Frustrations in getting married

format_quote Originally Posted by Raudha

I don't believe it is permissible to post these videos and pictures, just as it is not permissible to attend and engage in such practices.

your rite i watched a lil bit and closed it :S

^ Same here, the dancing scared me.

format_quote Originally Posted by ~Zaria~

Ok bros and sisters,

Lets get back on track......

Like where does one meet suitable muslim men and women who are interested in marriage in an islamic manner?

Masjid.

format_quote Originally Posted by ~Zaria~

Ok bros and sisters,

Lets get back on track......

Like where does one meet suitable muslim men and women who are interested in marriage in an islamic manner?

There are a few options although i still think there is a big gap in the market in terms of finding a marriage partner for our generation. Here are some ways of finding a potential suitor:

1. Ask around one's local Masjids.

2. Ask around and register with marriage mediators (aunties who usually have a database of potential suitors)

3. Ask family, relatives and close and reliable friends and tell them what kind of partner you are looking for.

4. Go to marriage events with a mahram. (Try the more Islamic events as oppose to overly liberal ones.)

5. Register on "Islamic" marriage sites and not ones that claim to be Muslim or Islamic but are in fact "dating" websites. Sites like Pure Matrimony are quite good.

6. If one happens to come across a potential anywhere like at work, University etc, then inform a mahram to speak to them or one may ask the person directly using wisdom and tact and keeping within the boundaries of Islam and making sure not to keep in touch with them in private without informing ones mahram or making sure their mahram is informed and involved.


Also do the following 10 to help you find a marriage partner:


1. Pray 2 rakat salaatul Hajaat:

The hadith regarding it: Abullah ibn Abi Awfa (Allah be pleased with him) relates that the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him and give him peace) said, “Whoever has a need with Allah, or with any human being, then let them perform ritual ablutions well and then pray two rakats. After that, let them praise Allah and send blessings on the Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace). After this, let them say,

لا إِلَهَ إِلا اللَّهُ الْحَلِيمُ الْكَرِيمُ
سُبْحَانَ اللَّهِ رَبِّ الْعَرْشِ الْعَظِيمِ

الْحَمْدُ لِلَّهِ رَبِّ الْعَالَمِين
أَسْأَلُكَ مُوجِبَاتِ رَحْمَتِكَ وَعَزَائِمَ مَغْفِرَتِكَ وَالْغَنِيمَةَ مِنْ كُلِّ بِرٍّ وَالسَّلامَةَ مِنْ كُلّإِثْمٍ
لا تَدَعْ لِي ذَنْبًا إِلا غَفَرْتَهُ وَلا هَمًّا إِلا فَرَّجْتَهُ وَلا حَاجَةً هِيَ لَكَ رِضًا إِلا قَضَيْتَهَا يَا أَرْحَمَ الرَّاحِمِينَ

There there no god but Allah the Clement and Wise.
There is no god but Allah the High and Mighty.
Glory be to Allah, Lord of the Tremendous Throne.
All praise is to Allah, Lord of the worlds.
I ask you (O Allah) everything that leads to your mercy, and your tremendous forgiveness, enrichment in all good, and freedom from all sin.
Do not leave a sin of mine (O Allah), except that you forgive it, nor any concern except that you create for it an opening, nor any need in which there is your good pleasure except that you fulfill it, O Most Merciful!”

[Related by Tirmidhi and Ibn Maja)

Here is the dua after praying 2 rakat salaatul hajaat:

http://www.central-mosque.com/Dua/11...0of%20need.htm


2. Give as much Sadaqa as possible for the pleasure of Allah

3. Make much strong dua to Allah particularly in the latter portuion of the night after praying Tahajjud prayer. Cry to Allah if you can for Allah tends the slave who cries and weeps faster than a mother tends its baby.

4. Leave major sins for this gets in the way of duas being accepted.

5. Thank Allah as much as possible for how happy would Allah be with his slave who is thankful to him even though they may be going through difficult trials.

6. Make dua as much as possible in the following situations where dua is more likely to be accepted:

- After every fardh salaat and before going to bed, and after making wudhu(after the wudhu dua), while raining, while azzan is in progress(time when the muezzin pauses during the azaan), after azaan, between azaan and iqmah, when the cock crows, in a religious gathering, while travelling to masjid or on the way to meet a sick person etc

There is also an hour on Jumma where duas are definatley accepted so do as much dua as possible during Jumma.

