the past that I find a Muslim wife as soon as possible to help me with this. However, after much prayer and reflection, I have come to the conclusion that I cannot marry for the forseeable future for personal reasons. So I will just have to keep praying and struggling on my own. I'm trying to stay on the straight path and don't need the distraction of women right now.

Masha Allah
It so means that you have fear in Allah, may the blessings, guidance and mercy of Allah be with you all the time. Ameeen

Sooner or later you have to marry inshallah, but better choose a good mood wife and someone like you who have fear in Allah,

love is not enough, it can fade away... besides you are not getting younger and women are men's greatest weakness, if I may recall you are 45 now hahaha lol just kidding

**Galaxy** · 07-12-2011

The thing we must do is LOWER OUR GAZE because Allaah subhaana wa ta'aalaa ordered us to do so, and the Prophet :saw: said to get married if we are able to because this helps us become chaste! If one cannot do so, then one can fast. If you have a problem with lowering your gaze, beg Allaah!!!

**Darth Ultor** · 07-12-2011

Originally Posted by tigerkhan

ya its most heart breaking i feel so much pain while seeing this...i think one main reason of this is listening to the music in every form either nasheed or islamic song. bcz its in hadith music lead to zina. 2nd watching videos of opposite gender or Movies. u blv i am registered on other muslim forum and there is a thread "movie review" and member shares their views on diffrent english, indian movies they watched.
alhumdullaih i never did anything wrong in whole my life, only allah swt knows that. and alhumdullaih i am proud of it. i wish all muslism learn what is the value of purity and poiuty. allah swt oder us to do good and stop from "fakhas" and "munkir" and shyness is important part of iman.

Music leads to Zina? No. You can't blame music, video games, TV, or movies for sin. If you do commit a sin, it's your own fault. I mean, think about it. You walk into a store or eat in a restaurant, does the music playing in there make you want to have sex or kill someone?

**إحسان** · 07-12-2011

Originally Posted by Boaz

Music leads to Zina? No. You can't blame music, video games, TV, or movies for sin. If you do commit a sin, it's your own fault. I mean, think about it. You walk into a store or eat in a restaurant, does the music playing in there make you want to have sex or kill someone?

I understand what you're trying to say. But what the brother was trying to say (and several others who mentioned music etc) is that the majority (especially mainstream) music that we hear today have SUGGESTIVE lyrics. I mean I hear my little cousins (aged 11) randomly sing lyrics that have suggestive and at times underlying meanings. Furthermore, music videos of this time are disgusting. No doubt is fornication normal nowadays.

In addition, TV programmes/soaps/dramas whatever you want to call it and movies also include pre-marital sex/relationships thus no doubt has zina been on a rise in the Muslim community and in general.

'If you do commit a sin, it's your own fault.' - You're entirely correct, but these suggestive music videos/lyrics, sex-driven society etc can influence oneself, no? Therefore, it's a struggle to many who are surrounded by this society.

**Who Am I?** · 07-12-2011

Originally Posted by Riana17

Masha Allah It so means that you have fear in Allah, may the blessings, guidance and mercy of Allah be with you all the time. Ameeen Sooner or later you have to marry inshallah, but better choose a good mood wife and someone like you who have fear in Allah, love is not enough, it can fade away... besides you are not getting younger and women are men's greatest weakness, if I may recall you are 45 now hahaha lol just kidding

Not yet sister, but 40 is not far away.

Originally Posted by Galaxy

The thing we must do is LOWER OUR GAZE because Allaah subhaana wa ta'aalaa ordered us to do so, and the Prophet :saw: said to get married if we are able to because this helps us become chaste! If one cannot do so, then one can fast. If you have a problem with lowering your gaze, beg Allaah!!!

Well as I said, I have some personal issues that prevent me from marrying at this time. I have fasted and prayed a bit, though.

**Zafran** · 07-13-2011

Originally Posted by Boaz

Music leads to Zina? No. You can't blame music, video games, TV, or movies for sin. If you do commit a sin, it's your own fault. I mean, think about it. You walk into a store or eat in a restaurant, does the music playing in there make you want to have sex or kill someone?

Ofcourse these things have a huge impact on how a society views violence, sex and bad language and preety much everything around the world - just look at how arabs have been viewed in hollywood. Grand theft auto games -music videos - they all have messeges - zina is one of them.

**Darth Ultor** · 07-13-2011

Also liberal parenting is to blame. Kids, especially teenagers, need a firm but loving hand. Sometimes they need to fall on their faces in order to learn right from wrong.

**Who Am I?** · 07-13-2011

Originally Posted by Boaz

Also liberal parenting is to blame. Kids, especially teenagers, need a firm but loving hand. Sometimes they need to fall on their faces in order to learn right from wrong.

If your kids don't say that they hate you or they wish they were never born at least once, you're not doing your job as a parent.

**SFatima** · 07-13-2011

So true , the above observation .

**Who Am I?** · 07-13-2011

Originally Posted by SFatima

So true , the above observation .

Well it didn't come from me. I borrowed it from somewhere else.

There were times as a kid when I hated my parents. But I always respected them, and still do to this day.

**Ibn Abi Ahmed** · 07-14-2011

It's a multi-faceted issue. On one hand. there aren't any institutions in our communities that enable young men and women to get married, meaning there is nothing that helps facilitate marriage - and if there are, then there are other problems in the way by means of family, culture, peer pressure etc that result in delaying it. On the other hand, the tarbiyyah isn't properly given to the young men and women as they are growing older and as a result they're far from the religion. Both of these sides come together and the result are problems such as zina and more. It's easy to tell the kids to make dua', go talk to an imam etc, but the reality is that the kids aren't that into the religion in the first place and even if they are, they're weak in this regard, and the imam is the uncle from back home who is unapproachable along with the family/parents who set up cultural demands and high standards that the young man/woman must meet before they can get married. Meanwhile, day and night they're surrounded by and are living in a hyper sexualized environment. It's a multi-faceted issue and there are a lot of variables and factors that are playing into it so we shouldn't over simplify it. I don't have the solution but I do think that we need to come up with good ones soon for the next generation..

**Insecured soul** · 07-14-2011

Television, magazines, movies, bollywood, hollywood, billboards are all promoting zina

to be completely safe from this is to live in a islamic country which implements 100% sharia.

If u cant make hijrah then you will be surrounded by those above things and every one of is weak and we cannot stay away from evil
our resistance level is less so its my understanding that the only way to save ourselves is to live in an islamic state

and allah knows best in all matters

salaam alaikum

**Darth Ultor** · 07-14-2011

Originally Posted by Insecured soul

to be completely safe from this is to live in a islamic country which implements 100% sharia.

Does not exist. If Zina doesn't exist there, the governments commit plenty of other sins. You want a place without any bad influence, does not exist outside Jannah.

**Insecured soul** · 07-14-2011

Originally Posted by Boaz

Does not exist. If Zina doesn't exist there, the governments commit plenty of other sins. You want a place without any bad influence, does not exist outside Jannah.

may be ur right, but we wont go as per your understanding and rather live where zina, gayism and lesbianism is promoted. the islamic goverment which implements shariah law is better than any other government.