I was good friends with a girl who is now 17, from when I was 5 to when I was 8, and she was my first crush..... when I was 8 I moved...I saw her a few more times until I was 10, but then stopped talking to her because I stopped seeing her and because later we started puberty and she wasn't allowed to talk to boys.....(but I did she her photos online, so I know that she is still beautiful) I tried sending her a letter in the mail, but it turns out I had sent it to the wrong address, and couldn't find her new one, and so I tried talking to her over the phone but her dad wouldn't let her (keep in mind I was going to alternative school at this time, where there was only one girl who was a kaafirah and who I didn't like, and my crush's dad was an imam) I dream of marrying her after I get my bachelor's degree and a well paying job, by first getting her wali's permission, then talking to her over skype, and then if we like each other and and she still has good piety and character, she moves to my city and we get married.....and I often have dreams about her, and I often cuddle with my pillow and pretend it's her........and talk to it as an imaginary friend......
Is dodging the question something a good Muslim would do? It seems to me that sin is sin, especially among the Three Faiths.
Again: Am I doing something worthwhile or am I doing something that could lead to sin?
It's like you have a knife in your hand, which you are studying... eventually you will decided what to do with it, kill someone? Or carve wood? or anything in between.
As a Muslim, I cannot judge you or anyone for that matter - and you may serve as a witness against yourself, but in Islam we still require 4 witnesses extra to what you do.
Otherwise - it's just your word, against yourself - and that could mean you have mental issues - not that I am implying such, but in such a theoretical situation, we can entertain possibilities.
But what if the victim bears witness against himself 4 times? Swearing by Allah?
I learnt that if the victim bears witness against himself 4 times - that is sufficient.
Meaning of Shirk according to The Qur'an
" Worshipping anyone or anything besides Allah " or " distributing anything exclusive to Allah, to anyone or anything else "
Meaning of Tawheed according to The Qur'an Worshipping none but Allah. Affirming whatever is exclusive to Him, Him alone.
In Islam one should either marry or fast. Besides intercourse, one may also need emotional stuff.
I suppress them, and I am fine. They do not spill off in the real world to me. I do admit I have sometimes uncontrollable "jits" but that is only when I am half conscious. Otherwise I am good at suppressing.
I disagree, the more you focus on it, the bigger it becomes. Seriously, society has made marrying an achievement.
One can just stop focusing on one's desire and stuff.
Islam discourages being celibate. On the other hand, it encourages marrying ASAP, and have ones desires released in a halal (permissible) way. AFAIK.
Allahu alam.
lol, bro, im not fantasizing about sex, that would be masturbation. i fantasize about being married and cuddling and kissing and saying sweet, romantic things (again, i do this while fantasizing about being married) but perhaps cuddling will lead to masturbation. brother huzaifah ibn adam i still dont know how to change my name, would you believe it?
may Allah make everything easy for you
try to be far for this things as the brothers and sisters said because if it's hard to stop now ... it will be harder to stop later
let all this things be in halal way
and Allah will put happiness and blessings in your life
make your self busy with the things you like
do voluntary work and the things you like.
save your time , now .... and this will help you in the future with your family to be a good Muslim husband and father
but this kind of relationship will be hard before marriage because you will wast your time and break your heart and your Iman
especially in this hard time .
pray and fast and try to make your self busy and Allah will bring the best wife for you
and if this girl is the best one for you ... Allah will save her and treat her for you
save your Iman, your time and your feelings till the best time.. as you can, and Allah will be with you, with help .. protecting and keeping in the right path
may Allah make it easy for you
amen !!
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