Where do you live brother?
It is not that common for a woman seeking divorce.
I hope you did not experience that.
Regarding marriage, you should well choose before and better have the proper faculties, housing and wealth.
Kufr is very near to faqr.
If you do not have the resources, problems start often.
Best is to choose women as per ahlaq and religion, but even along with that it is your duty to be very productive and achieving, the more the better, better running a business or getting a second job.
If you married before you started practicing, then the woman married an another man.
Women who do not practice a lot need to see in you a great leader, great achiever, very good hygiene, fitness, clothing, perfumes, even testosterone levels (try to research halal supplements).
They live status, riches, muscles, leaderships, very good and often bedroom, travells, restaurants, that you consistantly and dynamically live and innovate and improve lives at a daily level.
The paragraph below is a little bit EXPLICIT, but it is NEEDED.
Who does not want to read, skip to next paragraph.
They love a nice sportscar. They love a trip to the Alps or Maldives.
They need nice and sexy words and dynamic love making. They love gifts. They need to get their satisfaction and orgasms during lovemaking. It is islamically a must, not to get away from woman until she is satisfied (I must say, and we should not be shy with it as it is very, very important in marriage and convayed in part in multiple hadith, use hands, fingers, even sex toys-there is a similar hadith on even that). You must have a great foreplay, maybe at least 10-15 mins. She should be very, very excited, almost beg you for intercourse part. Do not forget to recite duas before. Let your wife experiment during intercourse, tell her to do what she wants, not only lie on bed.
After one intercourse, get a wudhdhu and start another. Some women need 2-3 full courses. Tgat was common even for Arabs 1400 years ago. You will found hadith about the wudhdhu part. Watch for hygiene, use perfume. If your drive is low, it is not a shame to use halal testosterone booster supplements nor viagra. The female may use viagra too or libido boosters. It is not a shame, it is often needed.
https://www.healthline.com/health/i-...-i-took-viagra
Eat a lot protein foods, milk, nuts, dairy, take halal creatine monohydrate and whey if healthy (not renal impairments etc.).
In the future speak with a sexologist if needed.
This product seems good:
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Muscle-Nora..._id=6008227031
If something around you gets lower, like for example status, as people start calling you names, like poor, or extremist, or dpuchebag, fat, overweight, skinny etc. the non practicing wife will start to feel contempt and it build up if you are passive.
You can be s sunnah follower if you run a multimillon business, but can not if you live on social funds.
Also, you need friends. If you have great friends it adds to your status and their religion practicing wifes will share the noor with your wife.
Get good friends and call them for a dinner or go to a trip often with 2-3 cars.
More practicing woman are less prone to such contempts, but you must watch the picture you leave in the family, community and the society.
Whatever happened, you should invest the months and years to come into improving yourself a lot, educating further, getting the testosterone levels up (not to get my wrong, you should stay a gentleman, be kind, merciful etc.), improving nutrition and fitness greatly, looks, getting a second job or a business, travell, be altruistic and volounteering un the community, spending zakah, giving plenty of sadaqah, getting tutors and babysitters for children, involving them into sports and best schooling, buying them a car and a flat nowdays is common.
Woman want success and achievements. When you improve a lot, maybe in 2-3 years, you will notice that the whole community suddenly has daughters to marry for you.
Invest your time and money well.
Of course, do not neglect the "more" deeni part, increase salawat (try to get 1000x salawat ibrahimi mornings and evenings (get up early, righ after or before fajr start (maybe 45 mins to eat, because of every second day nawafil fasting and to pray tahajjud).
Recite a lot of estegfar, like astagfirullah al adheem alladgee la ilaha illa huwal hayyul qayyumu wa atubu ilayh, shukrulillah, tasbeeh: subhanallahe walhamdullillahe wa la ilaha illallahu wallahu akbar wa la hawla wa la quwwata illa billahil aliyyil adheem, asma ul husna, especially Ya Hayyum Ya Qayyumu and Ya Dhal Jalali wal ikraam, tasbeeh Yunus, everything at least 1000x daily (2x500). Do not forget seeking estagfar and rahmah for other believing men and women, like Allahumma gfirli warhamni warzuqni wa lil mominina wal mominati, 1000x daily.
Recite duas mornings and evenings from Momin ka hathyaar Ad Dua Divine help Hisn al muslim and
https://www.nooresunnat.com/Audio/Zi...ening_duas.pdf
When you get more money, try to spend a lot for community welfare, local mosque, finance hafeez education, like
https://www.almustafatrust.org/appea...onsor-a-hafiz/
Finance water, food, classrooms etc.
InshaAllah it will be better and better.
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