those who know me here, know how long I struggled to find someone who would walk with me on this journey we call life.
I’m pleased to inform those of you who have been privy to my struggle that I got married on the 2nd of August this year ما شاء الله
and i’m very very happy ما شاء الله
I haven’t posted much on the forum for a while now and I doubt I will be posting any more frequently now that I am married, but I will never forget what this forum means to me, how a lot of you helped me to keep the hope alive in Allah and how each of you have personally affected in me a positive change by the will of Allah.
for that I am grateful to Allah, grateful to Him for your kindness and encouragement,
your nurturing spirit will forever be cherished by me. And I pray that He will reward you all with the best of both, this life and the next Ameen.
it’s a bitter sweet ending here for me, so many memories... I met some of you in real life, but most of you I will never meet in this life. I want you all to know this: you’re all special to me and I ask you to forgive me for any wrongdoing and pain I may have caused, and to remember me in your dua as I too will remember you in mine.
may Allah bless us all, forgive us all and give us all the best of this and the next Ameen!!
@Scimitar thanks - i feel this test is very hard. Its hard being rejected and seeing all these people get married and im 31 now. Im always making dua always. I just want this hardship to end
I think I was around 35 when I joined this forum, and with similar issues to you. I got married at 43 (i'm now 44) and my wife is 40 (she was a year younger when we married). Don't stress over it. You will find someone, just focus on your relationship with Allah - and be pleased with His decree. Allah rewards the patient ones.
I agree but maybe there is wisdom behind this delay. Can i ask you a question though? Sometimes when X rejects you for whatever reason do you not think what if you dont get better? Scary
I agree but maybe there is wisdom behind this delay. Can i ask you a question though? Sometimes when X rejects you for whatever reason do you not think what if you dont get better? Scary
Why does the fault have to lie with you? It doesn't. You've grown into your skin, so be comfortable inside it.
I agree but maybe there is wisdom behind this delay. Can i ask you a question though? Sometimes when X rejects you for whatever reason do you not think what if you dont get better? Scary
No I don’t think that way. Why would you?
We should always strive to make ourselves into better people but this is different from being broken and needing to be fixed (which we aren’t).
And verily for everything that a slave loses there is a substitute, but the one who loses Allah will never find anything to replace Him.” [Related by Ibn al-Qayyim in ad-Dâ' wad-Dawâ Fasl 49]
I liked this one guy and we had an argument and i acted like i didnt care about him but i did. Anyways he said he doesnt want to give me another chance and i cant help but think “if only i hadnt said that” maybe him and i would be getting married.
I liked this one guy and we had an argument and i acted like i didnt care about him but i did. Anyways he said he doesnt want to give me another chance and i cant help but think “if only i hadnt said that” maybe him and i would be getting married.
A lesson learnt eh?
If you care about someone, bite your tongue and let them air their concerns. One can never fight fire with fire. Be the water to the fire, and he will do the same for you in sh'Allah. Remaining patient also means avoiding argumentation, for the sake of the greater good.
Limit communication as well, because before marriage the shayateen will do their best to ensure you don't marry. So limit communication and only speak if necessary. After marriage, everything is halal, so save it for after marriage.
May Allah unite you in marriage to a pious Muslim man ameen!
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