It's hard for you to get married to people that are too attached to their culture, and if they do it's sometimes because:
a) They have an inferiority complex and want beautiful mixed race children with blue or green eyes and light skin. :rolleyes:
b) Or, they're trying to run away from their family.
To those that turn you down, perhaps it's not because of them, but because of pressure from their family? Some parents threaten to disown their child if they do marry an ''ajnabi'' (foreigner), but wouldn't mind if they married someone who doesn't even bother praying their five salats every single day just as long as they're from the same culture.
It's a double standard, and sorry to say...for some people, culture comes before Islaam subhan'Allaah.
You see, I've often heard that if you marry an ''ajnabi'' than your bloodline is tainted, and your lineage is not as ''nasab'' (noble).
That's the harsh reality, not every single cultured person is like that, but a lot of people that I've come across are.
If you think it's hard for a white revert, how do you think it is for a black one? They've got it even worse than you. My family, even though my extended family have no business in my personal affairs, have told me that I can never marry an African American. There are so many derogatory terms used for people from a different background.
You need to be aware of such things so that you can stay away from that inshaAllaah, keep on persevering in your deen, and searching for a wife. Make du'a, there are many many mixed marriages and they do work out alhamdulilah but cultural attachments are still there and I believe is one of the reasons why this Ummah isn't united I'm afraid.
Too many people have pride in their hearts, as if they're better than others (Muslim or not) based on their skin colour/background. And little do they know, that someone with a mustard's seed's weight of pride will not enter Jannah.
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