How to find a muslim husband?

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How the new muslim sisiters can find husband?

It is no easy,since the indian muslims want to merry indians,pakistanies-wife from Pakistan,same with others....exept some arabs,whish desires only a beuty from Europe or America:no problem if doesn't were higaab,no problem if doesn't pray...:heated: Islam for them is something they've got from mom and dad aa a tradition....

So how new muslima without family and muslim relatives can get married?
 
Haqeeka' said:
So how new muslima without family and muslim relatives can get married?
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Try the mosque sis, some of them have their own matrimonial thing to help you find the right person. You'll also need a wali.
 
salam sis ,

yeah try talking to the local imams or some others they might help you out :)
 
first off, if you are a new muslima DO NOT be in a rush to get married. in my area, there is the phenomenon of "shahadah today, married tomorrow"

i hate to generalize or cast suspicion on people but some brothers value having a convert wife (i.e. a white woman). when these sisters are married, these aforementioned brothers take advantage of their newness to the deen and relative lack of knowledge of the deen and do whatever they want (examples i've heard of: "i dont owe mahr/you get a low mahr because you are not born muslim", "trust me islam has been in my family for X centuries", etc etc"). the danger here is these sisters see this oppression or cultural practices and think it is from islam and get severely discouraged or sometimes leave the deen because of it.

take time to thoroughly study the deen, the fiqh of marriage, and the rights/responsibilities of the husband and wife before you even think about trying to get married.

also, those matrimonial websites are a HUGE fitnah. avoid them at all costs.
 
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Let it be known to your friends' parents etc. that you're available, and inshallah in no time, you'll hear of someone else who's also available. Networking- it works! :D (most of the time)
 
Banu_Hashim said:
Let it be known to your friends' parents etc. that you're available, and inshallah in no time, you'll hear of someone else who's also available. Networking- it works! :D (most of the time)
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oh it'll definitely work for a white woman. seriously, if she just stood outside a masjid with a sign that said "looking to marry" she'd find many potential suitors.

however, i still recommend holding off and getting a firm understanding of the deen so that you can distinguish what is islam, what is culture, and what you should be looking for in a husband and so that you won't be taken advantage of.
 
convert said:
oh it'll definitely work for a white woman. seriously, if she just stood outside a masjid with a sign that said "looking to marry" she'd find many potential suitors.

however, i still recommend holding off and getting a firm understanding of the deen so that you can distinguish what is islam, what is culture, and what you should be looking for in a husband and so that you won't be taken advantage of.
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Yes, I agree.
 
Thank you all for the replies!

convert-I totally agree with you
When I start talking with a muslims,I found out,that I know a lot more then them about the deen...I correct some mistakes and they're not happy about it :D
They asked me even am I in a wahaby sect :omg: !??

I am sorry,but why to get somebody,who will let me down !?

and those dating sites....:

He doesn't want his european-MUSLIM wife to were hijaab(?!)
He wants a big *** (!)
Regular prayer is not required (?!)
He wants a working wife with a good income(!?)
He (the muslim) wants a free relationship (!!!!!????)
The muslim woman to be free minded and open (!?)

what kind of ppl are those?Ustagfirallah!

I have the bad impression that some imams are paid to get a ,,white,,wifes to some rich ppl from their countries ,bcos they say:You must get married now-for those man! .... :embarrass
 
Banu_Hashim said:
Let it be known to your friends' parents etc. that you're available, and inshallah in no time, you'll hear of someone else who's also available. Networking- it works! :D (most of the time)
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It is not that easy:indian and pakistani friends relatives can't marry white new muslim,bcos their parents will never accept such marriage :hmm:
The iman doesn't matter ,but what the ppl will say imsad

This is a problem for all new muslim sisters,I did not open this tread bcos of my case,but I see it is a big problem and a trial...
 
Haqeeka' said:
It is not that easy:indian and pakistani friends relatives can't marry white new muslim,bcos their parents will never accept such marriage :hmm:
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Not always. My parents once said straight up, they don't mind who I marry; whether they're white, black, brown, yellow as long as they're a good honest Muslim.
 
:salaam

Indeed its a great problem :| .. hope you find a solution sis .. i am too inexperienced in these issues :(
 
Re: How to find a muslim WOMAN

[So how muslim WHO IS NOT LIVING IN THE WEST can get married WITH ANEW MUSLIM WOMAN FOR WHAT SHE IS AND FOR RELIGION.I HAVE BEEN PRAYING ALLAH TO MEET A NEW CONVERT.But as i am from MOROCCO? MANY WILL THINK I WANT A WOMAN JUST FOR PAPER ALTHOUGH ALLAH KNOWS I WANT HER FOR HERSELF AND FOR BEING WITH A MUSLIM WOMAN WHO PUT ISLAM TEACHING INTO PRACTICE NOT JUS BY APPERANCE.
 
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Haqeeka' said:
How the new muslim sisiters can find husband?

It is no easy,since the indian muslims want to merry indians,pakistanies-wife from Pakistan,same with others....exept some arabs,whish desires only a beuty from Europe or America:no problem if doesn't were higaab,no problem if doesn't pray...:heated: Islam for them is something they've got from mom and dad aa a tradition....

So how new muslima without family and muslim relatives can get married?
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New Muslimah sisters should not rush into a marriage. I guess it's difficult living in a non-Muslim family, sometimes maybe being even forced to hide once's Islam, and then come thoughts like: 'Ya Rabb, only if I could marry a Muslim, so that I can freely and openly practice Islam in my house.' And then it's possible they get a one way ticket from their family and a terrible husband. So, better not hurry, it's a big move, and marriage is a big thing.

Allah knows best, a solution would be making friends with other Muslimahs, so that in sha Allah her new friends may suggest her good Muslims.
 
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tresbien said:
...I HAVE BEEN PRAYING ALLAH TO MEET A NEW CONVERT.But as i am from MOROCCO? MANY WILL THINK I WANT A WOMAN JUST FOR PAPER...
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Moroccan brothers do have a bad reputation in Europe,yes..
I know more then 10 ladies from my country married to Moroccans,and two of them only a practicing Islam but their imaan is very strong,masha-Allah!And their wifes become muslims after the marriage,alhamdulillah! :statisfie

Another mistakes the Moroccan brothers make is to propose to any females on some chat-rooms and to say to non muslims:''you must convert,do you want to go to Hell?''

:hmm:

I will make du'a for you brother,insha-Allah Allah SUT will give you everything you wish!
 
Seems the friends suggestions are the best,you are right Abdu-l-Majeed,Jazakkllahu khairan!

Thank you Clover-I have a husband :statisfie and he is ...just Subhan-Allah,Alah loves me... I've got more then I wish for,a lot more,Allahu Akbar!


:)
 
But what is the hurry to get married. When its time you will meet Mr. Right. :-) it always happens when your not looking for it.
 

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