Here's a question i've been pondering lately. Would you consider marrying someone you met online or by finding someone online? How about from this forum or any islamic forum for that matter?
First lets get a few things clear. I don't mean you meet online and do marriage online without even meeting or seeing each other in person first. I don't mean you get all friendly with each other and then say you "fell" for each other. I don't mean you do this one on one with each other and your family doesn't know about it. What I do mean is that you find someone online that you think is a worthy potential and you would be willing to have your family involved and meet each other and see if it's something that could be possible after getting the process going.
Its not any different than the masjid martimonial system....virtually any deranged person can sign up similarly with the internet a crazy person might put a great act on but contrast to that the person might be mashallah a top notch person
Can you name an online Muslim matrimonial service that manages to be all that?
I'm not mocking, I'm asking a genuine question.
Getting married to someone from online does not necessarily have to be via marriage sites. Personally, I find those sites to be very dodgy, and wouldn't go on them. A lot of lies and deception is involved. Pictures, chatting etc. Not seen as very respectable.
When I said that u can get married to someone from online and also keep it strictly Islamic, I didn't have matrimonial sites in mind. I was looking at it from a different angle and aspect. I was thinking about people from online (Islamic) universities, online forums (e.g. LI), online Islamic institutions where students of knowledge come to learn etc. Many people that come on sites such as these are genuine people. Many of the sisters I know and am friends with from LI (online) and from an online Islamic Institute which I'm a member of, are genuine people who have come from good and religious families. I know this because I've met many of them in person.
Even though we are not friends with and don't chat to certain members, we can get to know them just by reading their posts. To a certain extent, we can tell what kind of a person they are, their character, knowledge, piety, nature, mentality etc. Therefore, the situation is different from that on matrimonial sites where strangers are putting up their profiles and advertising themselves for marriage.
Having said that, I'm not posting in this thread to encourage people to marry someone from online or on this forum for that matter. Nor am I stating what I personally prefer. I'm just making this post to clarify to many of us, that not all situations are dangerous, deceptive, blind and haram.
Like for example, lets take this situation: Ismail is Zainabs elder brother and they both are students of an online Islamic Institute. They have their own students forum where they can discuss matters concerning Islam and their course. There are also many other dedicated students of knowledge like them on these forums. Ismail has made friends with many of these brothers who he's met on these forums, and Zainab has made friends with many sisters. Now every 4 or 5 months, the students have to attend weekend courses with their Sheikh as part of there syllabus and to sit exams. These are conducted at a school/university building over a number of various cities (segregated environment). During these courses, Ismail gets to meet his friends in person, and Zainab gets to meet hers. Ismail likes one particular brother whom he met on this online Institute, and thinks him a good match for his sister. This brother really respects Ismail too, and would feel honoured to be his brother in law.
Now this brother is someone who Ismail and Zainab initially know from online, yet see the situation? Her brother found her a good husband via these forums and it was done in a totally Islamic, honorable and respectable way.
Jazakallahu khair for clearing that up pixie. That's what I assumed as much that many folks on here are seeing through only one lens and a bias one at that.
There was this one i watched on tyra banks show bout this muslim guy who met a hindu girl online in India. After knowing each other online for a while she went ova to America married him and converted. Apparently her parents would kill her if she went back to india. Sounds like a romantic story LOL
bout whether i will do it, i have no idea never considered it
salams,
Yeh Leave it to your parents & ALLAH HU ALIM, leave to the creator, & whateva he brings to you, inshallah you make the right decision, Marriages such a topic, Great ,also Scary & Annoying!! soo many of my mates have got married.. makes me jealous.. But inshallah everyones turns come inshallah.
RAB RAKAH
There was this one i watched on tyra banks show bout this muslim guy who met a hindu girl online in India. After knowing each other online for a while she went ova to America married him and converted. Apparently her parents would kill her if she went back to india. Sounds like a romantic story LOL
bout whether i will do it, i have no idea never considered it
There was a Muslim girl in uk who met a hindu from india online, she fell in love with him (after lots of late night chats and other shady online stuff behind her parent's back). She went to india and got married to him. This is what happens when parents these days put internet and pc in their kid's room, or don't watch what their kids are doing online.
There was this one i watched on tyra banks show bout this muslim guy who met a hindu girl online in India. After knowing each other online for a while she went ova to America married him and converted. Apparently her parents would kill her if she went back to india. Sounds like a romantic story LOL
bout whether i will do it, i have no idea never considered it
It is wonderful she converted and all.. but selling your family for a dude you met online? That is pretty sad.. there is an Arabic adage that translates to --'if you don't have respect and love for your family.. you won't have love and respect for anyone else'....If things turn sour between them, she'll have lost everything.
Text without context is pretext If your opponent is of choleric temperament, seek to irritate him
It is wonderful she converted and all.. but selling your family for a dude you met online? That is pretty sad.. there is an Arabic adage that translates to --'if you don't have respect and love for your family.. you won't have love and respect for anyone else'....If things turn sour between them, she'll have lost everything.
I agree. Unless your parents are evil horrible satan-like people, and the guy is amazing, has deen, akhlaq, is a once in a lifetime kind of person, I wouldn't abandon my family for him.
I would rather say this is what happens when parents don't raise their children well, in this day & age prevention through banning doesn't work..
I'm not talking about banning, but rather monitor. If your kid is up in his/her room watching porno and you think they are studying. No matter how good of a job you have done, you still missed something!
i know but still arghhhhh.People here are muslims but only by name, its really weird.
Last edited by Periwinkle18; 12-14-2008 at 10:12 AM.
Allah made everyone different thats what makes them special,so no matter what ppl say just remember you're SPECIAL!! "You are with the one you love"
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