Hope you are all well Bi'ithnillahu Ta'aala my brothers and fishters in Deen!
Hmm....welll *grin*
Ookay....I assume most of us here have heard of or used the Private messaging facility during our time here, right? And if not you're just retarded lol
Well basically we all know it exists and we all also know that any member can be contacted using it....But SubhanAllah! My dear brothers and sisters! Please fear Allah regarding all matters! Know that He is watching every single thing that you do, He knows what goes on in the hidden depths of your heart, so please bear that in mind before you do anything.
Brothers - For the sake of Allah (swt) please do not PM sisters without reason, ok you may need help (maybe once in a while, its very possible)....but think for a moment, maybe a brother could help you with the same thing? huh...? Just think insha'Allah, and if you really do need to PM a sis, keep it short and to the point.
And I'd like to mention here that this thread is to remind myself before anybody else since we are all human and prone to make mistakes and to err. But Brothers, please do not PM sisters asking for their personal details etc....this is NOT a matrimonial site subhanAllah if thats what you want then go look for one, but this is not the place.
...Hmm, and also a reminder for the sisters...Let us maintain our Hayaa insha'Allah and keep ourselves away from fitnah, we are the future mothers of this Ummah bi'ithnillah so my dear Akhwaat! Lets keep away from the shaytaans whisperings and safeguard ourselves from harm!
Know that this world is nothing but the blinking of an eye, we are living for the hereafter so lets make sure we are prepared enough for it.
Ok, ima end this with a quote insha'Allah, I really hope nobody was offended by this post and if anybody was then I sincerely apologise.
'The world is 3 days, as for yesterday, it has vanished along with all that was in it. As for tomorrow, you may never see it. As for today, it is yours so work in it.' Hasan al Basri
Lets make sure we make the most of our time insha'Allah and do not live to regret time spent in idle pursuits
I think wat 2 grown up individuals do in pms is their business n none of ours to be frank.
That is true, but at the same time the forum admins and mods have a responsibility to take action if it is misused. The purpose of the PMs should be primarily for the purposes of clarifying posts, encourage same gender friendships and to help spread Islam and strengthen each others Iman.
We shudnt be soo suspicious. We should only worry about our own deeds.
True. It is not the desire of any of us to spread suspicision. However, on a personal note I do have the responsibility to act upon any complaints about any misuse of PMs.
Fortunatly, this is not a problem that affects the large majority of the members. Although I and probably some other staff members have recieved complaints about some misuse, it does seem most members have been using it as intended.
The bottom line. those who use the PM system properly have no problems. If you or anybody else gets an inappropriate PM, please foreward it to a mod or admin.
Yup tiz true that we should look to ourselves and our own deeds first, but where is giving naseehah forbidden?
Also, yeah maybe its none of our business what others do, but just like we are rewarded for enjoining what is good, we are also rewarded for forbidding what is evil. We will be asked about the good that we did, and the ones in a position of power (the mods and admins) will also be asked about what they did and bi'ithnillahu ta'aala they'll be able to say that they stopped free-mixing between the genders.
And @ some of the comments, no there may not be an epidemic of 'intimate PM's' going on, but we take precautions just before the illness right? we protect ourselves from the virus and take all neccassary measures to keep away from it, same way...this is just a reminder, JUST INCASE anything does happen (Allah forbid)....wallahu A'lam.
Oh and btw, those who commented on the bolded part...Brothers - For the sake of Allah (swt) please do not PM sisters without reason....
^^ well I dont see what seems to be the problem? Its a simple request. Case closed
i personally havent experianced anythin like that and i'm sure we have a loot of good hearted brothers here as well as those with bad intentions,
I ask Allah to guide us all and make our hearts firm on his religion
Ameen, thumma Ameen.
And yeah...I'm sure...actually I'm POSITIVE there are sincere brothers out there, I'm just warning against those not so sincere....No need for any of the brothers to get offended and if they do then I apologise.
True there are times that a PM exchange between genders is not only justified, but valued and needed. But, things that may seem to be prying or flirtatious are often not appreciated, in either direction.
I agree.
I've had some of the most valuable PM exchanges with male forum members here in LI.
I have valued them, and never have I thought they were inappropriate.
Besides, men have a way of putting things into perspective, and balancing my views as a woman.
