islamgyal:it's jus that i listn ta music alot n i can't live wiv owt it.... and reading sum of the posts it say's it's NOT allowed that's wot is putting me off
no worries sis.. things take time... forget music for a min... it's difficult to do
anything unless a person knows why is something forbidden, recommended, optional , permissable, or obligatory..
i dunno how music affects diff people.. but can i ask u a v. pesonal question..? if u mind jus tell me to get lost..lol. Say you was alone with ur bf listening to romantic love songz.. would u find that the lyrics, beat, the atmosphere would enhance ur senses, emotionz etc in ur desire for intimacy with ur bf, say the lyrics are something like.. i wish i could kiss u right now.. would that make u think about doing it? Chances are we follow our thoughts... Or would u feel it wouldn't make an iota's difference? Say ur listening to a song alone, and the lyrics go something like..
i wanna hold u in my arms and kiss u softly.. lol.. excuse my corny line .. ;D would u suddenly.. want to do that and carry out the emotionz u feel listening to those words? Or say u dont have a bf.. and u listen to those lyrics.. would the natural desire we all possess cause u to want a bf, cuz the emotionz in the song are so romantic & sweet that you begin wishing you could do that in real life.. would the song take u to some fantasy world that makes u wish it was real? You dont have to answer.. jus ask urself...
What I'm trying to get at is,, would music make you feel/think of things that are forbidden? Cuz the chances are a thought can turn into an action.. if you look at it from this angle then u can see why it's haraam.
Another thing is the waste of time.. i dunno with other ppl but i know when i listened to music.. i wasted a lot of time doing it, wasting so much money on cd's etc..and spending that money on something islamic..
me and my mates used to have karaoke nights.. where we'd sing bollywood songs (poor neighbours) i couldve been praying or doing something beneficial.. then cuz of our love for music, we wanted to go to concerts etc.. more money & time wasted... can u see how one thing can lead to another.. i couldve spent that time doin so many other useful things for this life and the hereafter..
im telling u this, to help u understand.. see how long it took me to stop listening to music.. everyone in ma family listened to music.. but when i decided to improve my knowledge on islam.. it became clear as to why it's forbidden.. otherwise i'd prob still be doing it.. thats why i was telling czgibson that it doesnt matter if ur a born muslim, it doesnt necessarily mean u know everything....so am telling u i understand that it's hard for you.. it is hard to give up things ur used to.. all im saying is when u dont understand a matter.. then research it.. once u understand it becomes easy to do anything..
hope that helped
