I have two wife.. my first wife living in bangladesh, my second wife last two years and living with me in saudi arabia. I want to bangladesh but afraid to go, may be she will kill me with her family due to my second married. I want to be a happy family with my two wife but my first wife not accept my second wife and my second not accepting my first wife. what i can do... please give me solution as per quran and hadis
I advise from my heart that young men do try to do polygamy. A mature man knows that it will hurt his love from his wife and does not attempt it. That might be why muhammad pbuh did not try polygamy until he was 50 years old...way past his prime.
Thats an indication or should indicate the motivations of honorable men behind polygamy.
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This thread has become a debate about whether or not he should have taken a second wife. Has anyone here worked in a Sharia Council? Or is there anyone who has knowledge or experience in dealing with marital affairs? If not, your advice is likely to be more damaging than beneficial. The only advice you should all be giving is referring the brother to a Sharia Council seeing as nobody here seems to be qualified to give such advice.
To all brothers: Polygamy is an amaanah. Although it's permissible for you to have more than one wife, you must recognise that this is a responsibility and you will be accountable to Allah on the day of judgement. You must commit yourself to all your wives properly and treat them with love and fairness. It is not simply something for you to boast about. You should speak to the first wife about the matter because a lack of proper communication is likely to create more problems. Treat your wives as though they are a part of your life and not just individuals who have to take all their decisions with regards to their life from you.
To all sisters: It is not advisable to recommend against the commandments of Allah in any shape or form. Instead of disputing the nitty gritty details of polygamy, ask Allah to put iman and patience in your hearts and to handle the matter in a way that pleases Him. Discouraging polygamy is not going to of benefit in this life or the next as it's a reflection of the current state of your heart and how far you are from Allah. The Prophet's wives were jealous but they did not discourage him from polygamy. This life is temporary so take hold of every opportunity to please Allah rather than your desires. He will raise you in rank and provide you with satisfaction in your heart that you will never be able to gain elsewhere.
With regards to the actual issue at hand: the brother should speak to a qualified person as nobody here will be able to give you the right advice.
Last edited by 'Abd-al Latif; 08-26-2018 at 03:15 PM.
And verily for everything that a slave loses there is a substitute, but the one who loses Allah will never find anything to replace Him.” [Related by Ibn al-Qayyim in ad-Dâ' wad-Dawâ Fasl 49]
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