I must say that most of this is a scholar's own itjihad. However, there is a good evidence.Brother, we had a little issue about this a day ago. First comes Allah,subhana wa ta'ala, than Resul,saws, last, his inheritors. We do not outsmart them. We hear and obey.
Brother, you would be an angel, a melek, if all of your intentions were pure. Big sins start with the small ones. Can you always control your desires without knowing this? I don't think so.
This is information from Shaykh Saalih Al Fawzaan:
Indications Of Taking The Kuffaar As Friends (Mawlaat).
1 - Imitating them in dress and lingo...
Imitating them in dress and lingo indicates loving them, and
because imitation leads to love, the Messenger of Allaah (sallallahu
'alaihi wa sallam) said:
"Whoever imitates a people is one of them."
Allaah forbids imitating the Kuffaar in their worship, traditions,
and things special to them. We should not imitate them in their
appearance and morals. Also, we should not speak their
language, except when necessary, and we should not adopt their
way of dressing and eating.
2 - Residence in their lands and not moving from their
lands to the lands of the Muslims to save one's Deen.
(This is a concise meaning of Hijrah)...
Hijrah, according to this meaning, is an obligation upon every
Muslim.
Residence in the land of the Kuffaar indicates friendship with
them. Allaah forbade the Muslims from residing in the lands of
the Kuffaar, if they are able to make Hijrah. Allaah the Exalted
said:
"When angels take the souls of those who die while
they have wronged their souls, they say, 'ln what
[state] were you?' They reply: 'We were weak and
oppressed in the earth.' [The Angels] say: "Was not
the earth of Allaah spacious enough for you to move
yourselves away [from evil]?' Such men will find
their abode in Hell, what an evil refuge! Except those
who are [really] weak and oppressed: men, women,
and children who have no means in their power, nor
can they find a way [to escape]. For these, there is
hope that Allaah will forgive, because Allaah blots out
[sins] and forgives again and again." 11
The Islaamic Law (Sharee'ah) permits people to reside in the
lands of the Kuffaar if, they give da 'wah and propagate Islaam.
3 - Travelling to the lands of the Kuffaar for tourism and
vacation...
The Sharee'ah forbids travelling to the land of the Kuffaar,
except for medical treatment, trading, and education that is only
available in their land. When the necessity has finished, then one
must return, immediately, to the land of the Muslims. Those
whom the Sharee 'ah permits to go to the land of the Kuffaar
must manifest their Deen, be away from the evil places, and be
cautious of the plotting of the enemies of Allaah. Also, the
Sharee 'ah permits going to the lands of the Kuffaar for da 'wah
and propagating Islaam.
4 - Helping them, giving them victory over the Muslims,
speaking well of them and defending their honour...
These are some of the actions that negate a person's Islaam. I
seek refuge in Allaah from that!
5 - Seeking their aid, trusting them, putting them in
positions to know the secrets of the Muslims and
making them advisors...
Allaah the Exalted said,
"O you who believe! Do not take into your
intimacy those outside your ranks. They will not
fail to corrupt you. They only desire for you to
suffer. Hatred has already appeared from their
mouths, and what their hearts conceal is far
worse. We have made plain to you the Signs, if you
have wisdom. Ah! you are those who love them,
but they do not love you, though you believe in the
whole of the Book. When they meet you, they say,
"We believe,' but when they are alone, out of
frustration and rage, they bite off the tips of their
fingers because of you. Say: "Perish in your
frustration rage. Allaah knows well all of the
secrets of the heart.' If anything that is good
befalls you, it grieves them, but if some misfortune
overtakes you, they rejoice at it..."
The above verses show what is [really] in the hearts of the
Kuffaar about the Muslims, such as hatred, betrayal, evil
plotting, and the love for harm to affect them. They want harm to
reach them by any means. They use the trust of the Muslims to
plot against them. Imaam Ahmad narrated that Abu Moosa Al-
Ash'aari said,
(radhiallahu 'anhu)
"/ said to 'Umar (RAA): have a Christian (Nasrani)
clerk [employee]. He ['Umar] said: ^Why? May Allaah
fight you! Didn't you hear the saying of Allaah, the
Exalted, 'O you who believe! Do not take the Yahood
and the Nasaara for Awliyaa. They are Awliyaa to
each other...' Why don't you employ a Hanifan [a
Muslim] [as your clerk].' He [Abu Moosa] said, "O
Commander of the Believers (Ameerul-Mu'minoon), for
me is what he writes for me and to him is his Deen.' He
['Umar] said, "How can I honour them when Allaah has
humiliated them and how can I bring them near to me
when Allaah has made them far [from me]."'
