want to tell mum how i feel about islam but scared to

hi

its aaya again. i hav been trying so hard to find a sister group online to help me with my islam or a sister teacher online. sometimes i find is so hard to understand things when im reading about islam. could u help me plz.

salaam
 
May Allah (SWT) make it easy for you. Inshallah your family will accept your decision, but whatever happens, always remember Allah(SWT) is very close. You have but to pray.
 
As-Salamu Alaykum

Dont worry sis, I can understand how scared you are. Our families hold so much respect and influence for us, and rightly so. If you can make your mum understand how much this means to you and how much this has changed your life then Inshallah she will understand and support you.

I go to a new Muslims class at my masjid and there is a girl there not much older than you. She is 15 and has recently reverted herself. She has had such a hard life, she is in social services care as her mum couldnt look after her. Lots of issues around alcohol and drugs etc. She is going to be fostered and I really hope a good muslim family will take her and guide her.

Peace CG
 
:salamext:

well you know theres a God and theres enough signs to say thats a fact and a half (no matter which pride filled man might come and say SHUT ITT) so end of the day you know that its God who created you and God alone who deserves your utmost obedience, you cant be obeying the creation when your disobeying God thats like me obeying an ant over my father, lol now thats a funny thought.

I sincerely hope you do that which feels spiritually right sis, you know the chance for heaven comes only once... just like the chance for hell :offended:


Regards

Another anonymous member
 
nicegirlaaya13 said:
hi everyone

my name is aaya and im 13 years old, my parents are catholics. they dont know how i feel about islam. want to tell mum but to scared to. can anyone help me plz! i dont know how to break it to mum. cannot tell my dad as he does not like muslims.

aaya
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:sl:

all the best sis, dont worry just go ahead with it insahalh, life is full of tests, so if they're happy that's cool, if not, that's also a test 4 u and you get rewarded for beign patient and nice to them :)

all the bset!
salams
 
woow sis , thats soo good i was like u 2 or 3 months ago ,i wanted to be muslim bt was very scared 2 tel my mum and dad. i thought they would hate me or ne angry with me but thnak allah they didnt react as bad as i thought they would so who knows yours might not be soo badd about it either.
you know the thing that makes un-muslims hate muslims is cuz of media they here about people being blown away with boombs and they say its muslims and people get very scaredd:cry: *sighs*
sis insh allah i wil pray for you and ask god to make this easy for you:) :)

by the way is there another eidd celebration or something like da one after ramadan
i heard it but dunt kno when can any1 tel me plzzz:statisfie
 
Curious girl2 said:
As-Salamu Alaykum

Dont worry sis, I can understand how scared you are. Our families hold so much respect and influence for us, and rightly so. If you can make your mum understand how much this means to you and how much this has changed your life then Inshallah she will understand and support you.

I go to a new Muslims class at my masjid and there is a girl there not much older than you. She is 15 and has recently reverted herself. She has had such a hard life, she is in social services care as her mum couldnt look after her. Lots of issues around alcohol and drugs etc. She is going to be fostered and I really hope a good muslim family will take her and guide her.

Peace CG
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can we talk again please, would like to ask u more questions plz. [email ad removed - please contact the mods for more info.]
 
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salam walkaum, i know iam older. but my mother was a devote christan .. (WAS) lol .. any ways i found islam in a book store. and i ran to her and showed her the book and what they bleved in and i was all exsited like i just got a new toy from the shop or even better like i just got my life back . at frist she was like wow . this is what you have been talking about for soo long. then she started to get scard i dont know if it was stuff she was hearing on the news. but she saw how islam and Allah changed me for the good. and changed me soo much that 6 months later she became muslim. I think that you should just go for it.. tell them in islam you have to listen to your parents unless they say to you something that is aguinst islam. i know that famies can be really hard on there love ones. me and my mom have family that wont talk to us and they do they calling us up to yell at us about what other muslims do .. instead of asking questions.. but that is life. the ultimit test is what are you going to sacirfice for Allah. our personal struggle (jihad) you might find out they wont care. or its not a big deal. and they might just be like oh your going thro a phase. and that is ok too . but you shouldnt hide it. be ahonst. be stright forword. and communicate as much as possible. let them know why you are doing this. inshAllah (Allah willing) it will be fine sis. NEVER forget you have Allah. and over a BILLION sisters and brothers to be here for you when ever you NEED us.
-may Allah bless you allways and have strong deen (relgion) and iman (faith) ameen~
 
