He prevented her marriage, and this was his reward

[Ummu Sufyaan]

I dont know if this is really the right place... mods, please remove if necessary...
this is really sad...

يحدثنا أحد العلماء في الرياض يقول: حضرنا إلى باب المستشفيات فوجدنا رجلاً مع ابنته وهي في مرضها، وعمرها أربعين سنة لم تتزوج، كلما تقدم لها رجل رفض أبوها، يقول: كان من أطمع الناس، صاحب دنيا لكن لم تنفعه دنياه، عنده من الدور ومكاتب العقارات والسيارات والمعارض، لكنه معروف بين الناس أنه إذا زوج ابنته لا يزوجها إلا بمئات الألوف، فكلما تقدم لها شاب رفض تزويجها؛ لأن الذين تقدموا إليها شباب فقراء، وأكثر الناس أحوالهم لا تمكنهم من دفع المهور الغالية، فكلما تقدم له رجل صالح سأل عن وظيفته؟ وسياراته؟ ومرتباته؟ فإذا أخبره بأنه دون ذلك تركه، حتى وصلت إلى سن الأربعين، ثم أصابها مرض عضال، ونقلت إلى المستشفى، فلما حضرتها سكرات الموت، وهو الانتقال إلى الواحد الأحد الذي يحكم بين الخصمين ولا حاكم إلا هو، والذي ينصف المظلوم من الظالم، فلما حضرتها سكرات الموت قالت: ياأبتاه! اقترب، فاقترب منها، فقالت: قل آمين، فقال: آمين، فقالت: قل آمين فقال: آمين. -والله لقد حدثنا بها شيخ من الشيوخ الذين تقبل شهادتهم- فقالت: قل آمين، ثالث مرة، قالت: أحرمك الله الجنة كما أحرمتني لذة الزواج.
أربعين سنة تقف المرأة في بيت أبيها ماذا تنتظر؟

One of the Ulemaa from Riyaadh narrated to us saying: We went to one of the doors of the hospitals and we found a man with his daughter and she was in her illness, and her age was 40 years old and had not married. Every man who came for her, her father rejected him. He (the shaykh) said: he was from the greediest people, a person of the Dunya however his Dunya did not benefit him. He had many offices, real-estate and cars and clinics, however he was known between the people that if his daughter were to be married, he cannot marry her except with hundreds of thousands, so all of the young men who came to her rejected marrying her, because those who came for her were poor youth. And most of the conditions of the people did not allow them to pay the high mahr. So every righteous man who came he was asked about his employment and his cars and his salary and if he informed him that he did not have that then he was left, until she reached 40 years of age. Then she suffered an acute illness and was admitted to the hospital and when the time for her death came, and it is a time for meeting the One, the Only One who Judges between the parties, and there is no Judge Except Him, and the One who does Justice between the Oppressed and the Oppressor, then when the death came to meet her, she said:

O Father, come close!

So he came closer to her.

She said: Say Aameen.

So he said: Aameen.

So she said: Say Aameen.

So he said: Aameen.

-By Allaah, this was narrated to us by a Shaykh from the Mashaayikh who witnessed this-

So she said: Say Aameen three times,

Then she said: May Allaah prohibit for you Jannah as you have prohibited for me the delicacy of marriage



-Mawqi' al-Imaam al Aajurry li Tulaabul 'Ilm

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Is this true?

[Ummu Sufyaan]

yeah, why wouldnt it be?
there is a source

-Mawqi' al-Imaam al Aajurry li Tulaabul 'Ilm

:sunny:

[Umul_Kheyr]

i remember i heard the excatly same in kutba in sharjah the imam based his topic on marriage and narrated this story it broke my heart

[Al-Zaara]

Then she said: May Allaah prohibit for you Jannah as you have prohibited for me the delicacy of marriage

SubhanAllah, even though the love of my life would be neglected by my father because of his greed or anger and I'd have to stay alone for the rest of my life, I couldn't bear myself to utter such a dua... No, I couldn't have the heart to!!! Astagfirullah...

[Ummu Sufyaan]

SubhanAllah, even though the love of my life would be neglected by my father because of his greed or anger and I'd have to stay alone for the rest of my life, I couldn't bear myself to utter such a dua... No, I couldn't have the heart to!!! Astagfirullah...

yeah but sis, some people just about have it to thier back teeth really... some pepole just leave you feelin cold and hostile towards them... and i couldnt either btw...

