Teach our daughters...

subhanallah so true
jazakallahu khair for sharing this sis

Assalamu-alaikum,


JazakAllah for this beautiful reminder to all our sisters

Just wanted to add to the above advices:

We need to teach our daughters how to become the woman......that will match the above type of man:

How to adopt hijab.
How to lower their gazes.
How to be modest in their behaviour and speech.
How to be obedient to her husbands and safe-guard his secrets and trust.
How to put her family and kids before any other desire for this dunya.

So, while we all desire to meet the type of man described above.......we have to realise too, that we need to BECOME the person that we want to attract.

Remember: it takes two hands to clap.


Salaam

format_quote Originally Posted by jameelash

We need to teach our daughters to distinguish between,
A man who flatters her and a man who compliments her,
A man who spends money on her and a man who invests in her,
A man who views her as property and a man who views her properly,
A man who lusts after her and man who loves her,
A man who believes he’s a gift to women and a man who believes she’s a gift to him.

I do not have daughter. But if I have, I must be a super-protective father, who will always be with her when a man try to approach her.

General weakness of the women is easily deceived by sweet words. And unfortunately there are men who are expert in deceiving women with sweet words. many women are difficult to distinguish which the "right man", which the "wrong man", because they never really be in the world of male. Different than the father who is living in the world of male.

This reminds me of something I once heard Neuman Ali Khan talk about when I attended one of his lectures last year.

He was talking about how there is a crisis of confidence among young women in the Muslim community. He mentioned that there are a lot of fathers that don't know how to relate to their daughters. Consequently, these girls grow up not having a good relationship with their fathers. This has dangerous consequences when the girls become teenagers and seek the attention of other men in their lives to replace the lack of attention they receive from their fathers.

I have seen this myself even in secular society. There are a lot of women with father issues even among non-believers, and it just reinforces my theory that our society does not teach men how to be leaders. I myself struggle with this even now, as I try to become the person I am supposed to be. But I'm having to learn this on my own, because no one else is going to teach me. Society has failed. The schools have failed. And unfortunately, religious communities have by and large failed.

subhanallah, this is so beautiful....

I think we must also teach our daughter to :
1. never offend husband's self pride
2. make your husband a leader and respect him.....his pride will be raised, and so does his love.
3. appreciate your husband and do not deny his goodness when he did something wrong
4. don't feel guilty when your husband spoils you (i.e. "but this is so expensive, can we really afford this romantic dinner?", or "this jewellery looks pricey, how much does it cost?")
5. have your best appearance for him. Men are visual creatures!