My 12-year old bro discovered YouTube today Now that sounds kinda sad but its because I've never let him use the internet before and today I gave in...
Now the thing is, he wanted to listen to Outlandish, I tried explaining why he shouldnt, because it contains music etc and he turned around and said, 'If music is haram why does Islam Channel play this nasheed?'...
I tried explaining but he wouldnt listen, so basically...how best to explain that music is haram? I dont wanna scare him with the punishment etc...(even though he's 12 he's still a baby to me ) just give a good enough reason.
I mean, if he gets into music now....he's more likely to listen to it with his friends etc and get addicted...but if I try dissuading him I dont think he'll be as interested since at home we're always playing nasheeds, but I know that at school its diff...
You could Try to Suggest Him To listen Nasheeds Without Music ,
Im sure There Are Nasheeds That are Waay Better Than Outlandish Like Zain Bikha for example
Last edited by IB-Staff; 09-05-2008 at 05:22 AM.
And as for the onewho fears standing in front of His Lord and restrainsthe soul from impure evil desires and lusts, verily, Paradise will be his abode [79:40-41]
sis just tell him about the punishments ur bro is not a kid anymore hes old enough to know.
and advice him to join this forum too. that way he will get to learn things himself.
Three simple rules in life:
1) If you do not go after what you want, you will never have it
2) If you don't ask, the answer will always be no.
3) If you do not step forward, you'll always be in the same place
Haha, it's silly not to tell him about the punishments just because he's still a "baby" (when he isn't really being 12 years old ). We told our nieces and nephews from a young age (way before 12 years ) that music is haram and about the reward of paradise and the punishment of Allah etc. and they don't listen to music. So yeah you should do that too inshaAllah, though it's best to instill all this into children at a young age before they grow up and start questioning things instead of being in the "we hear and obey" mode .
Hmmm, and the system of punishment and reward always works, in anything, even Islam is based upon that . Afterall if Allah could not Benefit us or Harm us in anyway, there would be no point in worshipping Him, and that's the argument used in the Quran against idols and false gods.
I disagree with some of the posts above in telling him the punishments.
I'd tell him "We've been ordered by our creator, and we must listen. Do you really want to disobey your Lord?"
And then you, JolieFleur, have to say this:
"Your my brother and I love you and I want to only benefit you, not make your life harsh." and then you have to hug him.
That's what sisters do, right?
:$
Should I seek a source of law other than God, when it is He Who has sent down unto you the Book (Qur'an) fully explained? And those whom We have given them the Book know that it has been sent down from the Lord with truth, so be not of those in doubt.
Brother- How can Islam channel be wrong? They play that nasheed all the time....
WassalamuAlaykum Warahmatullah
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Wa iyyaki .
Hmmm, well tell him that Islam Channel isnt Allah or the Prophet (sallallahu 'alaihi wasallam) (astaghfirullah wa naudhubillah), and then show him the ahadith etc. where music is forbidden, as said by the Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) (apart from Daf ).
And depending on how smart he is (), you can explain to him Islam Channel is just a name, it's run by normal people who don't always get it right or completely follow Islam as they should and blah.
Kids need to be taught from an early age about Islam and what's right or wrong, all the details, or they'll go astray and when they come back on the right path they'll be thinking "Why didn't the ones who knew this teach me before?" Its true .
Hmmm, well tell him that Islam Channel isnt Allah or the Prophet (sallallahu 'alaihi wasallam) (astaghfirullah wa naudhubillah), and then show him the ahadith etc. where music is forbidden, as said by the Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) (apart from Daf ).
And depending on how smart he is (), you can explain to him Islam Channel is just a name, it's run by normal people who don't always get it right or completely follow Islam as they should and blah.
Kids need to be taught from an early age about Islam and what's right or wrong, all the details, or they'll go astray and when they come back on the right path they'll be thinking "Why didn't the ones who knew this teach me before?" Its true .
My 12-year old bro discovered YouTube today Now that sounds kinda sad but its because I've never let him use the internet before and today I gave in...
