وبشِّرِ الصَّابِرِينَ "And give glad tidings to the patient." (Surah Al-Baqarah 2:155)
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1. Prayers for a Spouse
I spent nights in prayer asking Allah for a righteous spouse. I wanted someone who would be a companion in faith, life, and struggle. I never asked for beauty, wealth, or luxury—just a heart that feared Allah and a soul that stood by me with sincerity. When I met her, I believed my du'a was accepted. I trusted her, gave her my name, my home, and my future. I believed she was the answer to my years of sincere supplication.
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2. Early Signs and Ignored Warnings
Before marriage, I discovered she had been speaking to random men on Snapchat. She confessed and said she had repented. I believed her. I wanted to believe her. I chose forgiveness over suspicion, thinking love and understanding would help her change. Little did I know, this was the beginning of a long trail of deception. I chose trust when I should've chosen caution.
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3. The Prisoner Request
Her own family insisted that I keep her in the village and never take her to the city. Their tone carried something unspoken—as if they were hiding a past or a behavior they feared might resurface. Later, when things unraveled, they told me, "Do whatever you want, don’t give her food, don’t give her a phone." But I said, "She is my wife, not a prisoner." I couldn't chain someone I once loved. I didn’t want a marriage of control—I wanted a marriage of mutual respect. If I had to constantly watch her, what kind of marriage would that be?
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4. The Dreams That Warned Me
One week before everything came to light, I had a strange dream. In it, I saw her with other men in my home, involved in acts no husband can bear to witness. I dismissed the dream, thinking maybe it was just from my nafs. Sometimes we see what we fear or think of before sleep. But I had never thought anything like this about my wife. The next night, I had the same dream again. This time, my heart trembled. I began to feel something was wrong. My fitrah was warning me.
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5. The Guard's Testimony
A few days later, the security guard of our neighborhood informed my brother-in-law that men were visiting our house at night. I was on night shifts, and my mother was often visiting my sister, leaving my wife alone. When I asked her, she denied it. But the seed of doubt had already been planted.
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6. Evidence Unfolding
I checked her phone. At first, nothing seemed unusual. But then my sister showed me photos from Instagram—my wife holding hands with a man, posing beside his car, and commenting "handsome" on random men’s profiles. I checked her phone again. Snapchat was hidden in settings. Then, while holding her phone, she received a WhatsApp message. The chat was invisible—only accessible through a hidden code or fingerprint. It was beyond anything I expected.
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7. Swearing by the Quran
I held the Quran and said, "Swear on this and tell me the truth. Show me everything and I promise not to tell anyone. I will forgive if you repent." But she didn’t. Instead, she repeatedly said, "Just divorce me." Even in the past few months, whenever I tried to correct her or even when I was upset, she would bring up divorce. It felt like she wanted out long ago.
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8. Involving Her Family
I called her father and elder brother. I told them everything. Her brother asked her to show the hidden chat and Instagram, but she refused. I took her phone and handed her back to her parents. I asked them not to give her a phone. But just hours later, she opened Instagram and removed my cousin from her list but kept those two men she had been involved with. Then she sent a voice message to my sister—the one who showed me her Instagram photos—abusing her, blaming her, and threatening to file a police report. Her father and brother didn’t stop her or take back the phone.
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9. The Patch-Up Visit and More Blame
Her mother came for a patch-up. Instead of peace, she brought curses. She blamed my sister, not her daughter. Her father later called mine and blamed me for not getting her pregnant. He said, "Did you check if your son is capable?" But I later discovered my wife was taking medicine to prevent pregnancy and had shared that with others in my family—not with me. Her betrayal ran deeper than I thought.
Allah says: "Do not make your own hands contribute to your destruction." (Surah Al-Baqarah 2:195)
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10. My Heart, Still Praying for Her
Even after knowing everything—the lies, the betrayal, the shame—I still found myself praying for her. Not that she comes back, but that Allah guides her and protects her. This world is full of wolves. I fear someone will exploit her again. I wish no evil for her. I just wish she had walked the straight path. I loved her more than my own self. But you cannot heal someone who doesn't admit they are broken.
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The Purpose of This Story
I didn’t write this to shame her, or to expose her. I wrote this to warn others who may walk blindly into marriage without observing the signs. I wrote this to tell every man and woman: don’t ignore your instincts, don’t dismiss your dreams, don’t let love blind you from reality. Ask Allah for a spouse, yes—but also ask for someone whose heart is pure.
And when Allah shows you the truth, no matter how painful, accept it. Sometimes, the greatest mercy is in separation.
May Allah protect us from betrayal, bless us with loyalty, and keep our hearts firm on truth.
