Have you ever lost someone you love?

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Yes and who i thought was 'the one' :(

Love can be the greatest thing that can happen...but it also can be the worse.:cry:
 
lost my father when i was young,

to this day i still remember burying him, the sudden horror that overtook me as i stared down at a freshly dug up grave where he would be buried.

lost my sister 3 years later to cancer.
 
i feel i have lost everyone in some sense, though everyone is still around and alive alhamdulillah.
 
I was just thinking about them both a couple of days ago as i was praying..

Only last year i first lost my great uncle from my mum's side. He lived 5 hours away from me but we still saw and called him often and then he moved away to bangladesh. I met him in bangladesh two years ago and the last thing i remember him saying to me was i was his favourate child.. He was a kind man and his death was a real shock.. About a month later my great uncles brother (my grandfather) died in Bangladesh.

He was an amazing and kind person, there was absoloutly nobody who had enmity with him because he never was involved in anything bad. Alhamdullilah he had lived a long life with good health. He always went to mosque even when he was too frail to walk, last time i saw him he didn't recognise me but always talked about his late wife, whome he regarded as an angel. He was a pious and honest man.
 
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bro are you gonna reply lol



im dying here


curious as to why you asked !






im sure u know what my reply would be - and if you dont then consider me offended :p :p :p
 
Yeah I lost someone when I was ten. Still haven't gotten over it. Sometimes denial.
 
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Fighting4Iman said:
bro are you gonna reply lol

im dying here

curious as to why you asked !

im sure u know what my reply would be - and if you dont then consider me offended :p :p :p
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lol akh, i just wna learn how people get over things in life init? :) how people get stronger as time passes by in life..




Guestfellow said:
Yeah I lost someone when I was ten. Still haven't gotten over it. Sometimes denial.
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Does your denial make you sometimes make you think they're still alive? Like when your offguard from denial?



Malaak said:
i feel i have lost everyone in some sense, though everyone is still around and alive alhamdulillah.
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Do you feel sad about that? How do you cope with it?




Jazakum Allahu khayrun everyone whose replied.. they're really interesting, and you get to appreciate that we're all going through something, and it reminds us of destroyer of pleasures [death].
 
AsSalamOAlaikum WaRehmatuAllah WaBarkatuhu

Cant stop thinking about this thread imsad It makes me feel so depressed.

I try my best to treat eveything i do as my last, i try to do the best in every good deed i do. Maybe thats why she left me behind. Allahu Alim

FiAmaaniAllah
 
bro wen i lost my dad nothing in life seemed worth it


TV seemed crap
games seemed crap
crap seemed crapper

and all that kept me going was islam - and thinking that theres something much greater


then i got happy :D


hope that sorta answers a lil bit :)


Assalamu Alaikum

RAMADAN MUBARAK U ALU, im goin hajj this year - make dua for me innit :D
 
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Malaak said:
i feel i have lost everyone in some sense, though everyone is still around and alive alhamdulillah.
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same here...well except the only relative i've met face to face--> my paternal grandad allah yar7amo imsad

how did i deal with it...you know you cant do anything about something that isn't in your hands to begin with...what else is there left to do? life stinks, but you've gotta do what you've gotta do...
 
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Lost my dad a few years ago. I thought I had several more good years with him (my son was 3 and my daughter wasn't born yet). My reaction was I was very sad as they won't know my dad and I will miss him.

Another reaction I had was that it was the kind of death he wanted (very fast and unexpected). He was afraid of alzheimers/dementia that he had seen in his mom. So I was glad for that.

I was really sad for awhile (about a month or so) and once in awhile when I dwell on it, like this during this post. I think about him to this day.
 
Salaam. It just goes to show We are travelers of this world and in the end...our ultimate destination is the grave
 
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I lost my grandad in May this year. At the time I consoled myself with the idea that he is in a better place inshAllah...but recently the wounds have been reopened. My grandad spent the whole of Ramadhan with us ever since I can remember. He was a very pious man Alhamdullilah. I never woke in the early morning hours before Fajr and not witness him weeping on his musalla. He would wake my family for suhur. His weakness never stopped him from his struggle to go and pray at the Masjid, pray taraweeh or keep his fasts.

