I just want to know if any guys would consider getting married to a girl who was single and looking for marriage but was pregnant or had a child that was out of wedlock. i mean if this girl was serious about getting married and was a good person but already had a child. or would it only be possible to find someone else who already had kids as well?
I just want to know if any guys would consider getting married to a girl who was single and looking for marriage but was pregnant or had a child that was out of wedlock. i mean if this girl was serious about getting married and was a good person but already had a child. or would it only be possible to find someone else who already had kids as well?
thanks for answering.
This is really subjective. It depends on the person herself. Realistically, I'm sure most people would want someone without kids and who did not have intercourse out of wedlock. However, situations change and so do people.
But the guy would have to be really mature in order to take on a marriage WITH kids.
I suppose it might make sense for some older guys who might feel like they're onto a a late start so they'd be more than willing to have a marriage with kids. But then you also mentioned the child was also out of wedlock.
Again, it's all subjective. Is it possible? Yes. Is it likely? Not sure.
I just want to know if any guys would consider getting married to a girl who was single and looking for marriage but was pregnant or had a child that was out of wedlock. i mean if this girl was serious about getting married and was a good person but already had a child. or would it only be possible to find someone else who already had kids as well?
thanks for answering.
Salaam,
I personally wouldn't mind. My family wouldn't like it but I won't allow them to make personal decisions for me. I can't speak for other guys.
I was looking at myself talking to myself and I realized this conversation...I was having with myself looking at myself was a conversation with myself that I needed to have with myself.
I just want to know if any guys would consider getting married to a girl who was single and looking for marriage but was pregnant or had a child that was out of wedlock. i mean if this girl was serious about getting married and was a good person but already had a child. or would it only be possible to find someone else who already had kids as well?
thanks for answering.
I'm sure there are guys who would; religious guys who've preserved their chastity their whole lives, a guy whom you'd love to get married to.
The biggest question a guy has when he looks for a sister for marriage is how practising she is. If she's had a past then we ask how much she's changed. The biggest turn off for for a guy is to know that she hasn't changed much from bad habits/patterns.
If you're serious about breaking old habits, patterns and becoming a righteous Muslimah, he'll be serious about marrying you.
And verily for everything that a slave loses there is a substitute, but the one who loses Allah will never find anything to replace Him.” [Related by Ibn al-Qayyim in ad-Dâ' wad-Dawâ Fasl 49]
And verily for everything that a slave loses there is a substitute, but the one who loses Allah will never find anything to replace Him.” [Related by Ibn al-Qayyim in ad-Dâ' wad-Dawâ Fasl 49]
I'm sure there are guys who would; religious guys who've preserved their chastity their whole lives, a guy whom you'd love to get married to.
The biggest question a guy has when he looks for a sister for marriage is how practising she is. If she's had a past then we ask how much she's changed. The biggest turn off for for a guy is to know that she hasn't changed much from bad habits/patterns.
If you're serious about breaking old habits, patterns and becoming a righteous Muslimah, he'll be serious about marrying you.
This.
However, in real life out there, past behaviors are good predictors of future behaviors (scientifically proven). Moreover, no one has the luxury of time to trial and test someone with a past to see if they have changed. So people tend to err on the side of caution and go for virgin stuff.
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