Assalamu-alaikum,
JazakAllah for the above sentiments.
I think we should always try to consider the position of one, standing in their shoes.
So, while all that has been said above, is true for the most part - surely this is not the case for everyone, and in all cases.
Being a woman, who walked away from her marriage - as a result of her ex having a similiar problem (amongst other things) - and who has been struggling to regain trust, and remove the doubts/ suspicions/ paranoia that has developed.......surely this is not the series for such as me.
Believe me when I say - my head is not buried in the sand.
I do know understand the depth of this problem.
To the point of researching and visiting some of these sites myself - to try and understand, what it was that draws one to this.....
All that I was left with was guilt, hollowness and the realisation that the man who has been suckered into this world - is going to have a tough time clawing himself out. (not impossible, but tough).
And, even to the point of writing in to a certain car fanatics forum that freely provided such material to its loyal members - and Alhamdulillah, they have now changed their policies about it.
But - tbh, all this knowledge - was coming with a price tag - my own peace of mind.
Do you realise that not all knowledge is good knowledge?
e.g:
Would you tell the person who has been diagnosed with cancer, ALL details of the difficult road that lies ahead of him?
- Surely, it is words of comfort, with a realistic but as positive an outlook as is possible - that will give him hope and courage to face this trial head-on.
- Not the in-depth knowledge of the pain, side effects or poor prognosis of his condition.
But to the one who is treating him - yes, such knowledge is important to be able to insha Allah, do the best he can for this patient.
or:
To the parents whose child has been brutally murdered - do they need to know ALL the details surrounding his/ her death?
Does this knowledge serve to be of benefit or harm to them?
But, to the police who are investigating this case - these pieces of information are crucial.
In the same way - I am aware of the fitnah that surrounds me - how can one not be?
But, do I need to know all the gory details of it?
How is this going to benefit me?
Apart from adding to my psychological distress and sorrows?
Of course - if there are any solutions that are discussed - e.g how can we protect our kids from on-line porn through their cell-phones - please direct me to these.
JazakAllah.
Salaam
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