Here's a question i've been pondering lately. Would you consider marrying someone you met online or by finding someone online? How about from this forum or any islamic forum for that matter?
First lets get a few things clear. I don't mean you meet online and do marriage online without even meeting or seeing each other in person first. I don't mean you get all friendly with each other and then say you "fell" for each other. I don't mean you do this one on one with each other and your family doesn't know about it. What I do mean is that you find someone online that you think is a worthy potential and you would be willing to have your family involved and meet each other and see if it's something that could be possible after getting the process going.
just read my posts and u'll see what i mean by "online"
even if you get to know someone like i said MAYBE, but thats a big maybe, like for example we know each other of the forum, but we dont know if people are just puttin on a act or they are actually like this, because as one of UK's top psychologists i know that people use the internet to escape their real life or use the internet to portray a image that they want, but dont really have! so i would vote againist
Jaa-Ro-Nee-Mo!!!
"they ask you when will the help of Allah (swt) come! Certainly Allah (Swt) help is always near"
this how i see it.. i mean how can we trust someone online . he can be a stalker or a killer i mean he can be fakeeeeeeeee . so y should i put my self in that position not that im saying all but there is a 50/50% chance. i would perfer to meet in the real world ( school unvi )rather than online. and parents must be included .. i dont wanna put hope in a guy and then the answer is NO.
Last edited by arabianprincess; 12-02-2008 at 07:07 PM.
Asalam alaikum,
I saw so many responses about having parents choose. I am a revert and grew up here in the we so can someone explain is this the custom or is due to your ages???
As for the internet question, I guess it does really depends on the whole situation. But I would definetley have to meet them in person and know thier background and check into it and meet family etc. Can't be too safe with the internet. It is the computer age so its not that big of a deal anymore. Just be safe. There sometimes is not alot of options when you don't know alot of people who can help you out especially being a revert.
I am a born Muslim from a middle eastern background and I am not sure what the 'parents choosing' is about either?..
I wouldn't let my mother pick out an outfit for me let alone a husband how weird would that be?.. I'd be very curious too as to what that means..
I prefer real people to virtual ones.. not that there is anything wrong with folks who prefer virtual spouses.. I think it works for some people...
the whole world east or west is about match making now it seems?.. at least I am so starting to believe based on all those
match.com, eharmony commercials and bar hopping I am seeing...
I guess I have always felt that when it is time, you make it your intent in your heart and Allah swt will choose for you?
Last edited by جوري; 12-02-2008 at 04:46 AM.
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First off, there are too many drawbacks and secondly, how would I ever tell my parents how I met him? They'd laugh in my face and would never believe me if I said ''the internet''. They'd say, ''ohhh isn't that the same place where I listen to BBC Somalia? How do you meet a man on there?" Even though the conditions of marriage are the same online as they are offline, it'd still be too hard. Since nobody knows what you're up to you could also fall into some potential fitnah.
Personally, I think I would need to know the person for a looonggg time, maybe a year or more online to decide if theres a possibility that things can be taken a step further.
And by a step further I would give the person my fathers contact info and they can take it from there.
I think its possible. But you just need time to get to know how they are. Plus, you would then meet with family and see if the person is the same in real life or not.
some times we can find good girls i am a boy tats my opinion m8
halhadulilah
سُبْحَانَ اللّهِ - SubhanAllah (Glory be to Allah)
Whoever recites [the above] one Hundred times, a thousand good deeds are recorded for him or a thousand bad deeds are wiped away.Sahih Muslim; #4:2073.
meeting online - minus the haram - plus the involvement of wali - plus a meeting between the two - plus a good background check of both parties = not bad
i did the math oh:
THE MATHoh:
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My tears testify that i have a heart
yet i feel me and shaytan never part
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some times we can find good girls i am a boy tats my opinion m8
halhadulilah
Alhamdulillah
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meeting online - minus the haram - plus the involvement of wali - plus a meeting between the two - plus a good background check of both parties = not bad
ya sisoooooo i already selected a good girl masha allah
سُبْحَانَ اللّهِ - SubhanAllah (Glory be to Allah)
Whoever recites [the above] one Hundred times, a thousand good deeds are recorded for him or a thousand bad deeds are wiped away.Sahih Muslim; #4:2073.
Lol, masha'Allah akhee may Allah (swt) bless you both. Ameen
jaza kalla khair make dua 4 us sisoooo
سُبْحَانَ اللّهِ - SubhanAllah (Glory be to Allah)
Whoever recites [the above] one Hundred times, a thousand good deeds are recorded for him or a thousand bad deeds are wiped away.Sahih Muslim; #4:2073.
Asalam alaikum,
I saw so many responses about having parents choose. I am a revert and grew up here in the we so can someone explain is this the custom or is due to your ages???
Maybe they mean the parents keep a lookout for potential partners and then take a step further if one shows interest in the other or if it seems a likely match?
Maybe they mean the parents keep a lookout for potential partners and then take a step further if one shows interest in the other or if it seems a likely match?
u got it...... but i guess these days everyone looks for there own partners and hope that the parents will love em !
Well, me, personnally, i would never start talking to a guy on internet =P
So there's like nooo chance at all!
But I don't really know about parents choosing...
I mean, I'm ok with the fact that the parents find a guy, but you should see, and get to him, and see if you like him or not
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Hopefully i'll be married then Insha''Allah.
how weird would that be?.. I'd be very curious too as to what that means..
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