Imam Ahmad and Muslim narrated that when the Messenger of
Allaah (sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam) went to the Battle of Badr, one of the pagans
followed him until he caught up to him at a place called Al-
Harra 1*. The pagan said,
"/ wanted to fight with you so that you can give me some
of the booty from the war." He [the Messenger of Allaah]
said, 'Do you believe in Allaah and His Messenger?'
He [the pagan] said, Wo.' He [the Messenger of Allaah]
said, 'I will never seek help from a pagan!'
The above proofs from the Book of Allaah and the Sunnah of the
Messenger of Allaah (sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam) forbid us from allowing the pagans to
be in positions where they can know the secrets of the
Muslims. An example of this nowadays is when a Muslim
government brought the Kuffaar to their land as laborers, drivers,
maids, and baby sitters. Their bringing these Kuffar to their land
resulted in them mixing with the Muslims.
6 - Using their calendar instead of the Islaamic
calendar and, more importantly, observing the
holidays on their calendar, like Christmas...
Their holidays, like the birthday of the Messiah ('alaihis-
salaam), are not even from their Deen, but rather they are
holidays that they innovated in their Deen. So, using their
calendar means that we share their holidays, even though these
holidays are not from the Deen of the Messiah ('alaaihis-
salaam).
To be safe from falling into sharing their holidays, in the
Caliphate of 'Umar (radhiAllaahu 'anhu), the Companions (Sahaabah) (radhiAllaahu
'anhu ajma'een) made their own calendar. They made this calendar starting
from the date of the Hijrah of the Messenger (sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam)
from Makkah to Madeenah. This precedent that was established by the Sahaba
(radhiAllaahu 'anhu ajma'een) shows us that we should not use the cale ndars of
the Kuffaar or other similar things that belong to them. And
Allaah is the Best to give help.
7 - Observing their holidays or helping them to make
that celebration or congratulating them for their
holidays or just being present at their celebrations...
The scholars say about the verse, "Those who witness no
falsehood...", that the description of the worshippers of the
Most Merciful is that they do not gather at the celebrations of the
Kuffaar.
8 - Speaking well of them through what they have of
material wealth and being satisfied with their behavior
without looking at their Deen which is a false Deen...
Allaah the Exalted said:
"Nor strain your eyes [O Muhammad] in longing for
the things We have given for enjoyment to partie s of
them- the splendor of the life of this world -through
which We test them. But the provision of your Lord is
better and more lasting."
This verse does not mean that the Muslims should not acquire
the means to be strong, like manufacturing and other things that
make the economy and land strong. Nor does this verse mean
that we should not learn military tactics, but rather, we are
required to acquire all of these things. Allaah the Exalted said,
"Against them make ready your strength to the
utmost of your power..."
The high standard of living originally belongs to the Muslims.
Allaah the Exalted said,
"Say, 'Who has forbidden the beautiful [gifts] of
Allaah, which He has produced for His servants, and
the things clean and pure [which He has provided] for
sustenance?' Say, 'They are, in the life of this world,
for those who believe, and purely for them on the Day
of Judgement...'"
Also, Allaah the Exalted said,
"And He has subjected to you [as a favor from Him]
all that is in the heavens and on the earth..."
Further, Allaah the Exalted said,
"It is He Who has created for you all things that are
on earth..."
So, the duty of the Muslims is to hasten to acquire this
technology, and to surpass the Kuffaar in this technology, so that
Muslims do not need their help.
9 - Using their names...
Some of the Muslims give their children names different from
the names of their mothers, fathers, grandmothers, grandfathers,
communities, and tribes. The Messenger of Allaah (sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam)
said,
"The best names are 'Abdur-Rahmaan and
'Abdullaah."
As a result of not using Muslim names in the past, many
Muslims now have strange names. Naming their children with
foreign names has caused a generation gap between this
generation and the last that splits families in two, with respect to
the name: those with the traditional Muslim names and those
with foreign names.
10 - Supplicating for them and being compassionate to
them...
Allaah forbade these actions by His statement,
"It is not fitting for the Messenger of Allaah and those
who believe that they should ask forgiveness for
Pagans, even though they are relatives, after it is clear
to them that they are companions of the Fire
[Jaheem]."
Supplicating and having compassion for them causes us to love
them and their [disgusting] practices.
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