Now the thing is, he wanted to listen to Outlandish, I tried explaining why he shouldnt, because it contains music etc and he turned around and said, 'If music is haram why does Islam Channel play this nasheed?'...
I tried explaining but he wouldnt listen, so basically...how best to explain that music is haram? I dont wanna scare him with the punishment etc...(even though he's 12 he's still a baby to me ) just give a good enough reason.
I mean, if he gets into music now....he's more likely to listen to it with his friends etc and get addicted...but if I try dissuading him I dont think he'll be as interested since at home we're always playing nasheeds, but I know that at school its diff...
Youtube is awesome dude, let him use it, dun be such a silleh billeh and erm Outlandish are awesome aswell...Not during Ramadhan though.. *rolls eyes*
Tell him about the punishments sis and see how he reacts, you may feel like he is a baby but still I'm sure that once you tell him about the reality, he will be seriously effected (in a good way) inshaAllaah, I mean most people I know, if there Imaan is low, they usually read up in things about the hell fire about the tribulations of the grave and Akhiraah, once this fear is instilled in him, I'm sure he'll understand to stay away from that which is haraam, Innay
The last thing you want is, as you say, get him addicted to Music even with good lyrics behind it, it is wrong and you know it, and it's hard to give up Music, ask anyone who is an addict, giving up of whatever is hard, e.g. smoking =P
So basically, the same thing everyone else said =D
Can I have the cat? Let's trade the cat in your avatar for my little brother?
I disagree with some of the posts above in telling him the punishments.
I'd tell him "We've been ordered by our creator, and we must listen. Do you really want to disobey your Lord?"
And then you, JolieFleur, have to say this:
"Your my brother and I love you and I want to only benefit you, not make your life harsh." and then you have to hug him.
That's what sisters do, right?
:$
Let me clear something that may seem unclear: by not telling him punishments, I actually meant don't tell him so much that he's going to have nightmares or something Allah forbid, e.g. "you will rot in hell if you do for eternity and you will never rest! ".. the guy's only 12 .
Should I seek a source of law other than God, when it is He Who has sent down unto you the Book (Qur'an) fully explained? And those whom We have given them the Book know that it has been sent down from the Lord with truth, so be not of those in doubt.
Let me clear something that may seem unclear: by not telling him punishments, I actually meant don't tell him so much that he's going to have nightmares or something Allah forbid.. the guy's only 12 .
Lol agreed....I'm just finding it difficult with this for some reason...if it was pure music then I'd probably tell him properly once and if he didnt then give him a backhander (And I dont care if anyody dissagrees) ... But I know its difficult enough keeping away from music in the first place and then adding on to that that Nasheeds with music are forbidden aswell.
I mean lets be honest...there are some pretty good nasheeds out there that contain music...and sometimes its like....ohh its only a nasheed..lemme just listen to it for a while...and for sum1 like you and I...we can quickly pull ourselves back and keep ourselves in check. Allahu A'lam...
First off, your lil bro is lucky he has you! I listened to music back then even, so no one really told me. I'm sure he'd understand if you told him the consequences, and the waste of time it is. Because if someone told me them when I was younger before Britney Spears and Nsync, I'm pretty sure I would have understood and it might have been easier to resist.
My 12-year old bro discovered YouTube today Now that sounds kinda sad but its because I've never let him use the internet before and today I gave in...
Now the thing is, he wanted to listen to Outlandish, I tried explaining why he shouldnt, because it contains music etc and he turned around and said, 'If music is haram why does Islam Channel play this nasheed?'...
I tried explaining but he wouldnt listen, so basically...how best to explain that music is haram? I dont wanna scare him with the punishment etc...(even though he's 12 he's still a baby to me ) just give a good enough reason.
I mean, if he gets into music now....he's more likely to listen to it with his friends etc and get addicted...but if I try dissuading him I dont think he'll be as interested since at home we're always playing nasheeds, but I know that at school its diff...
Help? Suggestions?
WassalamuAlaykum
im going through almost the same thingee with my niece...so yeha this threads good for me too. jazakillahu khair sis
...desperate for husnul-khitaam...
please make dua that Allah grants me a good end (to my life). please make dua that Allah guides me.
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