7. Do plenty of durood before and after dua.

8. Recite the following:

Rabbi innee limaa anzalta ilayya min khayrin faqeer

9. Recite abundantly everyday

[My lord, I am in absolute need of the good You send me]

Source: http://qa.sunnipath.com/issue_view.a...D=1908&CATE=10

10. a) Be in the state of Tahaarah (Wudhu)

b) Praise and glorify Allah

c) Have faith that Allah Ta'ala is All-Hearing and your Du'aas will be
accepted.

d)Read plenty of durood shareef (Read the Duroode-Ibrahimi, which we read in Salaah)

Source: http://www.islam.tc/cgi-bin/askimam/...=8597&act=view


So one must NEVER give up hope because whatever is best will happen for you because with hardship comes ease. When you finally find the one who is destined for you then you will appreciate them so much more because of how difficult it was to find them in the first place.

So please act upon the advice i have given and continue to be strong, strive and persevere and in the end you will be victorious!

May Allah find us the God fearing and pious partners who will benefit us in this world and the next so that together our paths to Jannah will be made easier. Ameen

^Wa-alikumsalam,

JazakhaAllah khair brother,

I truly appreciate the advices provided, Alhamdulillah.

format_quote Originally Posted by Hamza Asadullah

There are a few options although i still think there is a big gap in the market in terms of finding a marriage partner for our generation. Here are some ways of finding a potential suitor:

1. Ask around one's local Masjids.

2. Ask around and register with marriage mediators (aunties who usually have a database of potential suitors)

3. Ask family, relatives and close and reliable friends and tell them what kind of partner you are looking for.

4. Go to marriage events with a mahram. (Try the more Islamic events as oppose to overly liberal ones.)

5. Register on "Islamic" marriage sites and not ones that claim to be Muslim or Islamic but are in fact "dating" websites. Sites like Pure Matrimony are quite good.

6. If one happens to come across a potential anywhere like at work, University etc, then inform a mahram to speak to them or one may ask the person directly using wisdom and tact and keeping within the boundaries of Islam and making sure not to keep in touch with them in private without informing ones mahram or making sure their mahram is informed and involved.

^ With regards to no. 1 - I think this is easier for men.
It would be quite strange for a woman to be asking around a masjid regarding the single brothers.....lol.

Im pretty wary of these on-line 'marriage sites'.
Do they not all work in a similiar manner - on-line chatting with a stranger of the opposite gender?
Does Pure Matrimony work in a different way?


I do believe that Allah (subhanawata'la) has a plan for each one of us.
And even though, we may be going through life, making our own plans....... and suddenly there is a change of course which we did not expect - we should never forget, that Allahs plans are the BEST for us.
Even if we can not understand it at this point in time.

And this applies to all challenges we may face in life.
SubhanAllah.

So, sometimes it may seem that perhaps we are not destined to marriage on this earthly life.....
And this too should be fine for us......

Even though, it may not be what WE desire - what are some years of patience, in the face of eternity?
Sometimes, being single may actually be what we need for our particular life - perhaps with a spouse or children, we may be distracted a great deal away from the remembrance of Allah, vs. if we are single......


I'll stop here, and save everyone another long, boring essay.......



JazakAllah again......Ive learnt a great deal from your thread.

May Allah reward you brother. Ameen.


Salaam

As'Salaamu Alaaykum

format_quote Originally Posted by Silent Blade

Well i don't know if there is any sister will marry me, i have a physcial disease so its kinda hard for me but Allahu Alim i wont lose hope ever.

I'm sure there is someone out there for everyone, and it's really a strong character that one has in which they do not lose hope in Allaah SWT in times of huge calamity.. The strong believer is one who smiles in the time of hardship and say's Allhamdulilaah - All praise is due to Allaah..Hopefully you've read the story of Ayub As, inshaa'Allaah the blessed prophet's story will put you to ease and how he dealt with it.

And know that you are not alone.

may Allaah SWT ease your hardship and grant you ultimate success in the hereafter, Aameen

http://www.halfourdeen.com/

here u go

ive heard abt it too.