Peace glo
Here I stand.
I can do no other.
May God help me.
Amen.
Come, let us worship and bow down •
and kneel before the Lord our Maker
[Psalm 95]
First of all I want to say thanx for the reminder but you dont have to rub it in that much I mean im sure its a small few people that have done this, some of the posts seem as if all brothers are in the middle of writing poems to all sisters.
One thing I want to ask is do the mods act upon complaints and check PM's or do they just go into random bros Pm's to see?
And last but not least my advice to the sisters is that if they get such an email, they should point it out to the bro that what he is doing is wrong, or how he is coming across is not acceptable, because maybe some brother may not even realise it.
SubhanAllah! I aint rubbing anything at all in akhee.
You know what, I'll just leave you with a hadeeth that comes to mind when people say what you just did, when people say that we make it seem as though the sin was actually far worse than it is.
You do things which in your eyes are less significant than a hair, but at the time of the Messenger of Allah, we used to count them as things that could destroy a man. (Bukhaari)
First of all I want to say thanx for the reminder but you dont have to rub it in that much I mean im sure its a small few people that have done this, some of the posts seem as if all brothers are in the middle of writing poems to all sisters.
That is true, it does seem to be a very small number. It is not all brothers there although it seems that sisters are more apt to report it to us.
One thing I want to ask is do the mods act upon complaints and check PM's or do they just go into random bros Pm's to see?
It is acting upon PMs that get forwarded to us as being inappropriate. The privacy of members is highly respected and protected as much as is possible.
And last but not least my advice to the sisters is that if they get such an email, they should point it out to the bro that what he is doing is wrong, or how he is coming across is not acceptable, because maybe some brother may not even realise it.
Good point, however to keep things fair, it is best for each member male or female to not reply to a questionable PM and simply report it to us. This will help get another opinion as to if it was an intentional or accidental thing. We are aware that often because of language differences something harmless may be seen in a wrong light.
The hadeeth that you just gave - deep...but very true.
Satan won't attack a muslim at once, he's too clever, he'll do it bit by bit...which is why Jolie is just reminding that we should think twice before sending a PM to the opposite gender. I'm sure,that you could PM someone of your own gender who would IA be more that happy to help. There will always be people to help...if not, the mods and admins are here too!!
But another hadeeth: The believer regards his sins as if he were sitting beneath mountain which he fears may fall on him. Whereas the sinner regards his sin as if a fly lands on his nose and he wipes it away
No Probs ukhty! It's my fault...I thought I'd filled the gender in, but I must have been dreaming...I'll go do it now inshAllah
JazakAllahukhairan for the hadith. It really is saddening to see this happen! May Allah forgive our sins, and shower His blessing and mercy on us...Ameen...
No Probs ukhty! It's my fault...I thought I'd filled the gender in, but I must have been dreaming...I'll go do it now inshAllah
JazakAllahukhairan for the hadith. It really is saddening to see this happen! May Allah forgive our sins, and shower His blessing and mercy on us...Ameen...
SubhanALLAH im listening to the lecture and everything he is saying is so true!!!!!!!
actually he's refraining to some of us,including me,about giving advise and giving fatwas...how we might be might be unknowingly leading someone astray.SubhanALLAH its so true!!!!!
Sister JσℓιєFℓєυя made some of the same points
Verily, His Command, when He intends a thing, is only that He says to it, Be! and it is.
it's a must for us to prevent others from wrong doing. Prophet Muhammed (p) said ( not the exact words ) If we can't stop them physically , then must do it orally , if can't do that either then must hate that & that's the weakest faith.
Christ will never be proud to reject to be a slave to God .....holy Quran, chapter Women , 4: 172
SubhanAllah! I aint rubbing anything at all in akhee.
You know what, I'll just leave you with a hadeeth that comes to mind when people say what you just did, when people say that we make it seem as though the sin was actually far worse than it is.
You do things which in your eyes are less significant than a hair, but at the time of the Messenger of Allah, we used to count them as things that could destroy a man. (Bukhaari)
Maybe you've not understood me but I didnt say the sin is lighter then everyone thinks at all, but rather its the impression I was getting from this thread (generally, not pointing you out) that its alot of bros on this forum when its only a very small number, as bro woodrow also pointed out.
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