[Al-Zaara]

yeah but sis, some people just about have it to thier back teeth really... some pepole just leave you feelin cold and hostile towards them... and i couldnt either btw...

But her own father. Taking care of her all her life... SubhanAllah we cannot get everything in this life, marriage was not her kismet, I don't understand what brought her to say such a dua...

We don't know the whole story of course, it could be that he never made her feel loved, neglected her feelings all her life.. Maybe though, he thought for her best and was sure to find a righteous man who is also rich, to give her the life she is used to? But if this is not the case, then I don't know..

Urgh, this story made me feel ill.

[Ummu Sufyaan]

I don't understand what brought her to say such a dua...

this sis

however he was known between the people that if his daughter were to be married, he cannot marry her except with hundreds of thousands, so all of the young men who came to her rejected marrying her, because those who came for her were poor youth. And most of the conditions of the people did not allow them to pay the high mahr. So every righteous man who came he was asked about his employment and his cars and his salary and if he informed him that he did not have that then he was left, until she reached 40 years of age.

and another thing...do you know what marriage is like in arab culure. a women getting married at the age of 25 is old, probably even 22...what about leaving it till 40! :sunny:

We don't know the whole story of course,

why cant we take it at face value for now

[Al-Zaara]

Maybe though, he thought for her best and was sure to find a righteous man who is also rich, to give her the life she is used to?

Yes, he was greedy. But for that to wish him no forgiveness and no mercy?? None of us is perfect!! Everyone makes mistakes. For that, I wish her dua wasn't answered but.. Allahu Alaam.

and another thing...do you know what marriage is like in arab culure. a women getting married at the age of 25 is old, probably even 22...what about leaving it till 40! :sunny:

Not just Arab culture, reminds me of the Albanian and Indian culture.

Well, some never get married. It's not the end of the world.. Well, for some it might seem, but is that marriage really worth your father in Jahnnam?? Astagfirullah...

why cant we take it at face value for now

What does this mean?

[Ummu Sufyaan]

Well, some never get married. It's not the end of the world..

for some it maybe. why does one need to be so picky.

What does this mean?

it means why is this argument getting out of its context. :sunny:

I dont mean to be rude, but please dont tell me ur disagreeing with this just because its comin out of saudi

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^ Its not just because its coming out of saudi. Your taking it out of context. I can see where sister Al Zaara is coming from.

[Ummu Sufyaan]

Your taking it out of context.

i wasnt takin out of context, i was askin a qn....

i can see where shes comin from too, as i said,

and i couldnt either btw...

however, I can get where the gils coming form too!!!

[Umul_Kheyr]

is one allowed to make a dua against his parent though?

[Ummu Sufyaan]

i dunno, i was thinkin the same thing...

[Al-Zaara]

for some it maybe. why does one need to be so picky.

Yeah, good question.. But argh, why does one need to be so dramatic also? People these days!

it means why is this argument getting out of its context. :sunny:

I dont mean to be rude, but please dont tell me ur disagreeing with this just because its comin out of saudi

I wasn't trying to make an debate or argument, I was so shocked, never have I heard anything like this, from Muslims. Just as Umul Kheyr just asked, is it really allowed??

You think I'm a fierce Saudi-hater, lol ! I am not.

No, it has nothing to do with the fact that it's from Saudi, or any other Arab-country.

InshaAllah this is now cleared.

[Soulja Girl]

Thats such a sad story.
Erm, do you think the Dua she made is accepted though?

[Snowflake]

Never give your parents ba'dua (bad dua). I pray Allah forgives her for saying that and also forgives her father for denying her rights. Ameen. Sad.

[Khayal]

SubhanAllah, even though the love of my life would be neglected by my father because of his greed or anger and I'd have to stay alone for the rest of my life, I couldn't bear myself to utter such a dua... No, I couldn't have the heart to!!! Astagfirullah...

Astahfirullah!! same here.

[Danah]

subhan Allah, I heard this story before
jazaki allah khair sis for sharing

[FatimaAsSideqah]

As Salaam Alaykum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuhu

Subhan'Allah!! So sad story! She was supposed to say by Dua, If they are misguided, guide them to You; help them be strong in Your Faith, and Remain with them. Grant them the highest level of Jannah in the Hereafter, and grant them endless peace. Don't use to against the parents by bad dua.