ISLAM Q&A – THE HADEETH “WHOEVER AMONG YOU CAN AFFORD IT, LET HIM GET MARRIED” DOES NOT MEAN THAT ONE WHO IS POOR CANNOT GET MARRIED
In UK there are several students who are with out jobs so to avoid haram they need to get married. I have come across two hadiths which seem to be contradicting. The 1st hadith states “O young men, whoever among you can afford to get married, let him do so”. In the 2nd hadith The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) marries a woman to who seems to be a poor man so could you please elaborate on these 2 hadiths because it seems to be contradicting...
There's no contradiction there. At least I don't see it.
Everything starts with the intention. A glass half filled is both half full and half empty.
Other matters may cause to cloud the issue until we lost our intentions or did it for the wrong intentions in the first place. Affordability is the state of being and the understanding between the couple. If they are compatible and share similar aspirations and have patience with tests, they will survive the relationship, if they don't, that is a different story.
The holy prophet (pbuh) and Khadija was such. He did question the same. She was wealthy and he had nothing. They made it work! So, no! It does not make it haram. But if the parties are unwilling due to the differences in lifestyles, then, it just becomes more impractical than haram.
My 2 cents worth.
As long as my heart does beat, I shall live, not lie
For when my heart does stop its beat, with truth, I die.
I don't think there's a contradiction in the two ahadeeth you mentioned either. In the first hadith the prophet (saws) doesn't state that someone who is poor can't marry. He only advices those who are financially capable marrying to do so. Wa Allaahou a'lam.
I often see people that have little, marry and end up having so much blessing in their money and in their marriage. Because they place their trust in Allaah (swt) and know that rizq comes from Him and Him alone.
being able to afford back in the day and today are 2 very different things, nowadays being able to afford means a car, house, well paying job, and 2 vacations a year, in those days it was a roof over your head made of straw, 2 pairs of clothes and a few dates and water once a day
being able to afford back in the day and today are 2 very different things, nowadays being able to afford means a car, house, well paying job, and 2 vacations a year, in those days it was a roof over your head made of straw, 2 pairs of clothes and a few dates and water once a day
sustenance is from Allaah, then and no.
and your classification of 'affording marriage' is well outside the islamic norm, don't confuse culture with islam.
being able to afford back in the day and today are 2 very different things, nowadays being able to afford means a car, house, well paying job, and 2 vacations a year, in those days it was a roof over your head made of straw, 2 pairs of clothes and a few dates and water once a day
you mean one who doesn't have all this is a poor man?
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