I spent time between prayers and helping with the housework during Ramadhan with him, and I would sit on his bed at night until he finished his hot milk and honey drink and would be too tired to talk. Its so empty without him this year.
He was such an inspiration, I miss him so much. imsad

Alhamdullilah he left this world with the shahada on his lips....what we are ultimately striving for inshAllah. May Allah swt give us strength Ameen.
 
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i feel i have lost everyone in some sense, though everyone is still around and alive alhamdulillah.

Do you feel sad about that? How do you cope with it?
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yeah sometimes i do feel sad about that, it seems everyone has changed, they are not the same as i knew them, or may be i have changed in some abnormal way. i console myself telling myself ok i hate everyone, i dont have to care about them. it works sometimes, sometimes it doesnt.
 
- Qatada - said:
Asalam alykum

Have you ever lost someone you love? Was it willingly or unwillingly? How did you (and they) react to it? How did u get over it? And how long did that take?

Any extra details would be really good too plz, like how old u were etc.

Jazakum Allahu khayrun in advance. Look forward to your responses. :)
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habibi, what happened?
 
Elhamdulillah, I haven't lost a loved one yet.

But my mother did loose her parents almost at the same time. My grandmother died first and I remember I was about 11 or something, it snowed a lot, it was a winter evening, we (me, my younger sisters and Mum) had walked around the park near our house. When my aunt called my Mum, she was very silent for a while, said something to her sister and then with utter silence, did she cry. My sisters played around the snow and didn't notice. I held her hand the whole time, not knowing what to say.
May Allah have mercy on her and my grandfather's soul.

I remember that day clearly because that was for the first time I saw my Mum cry and that I actually felt death was close. Makes you grow and realize life. Elhamdulillah.
 
- Qatada - said:
Asalam alykum

Have you ever lost someone you love?
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yes many of them
- Qatada - said:
Was it willingly or unwillingly?
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dont understand the question i mean dont understand what u mean by willingly or un
- Qatada - said:
How did you (and they) react to it? How did u get over it?
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i can tell u how i recated depends which time but in all alhumdulillah we need to remeber every soul shall test death so it is either they go and we weep over them or we go and they weep over us we have to have accptence in
the heart even thou it is sad and hurts for we know we all will go so to wail or weep/cry is going to help us a bit but would it help the person who is gone not at all so we should inside try or best to do dua and give sadaqa in there name dont get me wrong this is very hard to do and was hard for me as well but after the first few it a bit easier to accpt

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And how long did that take?
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depends which one the must i think was 5 days and this was along time ago now alhumdulillah i am saddened but it if it happens but i accpet and move on Alhumdulillah pls read this http://abdurrahman.org/seerah/riyad/06/chap153.htm

Any extra details would be really good too plz, like how old u were etc.

Jazakum Allahu khayrun in advance. Look forward to your responses. :)[/QUOTE]
 
My father last year!
He meant a world to me. Being eldest son we never had long coversations but he taught me palying with guns, shooting, aiming, hunting wild animals and birds, swiming, crawling using different tools for repairing households. He was the one who motivated me for higher education and inspired me to live a simple and straight life.He never gave me long lecture still he taught the fairness and ugliness of life. He was a quite person but his deeds were loud and clear.
He was a busy bee, faught two wars and once POW four years. Even, the night he died he wan hunting pigs... And death hunted him.
I was informed at 8am and I had to travel some 1600 KMs to reach to his Janaza at 1600hrs. Allah alone knows how I traveled thouse miles without tears. I stayed on his grave alone till late that night with blank mind.

Then life over took us and we again found ourselves in mainstreem.

I often talk about him and recalls his goods he have done to us.

Khuda Rahmat Kunand Ein Ashiqan e Pak Teenat Ra!
 
My dad. May Allah have mercy on him. Since he died life doesn't seem to have the glow it used to have. He used to light up my life with his presence alone. I'll never see his like again. He always had sweet words to say to me and sound advice to give to me.
 

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