I did exactly this. I provided my experience and asked questions. Go back and read my posts. At no point did I say "This brother is 100% without a doubt doint XYZ." No. I provided
plausible explanations.
Speaking of assumptions, I do believe you are assuming that emotions were used while advising here when in fact they were not. I have no feelings on this matter. It does anger me to see injustice and I do what I can to prevent it, but ultimately, I am not related to our sister Semira or her boyfriend. I'm simply an outsider looking in. In no way, shape, or form did I make this about myself.
You have no control over what she does or doesn't think and people don't NEED to argue about their decisions. Most people live their lives in limbo, unable to make firm decisions in life because they don't trust Allah or themselves. People around them don't help when they are questioning their decisions. I understand where you are coming from though.
Oh and if you care to make muslims look their best, don't argue about petty things lol. You are entitled to give your advice and I'm entitled to give my advice also. We don't see life through the same lens and it is GOOD that a person get different perspectives.
Sorry, this doesn't make sense. This is a moot point anyway because at no point was I assuming anything. This has been a constant accusation on this thread and it seems to me that those making these accusations have some sort of emotion invested in this subject.
Again, I never made her situation about me. We only advised her based on the information she provided and as she provided more, our advice changed.
I understand what you are saying, but you have to have some level of respect for your elders and people with more and/or different experience than your own. I certainly do not have tunnel vision. I'm actually a councelor in real life, and it is part of my profession to provide different angles and points of view
Nobody is brushing you off. I asked that question for two purposes. 1) To be sure I'm not making false assumptions. 2) So you can reflect on what you are advising and your experience on the matter. This IS relevant, believe it or not.
This is similar to giving parental advise when a person has no children and then when it is their turn to be parents, they end up eating their words and choking on them lol. Most of us have been there
Let's stay humble. No hard feelings.
Asalaam Aleikum.
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