Firstly, this is a no debate zone. If any anti-islamists overtake, i’ll show you what a bad side is all about!
Amma ba3ad (to proceed):
I am trying to figure out something.
In the verse it says that men are allowed to “hit” their wives in order to discipline them.
from the brothers, I want to know- what if it were the other way around and the girl had the authority to hit you? What affect would that have on you?
Forget your ego for a second, I mean in your nature, how would a man react to that? Would he become even more stubborn, or
...desperate for husnul-khitaam...
please make dua that Allah grants me a good end (to my life). please make dua that Allah guides me.
JazakAllah Khayr clarifying,and it's a topic on if a women hits her husband if he does something bad and how would you feel,my question to sisters now is,What type of bad things would you hit him for? just so I can be ready....:X
oh right because some of the replies are not abusive type replies but jokey type. honestly if a spouse is hitting because they are abusive they have some serious issues going on, it wouldnt be laughed at/brushed off.
seriously as brothers would you not feel insulted and want to hit back?
And as for the onewho fears standing in front of His Lord and restrainsthe soul from impure evil desires and lusts, verily, Paradise will be his abode [79:40-41]
Tbh if and when i get a hubby i wouldnt hit him for looking at another woman - wud jus make him hate me - i would let him off 1ce or 2ce but any more times n he will get a nice, juicy, resounding slap thats gonna shake the walls of the house. lol.
Id hit him for being a prick, or not cleaning up, or saying something rude, or just p ing me off.
TIP TO SISTERS: treat ur hubby like a kid lol - reward him with smarties wen hes good, and smack him when hes bad - shud work
I don't think brothers take it seriously, well my experience in my brother always laughs whenever I hit him for going into my room or invading my privacy (and he's 25 and 6'2''). :X And I hit him very hard.
As for Alpha Jr's question, if my husband hit me I would be silent for like 10 minutes straight. Don't know what I'd do to be honest. Sisters are always told to ''defend themselves'', but you never really know until you're put in a situation like that.
LOL my cousins always crack up when i hit them and I am stroong!
Theyre like...Go away, stupid kid.
Thing is Ameena and fightingforiman, your sis hitting you is not like your wife hitting you..when your wife hits you it means alot more, trust me. I mean your sister will always be your sister, but wuldnt you be afraid to lose your woman?
IF my hubby hit me i would just not believe it. I'd b silent for like..10 seconds then it really sinks in and i would go CRAZY trust me, i am loud and fiesty when im angry :P. But afterwards id be all sad n wait for him to come n say sorry n make up. and if he doesnt ill go begging him to forgive me lol.
I would NEVER hit my husband......he would have to do something truly unforgiveable.........like....commit zina or something.Even then i would be more sad than angry.
...and sisters, hitting over small things.....now that marriage aint gna last very long.
My heart, so precious,
I won't trade for a hundred thousand souls.
Your one smile takes it for free.Rumi
ofcourse its not ok!, but im not gna stoop to his level.
just imagine....your husband slapping you, and then trying to be intimate with you later...i would seriously feel sick....
brothers please never hit your wives over small things, it really breaks a womans dignity and worst of all she immediately loses all respect for you. So there nothing to gain from violence.
My heart, so precious,
I won't trade for a hundred thousand souls.
Your one smile takes it for free.Rumi
yes i agree with sis Sahabiyaat, imagine the next time he raised his hand to itch his head and wifey was close by she'd think maybe 'oh oh i'm in for another slap/puch etc' noh?
wa/salam
سلامة الإنسان في حلاوة اللسان
The safety of a human is in the sweetness of his tongue.
بسم الله الذي لا يضرّ مع اسمه شيءٌ في الأرضِ و لا في السّماءِ و هو السّميعُ العليم
from the brothers, I want to know- what if it were the other way around and the girl had the authority to hit you? What affect would that have on you?
Forget your ego for a second, I mean in your nature, how would a man react to that? Would he become even more stubborn, or
As far as the hitting goes, I think people should get more familiar with what it means to discipline someone Islamically, as shown in doorsters post. It isn't meant to hurt someone physically (punch/slap/roundhouse kick to the face/etc.).
Last edited by Alpha Dude; 05-06-2009 at 06:39 PM.
wow this totally is one of those totally hypothetical questions.
yeah i had a couple more, but they slipped my mind lol
Howd you think these things up?
over thinking ...nah see below
format_quote Originally Posted by ayan333
nice question sis.
Im pretty sure sister Umm ul-Shaheed is knowledgable,and know the reason behind th question.Im sure theres wisdom behind it so brothers please answer the question in a mature manner InshALLAH
answer away!
barakallahu feeki, but knowledgeable i deffo aint
the reason i asked is because i was wondering whether or not Allah legislated that she get "hit" and not the other way around cos i thought maybe just maybe there is somehting in our nature that such measures would be a benefit, due to this (unknown) thing in our nature...
but if the dude got hit and is disciplined by his wife, then maybe that would just make the situation worse. i just cant help but wonder if there is something in his nature too that the same legislation wouldn't work because of something inherent in him...
format_quote Originally Posted by nightstar
im gona run behind my mum saree, and tell my mom of her hehehe
no, dont do that. your guy, and it'll look sooooooo wrong!
...desperate for husnul-khitaam...
please make dua that Allah grants me a good end (to my life). please make dua that Allah guides me.
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