My heart is breaking down...

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i dont know what has overcome me these last few days! i cant stop thinking about an ex. he keeps coming into my dreams, sometimes i wish i could talk to him but i knw theres no point he hates me, pple please advise me... how do i stop hurting, knowing hes having fun, living in the same city, chilling out with other girls, he couldnt care less if i was dead or alive. it hurts so much, when i think of him i jus cry automatically. i thought i was gettin over him and now this happens. and my dreams they seem so real but when i wake up i realise it was all jus a dream
 
he couldnt care less if i was dead or alive. it hurts so much,
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Why wud u cry for someone who doesn't even care?
He isn't worth it sis. Forget him. There's more to Life! Believe me...:sunny:

Seek refuge from ur dreams, cause all good dreams are from Allah, all the bad are from shaitan.

In the future don't let no one so easily into ur heart, let them first earn it.
Allah made you waaay to precious to be in this type of a situation.

Besides u call him "an ex" let him stay where he belongs..THE PAST! move on!
 
i feel like gettin in touch with him...but i knw he dont care. but i cant help the way i feel..maybe i should write a letter?
 
AnonymousGender said:
i feel like gettin in touch with him...but i knw he dont care. but i cant help the way i feel..maybe i should write a letter?
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do you watch bollywood movies?

listen to music?


maybe hang out with girls who talk about boys a lot?



anything of this nature?



if so, STOP IMMEDIATELY - after stopping give it some time - and you'll be just fine inshAllah
 
no i dont do anythin like that. in fact i read namaz 5 times a day, i try my best 2 stay away from all that. he is just my weakness.
 
AnonymousGender said:
no i dont do anythin like that. in fact i read namaz 5 times a day, i try my best 2 stay away from all that. he is just my weakness.
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ok do you see him regularly/hear about him a lot?


if so keep gaze down - leave room whenever his around or mentioned inshAllah.



these might be empty advice but nonetheless if you keep praying and asking Allah to keep you secure im sure you'll be ok.



Allah has ordained for us whats best, the better we understand that, the better our hearts will be..
 
i am understanding that.. as we have a few of the same friends his name is mentioned sometimes, and i get pangs of jealousy, i hate it!
 
^ you need to either tell those friends to stop or stop hanging around those friends


sis having a good crowd is extremely important...
 
i do have a good crowd bro, but i dnt knw how 2 stop hurting over him, how nt 2 get jealous knowing hes chilling out with other girls, some of them that were/are my friends. i knw hes the 1 doing haraam but knowing abt it jus brings me 2 tears
 
Mz said:
lol true


in which case being alone with books and Quran is better :)
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Or just keep searching...

The Quran is very goood to refresh your emaan SubhanAllah

but Being alone your whole life with books is a little depressing innit
Im sorry Ive got school books infront of me so im a little tired of books :exhausted

lol MZ wassup! :p
 
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anonymous said:
Or just keep searching...

The Quran is very goood to refresh your emaan SubhanAllah

but Being alone your whole life with books is a little depressing innit
Im sorry Ive got school books infront of me so im a little tired of books :exhausted

lol MZ wassup! :p
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no ones really alone though lol, seriously


some just might think they are :).





nothins up :| whos that hiding behind anonymous lol
 
Mz said:
no ones really alone though lol, seriously


some just might think they are :).





nothins up :| whos that hiding behind anonymous lol
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Yeah you are right ... I also think There is no such thing as being ALL alone :)



who do you think , its gooovy lol :p
Anyway gtg :D
 
AnonymousGender said:
i feel like gettin in touch with him...but i knw he dont care. but i cant help the way i feel..maybe i should write a letter?
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DONT get in touch with him. You said yourself he couldnt care less about you. Dont make him know he has a hold over you..itll take time but youll get over him inshaAllah and from the sound of it hes soooo not worth it.
 
:sl: Sorry to hear of your pain. Little one please stop punishing yourself, you say yourself that he is having 'fun' and wouldn't care less if you lived or died yet you still feel like getting in touch? Why? What will that change....... simply nothing only giving him more satisfaction in knowing that you still care for him are thinking about him and making him gloat.

You are reading your namaaz as you say five times a day. You should pray to Allah for sabur and little one you should move on. This guy is not worth your tears and you need to start afresh and let him know that you have moved on instead of sitting around and feeling sorry for yourself. Sorry for the harsh words.

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Asalaamualaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatu,

He's not worth it. Alhamdulillah, you are a practicing Muslim, and you believe in Allah. Allah is the only one that can cure your pain. Time heals all wounds. You won't forget about him easily, so don't try it. Try occupying yourself by things like work, studies, and esp. the Quran and salaah. When you get frustrated, pray 2 nafl and call out to Allah. He hears all of us. He loves us more than 70 mothers. He will never ever abandon you.

All of your "friends" should know he's your ex and if they truly cared bout you, they would stop mentioning him. Choose good friends, the kind that understand what you are going through, or at least have consideration. If you don't find friends like that, then the next best friends are books. Books teach you so much Alhamdulillah. If you haven't already, read the Quran's translation with tafseer. Learn the history of Islam and the Sahabah. You aren't the first to have gotten hurt so badly, and this ex isn't the first to have hurt someone with such a beautiful heart. Read Hayat-us-Sahabah. They are one of the best book series out there and Masha Allah contain a lot of wisdom.

May Allah (SWT) cure all your pain and may He (SWT) grant you Janat-ul-Firdos. Ameen Thuma Ameen.
 
im so disappointed in myself, bcuz i knw he isnt worth it, i knw he doesnt care, yet im still thinkin abt him, missing him, wanting 2 talk 2 him. i knw it was all haraam and i AM glad yet i still feel like this! honestly i jus want 2 forget him, but its not as simple doing it, i waking up thinking of him, remembering things when we were together, and then i remember how he hurt me, and it kills. thank you everybody 4 ur replies
 
Hmmm...
Get out
Go spend time with all your girlfriends
Cinema, restaurant
Just enjoy what you can
If he invades into your thoughts just shake your head vigorously as if you want to rip it off, just don't rip it off...

And inshallah, doing so may just help =]
 

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