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flowergarden
First is first, Salaam Alakium Salahudeen.
Second I respect everyone's opinion, but when someone is asking for help, why change the subject to your want and be selfish?
Let me make on thing clear, I am NOT here to ague and when I posted that thread I stickily made it for people to HELP me!!! Not for anyone to talk about women and their duties in the kitchen. Now mr.salahudeen, I am a law student, I have to hear others opinions all the time and I love it... BUT when someone comes in to a thread that I wrote for only the subject matter of helping me to heal because I am going through alot, how dare you tell me I don't have the right to say someone brought the spirt down... think about it clearly brother. It went from everyone getting along, to cooking (which was fine), Than it went to women being in the kitchen, at first I was fine with it, but when I am asking brothers and sisters a question to help me because I didn't know where to go and I only got 3 responses to the help and the rest was about women going in the kitchen than how do you think I felt?! Yes I felt the sprite went down, because everyone was now talking about something and ignoring the reality of the question!
I did ignore their post, but when I ask someone to please stop posting as their post are always offensive not only to me but to others than I have the right to say somehthing... But than agian it was my story, my account and I don't need any more drama in this life. I came here to seek peace of mind not any one to tell me what to think, believe,
Sir, you don;t know me, you do not know my charter, and you do not know my personality. You do not know they fact that I always have to disagree with someone BUT when I came to a forum for help to seek guidance and I get someone out of nowhere starting fights than of course it is bring the sprite down. I made this NEW forum so I can get NEW NICE stories of motivation and kind words!
Please stop assuming I think people on the thread were bad, I never said that!! I merely said their words in previous post were hurtful and they were deleted by the moderators. so it was not only me who thought it was irreverent to bring about such sour subjects in a beautifully advice filling thread.
Me being harsh? I had people posting "ewww you were raped?" I had people saying your not muslim I had one person message me I was a bad girl and not a muslim. You have no clue what I have been through sir, I came on this site to seek guidance not fight about if a women should be in the kitchen or what her "job" is. I cam on here so when I get a break from my studies than I can come here and have guidance.
ANd you sir are the reason I have decided to leave this site because I have lost faith in getting any more help. I thought for the first 2 week it was perfect than I had hateful messages, and I had people making women oppressed on a thread that was about a women who was raped and made mistakes.
I never call any one a such a profane word, I don't use that language, and I don't mind people disagree with me, but when it is on an appropriate thread. If someone wrote on the older post I don't think you deserve a marriage blah blah blah- yeah it would hurt but I would accept their opinion and NOT fight them... but it geared to a wrong and irrelevant subject and I have every right to stop it! end of story
I understand you sir, but you have to understand me when I don't want to come on here having people call me names, say "Well done to you on being an 'independent WORKING WOMEN', do you want a medal? " I worked so hard to get where I am, and I don't need any one telling me I am bad because I made a few mistakes, because I was raped, I don't need anyone to make me out to be a immature women because I don't need to hear a man wanting a women who caters him on my thread that I strictly wanted about motivation, healing, advice, and etc....
Now I can tell you the same thing, Sister Aisha wrote that would not be tolerated so why do you come on here and tell me all this.
I did not disagree with anyone until I got harassed. I didn't care about what any person thought about women until they oppressed them... so please don't bring this subject out anymore.
I thank you for your reply, but I do not praise you for you assuming what my charter is or knowing me in the merest. I don't need a lecture on listening to other opinion as I do know how to and love to, I thank you much for the reminder kind sir, but again, but when one person say rude and mean things to me and if you knew what they were than you can tell me, but until your in my shoes I don't see a point!
I made a new thread to get more help only to get the same thing!
You don't see how this is haraam do you, you didn't say anything to me that I didn't already know, nor that healed me, you assumed who I was.. so much for"let's continue the healing"
I respect you, but please don't start anything, I just am asking for something simple. I am sure your a nice man and intentions are fine, but I didn't say anything wrong... ma'salaam!
Jazak Allah Khair.
I believe this thread should be closed!
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