My fiancee has been having trouble with the fasting, and now she says that she doesn't want to be Muslim anymore, and that she doesn't believe in it and doesn't think it is the truth. This has made me extremely sad and hurt and it means that we probably can't get married. Please make du'a that she will return to the truth of Islam and that we can get married.
yes inshAllah evrythg will we awlright ...just try ur best ..
"O Muslims! If anyone among you worshipped Ramadan, then know that Ramadan is dead. But those of you who worshipped Allah, then know that Allah lives and will never die. Indeed Allah created Ramadan and He also, in truth, created Shawaal, Dhul Qidah, Dhul Hijjah, and all the rest of the Months..."
Sounds like the road to Islamic spirituality for your gf is paved with burning stones. May allah lead her to the light and please never doubt your choices brother.
Salamualikum.
Aww don't worry it happens to me at times aswel.. Everything will be fine dearest... Gave it a day or two...
May Allaah make it easy for you and your wife .. Amin
Tace care ma'assalama
Need to make lots of dua for her as well as using wisdom to talk her back into islam again.
I know you can still wed - but look at the consequences and effect of unislamic influence on the children.
You need to be brave and make the correct decisions if she does go away from islam - my duas are with you and even more duas that you fiancee comes back into islam witha passion.
Ameen
My fiancee has been having trouble with the fasting, and now she says that she doesn't want to be Muslim anymore, and that she doesn't believe in it and doesn't think it is the truth. This has made me extremely sad and hurt and it means that we probably can't get married.
But how come ?
talk to her gently and ask her why she feels this way. If its the fasting that she finds difficult, tell her that she doesn't have to do that. Islam is an easy religion, she doesn't have to start doing all the rituals at once if she feels she can't.
Keep by her side n just be understanding and supportive. Maybe she wasn't ready for the change n she'll come round eventually.
u are both going to get through this together insha'Allaah, because u entered it together. n Allah knows your situation more than we do, He's up there watching n He will definitely help u. so don't despair or be sad.
Please make du'a that she will return to the truth of Islam and that we can get married.
Allah descends to the lowest heaven when a third of the night remains, saying : "Who is supplicating to Me that I may answer him ?
who is asking of Me that i May give him ?
Who is seeking forgiveness of Me that i may forgive him ?" [Sahih al-Bukhari]
so brother, during this time especially, you must pray for her and yourself and we also will pray for u both insha'Allaah
because Allah the All-Merciful, the All-Compassionate, has promised that He will reply to a believers supplication and
He who is far from imperfection does not break His promises.
It is Also the Month of Ramadan, and the nights of this Blessed Month are not like ordinary nights either. n neither are the days like ordinary days.
May Allah give us all the Tawfeeq to wake up and pray for u both.
Because when two people who love each other accept Islam together and get married, it is a very beautiful thing. n what is half an hour of sacrificing our sleep to stand up and supplicate to Allah, who is the controller and changer of hearts, to keep u both steadfast on the true deen so this beautiful marriage can take place and we can all be happy Allah willing.
Du'a can even change a persons destiny.
May Allah keep u both on the right path, make it easy for u and make u both husband and wife who are content and Happy with each other. Ameen
My fiancee has been having trouble with the fasting, and now she says that she doesn't want to be Muslim anymore, and that she doesn't believe in it and doesn't think it is the truth. This has made me extremely sad and hurt and it means that we probably can't get married. Please make du'a that she will return to the truth of Islam and that we can get married.
try convincing her to fast half day then....
Lots of six year olds can fast for the whole month.. with no problems...
let her learn the basic of islam first...before doing the hard ones...
25:36 And the true servants of the Most Merciful are those who walk the earth with humility and when the ignorant address them, they respond with words of peace.
Ameen to all du'as.
Yeah. It does sound like it's the fasting that is getting to her.
You guys have only been Muslim for less than a week this far, yeah?
May Allah (swt) give you both strength in Iman and continue to guide you.
My fiancee has been having trouble with the fasting, and now she says that she doesn't want to be Muslim anymore, and that she doesn't believe in it and doesn't think it is the truth. This has made me extremely sad and hurt and it means that we probably can't get married. Please make du'a that she will return to the truth of Islam and that we can get married.
Peace brother,
From what I understand Islam is new to you both. If this is so be gentle. The path is new and lots of things have to be learnt by you both. Start slowly with a good intend and a sincere heart and pray to God for His help.
Talk to her and tell her you understand, give her time to adjust and to see the beauty of Islam. Fasting is tough, but with the right attitute it can be done. I really enjoy breaking the fast at the end of the day with brothers & sisters feeling such a sense of acheivement and pleasure.
Be gentle and encourage her step by step, day by day.
Orthodox Christianity is paved with a great many fasting days. Did she not fast on these days while a Christian??? Fasting cannot be a litmus test for truth...
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