"Indeed, with hardship comes ease." (Surah Ash-Sharh 94:6)
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1. Prayers for a Spouse
I spent nights in prayer asking Allah for a righteous spouse. I wanted someone who would be a companion in faith, life, and struggle. I never asked for beauty, wealth, or luxury—just a heart that feared Allah and a soul that stood by me with sincerity. When I met her, I believed my du'a was accepted. I trusted her, gave her my name, my home, and my future. I believed she was the answer to my years of sincere supplication.
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2. Early Signs and Ignored Warnings
Before marriage, I discovered she had been speaking to random men on Snapchat. She confessed and said she had repented. I believed her. I wanted to believe her. I chose forgiveness over suspicion, thinking love and understanding would help her change. Little did I know, this was the beginning of a long trail of deception. I chose trust when I should've chosen caution.
---
3. The Prisoner Request
Her own family insisted that I keep her in the village and never take her to the city. Their tone carried something unspoken—as if they were hiding a past or a behavior they feared might resurface. Later, when things unraveled, they told me, "Do whatever you want, don’t give her food, don’t give her a phone." But I said, "She is my wife, not a prisoner." I couldn't chain someone I once loved. I didn’t want a marriage of control—I wanted a marriage of mutual respect. If I had to constantly watch her, what kind of marriage would that be?
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4. The Dreams That Warned Me
One week before everything came to light, I had a strange dream. In it, I saw her with other men in my home, involved in acts no husband can bear to witness. I dismissed the dream, thinking maybe it was just from my nafs. Sometimes we see what we fear or think of before sleep. But I had never thought anything like this about my wife. The next night, I had the same dream again. This time, my heart trembled. I began to feel something was wrong. My fitrah was warning me.
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5. The Guard's Testimony
A few days later, the security guard of our neighborhood informed my brother-in-law that men were visiting our house at night. I was on night shifts, and my mother was often visiting my sister, leaving my wife alone. When I asked her, she denied it. But the seed of doubt had already been planted.
---
6. Evidence Unfolding
I checked her phone. At first, nothing seemed unusual. But then my sister showed me photos from Instagram—my wife holding hands with a man, posing beside his car, and commenting "handsome" on random men’s profiles. I checked her phone again. Snapchat was hidden in settings. Then, while holding her phone, she received a WhatsApp message. The chat was invisible—only accessible through a hidden code or fingerprint. It was beyond anything I expected.
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7. Swearing by the Quran
I held the Quran and said, "Swear on this and tell me the truth. Show me everything and I promise not to tell anyone. I will forgive if you repent." But she didn’t. Instead, she repeatedly said, "Just divorce me." Even in the past few months, whenever I tried to correct her or even when I was upset, she would bring up divorce. It felt like she wanted out long ago.
---
8. Involving Her Family
I called her father and elder brother. I told them everything. Her brother asked her to show the hidden chat and Instagram, but she refused. I took her phone and handed her back to her parents. I asked them not to give her a phone. But just hours later, she opened Instagram and removed my cousin from her list but kept those two men she had been involved with. Then she sent a voice message to my sister—the one who showed me her Instagram photos—abusing her, blaming her, and threatening to file a police report. Her father and brother didn’t stop her or take back the phone.
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9. The Patch-Up Visit and More Blame
Her mother came for a patch-up. Instead of peace, she brought curses. She blamed my sister, not her daughter. Her father later called mine and blamed me for not getting her pregnant. He said, "Did you check if your son is capable?" But I later discovered my wife was taking medicine to prevent pregnancy and had shared that with others in my family—not with me. Her betrayal ran deeper than I thought.
Allah says: "Do not make your own hands contribute to your destruction." (Surah Al-Baqarah 2:195)
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10. My Heart, Still Praying for Her
Even after knowing everything—the lies, the betrayal, the shame—I still found myself praying for her. Not that she comes back, but that Allah guides her and protects her. This world is full of wolves. I fear someone will exploit her again. I wish no evil for her. I just wish she had walked the straight path. I loved her more than my own self. But you cannot heal someone who doesn't admit they are broken.
---
The Purpose of This Story
I didn’t write this to shame her, or to expose her. I wrote this to warn others who may walk blindly into marriage without observing the signs. I wrote this to tell every man and woman: don’t ignore your instincts, don’t dismiss your dreams, don’t let love blind you from reality. Ask Allah for a spouse, yes—but also ask for someone whose heart is pure.
And when Allah shows you the truth, no matter how painful, accept it. Sometimes, the greatest mercy is in separation.
May Allah protect us from betrayal, bless us with loyalty, and keep our hearts firm on truth.
"Indeed, with hardship comes ease." (Surah Ash-Sharh 94:6)