Subhanna Allah,

I live in Holland and their is also a sister of 13 years old that took the Shahada 5 months ago. She named herself Also Ayaa. And she has also not yet tell here mom.

Subhanna Allah this is very beutifull.
The girl has 4 bigger brothers. 3 reverted before her to Islam (the mother knows only about them) one brother conferted to Jahova's withness. The sister is scared to say it to her mom. But her mom begins to know something (we know she feels it!) But she doesn't say it.

MAy Allah ease it for you Insha Allah

Wassalam
 
assalaamu alaykum,

allahu akbar, (Allah is the greatest) and welcome to Islam sister.

i help out with my local branch of the new muslim project, that is in sheffield. there are branches all over the country - east london, leicester, southampton, liverpool, blackburn, manchester, leeds, sheffield and contacts in other places as well but i cant remember all of them.

all GOOD masjids (mosques) will find someone to help new muslims pray so go to them first as your local muslim community should be your first step for help and maybe they can send an imam or other elder to speak to your family?

but not all masjids are so good, some are a bit lazy in their duties and hence why there is a new muslim project in so many places so make use of them if your local muslim community cant help.

i would suggest you be prepared for the best and worst, i.e some parents are happy their kids have found peace, others are opposed, some are violently opposed and throw their kids out. my parents fell into the middle catagory and i ended up moving out to get away from all the arguing and death threats from former friends (i grew up in a very rough working class coal mining village).

so perhaps have a word with your muslim friends parents and ask them if you tell your parents and they do something stupid like kick you out will they take you in for a few days until social services can sort something out?

i would tell them though, you dont know how they are going to react and surely you want to share this beautiful gift from Allah with them? but you cant do that unless you tell them first and the longer you leave it the more they will be hurt you never told them all about it and kept it from them.

take care sister and if you need any further help from me or advice them pm my wife who is sister 'dafodil' on here.

assalaamu alaykum,
Abu Abdullah

ps...
take it steady, dont try to run before you can work. but not too steady, dont relax so much you stop learning and stop developing as a muslim.
 
lolwatever said:
:sl:

all the best sis, dont worry just go ahead with it insahalh, life is full of tests, so if they're happy that's cool, if not, that's also a test 4 u and you get rewarded for beign patient and nice to them :)

all the bset!
salams
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i am trying to be patient and i know i hav to be nice to my parents as allah wants me to be nice and good to my parents but i wish i could tell them how i feel.

i dont know if i can keep it from them much more. aaya
 
Ashley said:
woow sis , thats soo good i was like u 2 or 3 months ago ,i wanted to be muslim bt was very scared 2 tel my mum and dad. i thought they would hate me or ne angry with me but thnak allah they didnt react as bad as i thought they would so who knows yours might not be soo badd about it either.
you know the thing that makes un-muslims hate muslims is cuz of media they here about people being blown away with boombs and they say its muslims and people get very scaredd:cry: *sighs*
sis insh allah i wil pray for you and ask god to make this easy for you:) :)

by the way is there another eidd celebration or something like da one after ramadan
i heard it but dunt kno when can any1 tel me plzzz:statisfie
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ashley can we talk more about telling my mum plz
 
Sis_ReNa said:
salam walkaum, i know iam older. but my mother was a devote christan .. (WAS) lol .. any ways i found islam in a book store. and i ran to her and showed her the book and what they bleved in and i was all exsited like i just got a new toy from the shop or even better like i just got my life back . at frist she was like wow . this is what you have been talking about for soo long. then she started to get scard i dont know if it was stuff she was hearing on the news. but she saw how islam and Allah changed me for the good. and changed me soo much that 6 months later she became muslim. I think that you should just go for it.. tell them in islam you have to listen to your parents unless they say to you something that is aguinst islam. i know that famies can be really hard on there love ones. me and my mom have family that wont talk to us and they do they calling us up to yell at us about what other muslims do .. instead of asking questions.. but that is life. the ultimit test is what are you going to sacirfice for Allah. our personal struggle (jihad) you might find out they wont care. or its not a big deal. and they might just be like oh your going thro a phase. and that is ok too . but you shouldnt hide it. be ahonst. be stright forword. and communicate as much as possible. let them know why you are doing this. inshAllah (Allah willing) it will be fine sis. NEVER forget you have Allah. and over a BILLION sisters and brothers to be here for you when ever you NEED us.
-may Allah bless you allways and have strong deen (relgion) and iman (faith) ameen~
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sister re_na i am not going through a phase honestly. could i talk to u more about it plz! i know im only just 13 but i really want to tell my mum but not step daddy. aaya
 
FollowingAlhuda said:
Subhanna Allah,

I live in Holland and their is also a sister of 13 years old that took the Shahada 5 months ago. She named herself Also Ayaa. And she has also not yet tell here mom.

Subhanna Allah this is very beutifull.
The girl has 4 bigger brothers. 3 reverted before her to Islam (the mother knows only about them) one brother conferted to Jahova's withness. The sister is scared to say it to her mom. But her mom begins to know something (we know she feels it!) But she doesn't say it.

MAy Allah ease it for you Insha Allah

Wassalam
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do you think my mum might also hav a idea. aaya
 
Dawud_uk said:
assalaamu alaykum,

allahu akbar, (Allah is the greatest) and welcome to Islam sister.

i help out with my local branch of the new muslim project, that is in sheffield. there are branches all over the country - east london, leicester, southampton, liverpool, blackburn, manchester, leeds, sheffield and contacts in other places as well but i cant remember all of them.

all GOOD masjids (mosques) will find someone to help new muslims pray so go to them first as your local muslim community should be your first step for help and maybe they can send an imam or other elder to speak to your family?

but not all masjids are so good, some are a bit lazy in their duties and hence why there is a new muslim project in so many places so make use of them if your local muslim community cant help.

i would suggest you be prepared for the best and worst, i.e some parents are happy their kids have found peace, others are opposed, some are violently opposed and throw their kids out. my parents fell into the middle catagory and i ended up moving out to get away from all the arguing and death threats from former friends (i grew up in a very rough working class coal mining village).

so perhaps have a word with your muslim friends parents and ask them if you tell your parents and they do something stupid like kick you out will they take you in for a few days until social services can sort something out?

i would tell them though, you dont know how they are going to react and surely you want to share this beautiful gift from Allah with them? but you cant do that unless you tell them first and the longer you leave it the more they will be hurt you never told them all about it and kept it from them.

take care sister and if you need any further help from me or advice them pm my wife who is sister 'dafodil' on here.

assalaamu alaykum,
Abu Abdullah

ps...
take it steady, dont try to run before you can work. but not too steady, dont relax so much you stop learning and stop developing as a muslim.
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thank you for helping me. i really do want to tell mum but not my step daddy. i dont know if i can keep it from mum much longer. could i talk to sister dafodil about it. could you ask her for me plz. aaya
 
nicegirlaaya13 said:
sister re_na i am not going through a phase honestly. could i talk to u more about it plz! i know im only just 13 but i really want to tell my mum but not step daddy. aaya
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I didnt say you were going thro a phase ... I said they might. and that is ok they can think what ever they want.. I would tell them all .. and see what happends cus its hard to live life as a lie.. pretending your something your not. and you have people muslims sisters and brothers that will be there for you if you need us
 

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