I don't realy know where to start.... for a long time now I feel stuck in every important aspect of my life... I've been through alot in the past few years... did alot of mistakes and bad choices... sometimes I wish to go back in time and to be smart about my choices... I find my self alot thinking about the past... about all the things that have happened to me... some of it were not under my control at all and some of it are bad choices that I've made....
It feels that I cant fix anything and get out of this situation that I'm in now... I'm feeling depressed that I keep failing.. and the most painful thing is that this situation hurts my parents also.
I wish someone could make duaa for me ... that everything will fall into place...
thanke u all
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May Allah help you. Don't think about the past. It was qadr (destiny) and there's nothing you can do about it. Think about the future and what goals you have for it and how you can attain them. Additionally, do zikr all the time to keep you from thinkng of the past and to strengthen you.
I don't realy know where to start.... for a long time now I feel stuck in every important aspect of my life... I've been through alot in the past few years... did alot of mistakes and bad choices... sometimes I wish to go back in time and to be smart about my choices... I find my self alot thinking about the past... about all the things that have happened to me... some of it were not under my control at all and some of it are bad choices that I've made....
It feels that I cant fix anything and get out of this situation that I'm in now... I'm feeling depressed that I keep failing.. and the most painful thing is that this situation hurts my parents also.
I wish someone could make duaa for me ... that everything will fall into place...
thanke u all
Asalaamu Alaikum, the best thing we can do about our past is to learn from it and take lessons from it so that we can make the best of now and the future. Apart from that it is pointless dwelling on what has past for that is wasting more time. There is no point regretting what has happened but we can learn from it so that we make better choices now and in the future.
Whatever wrong we have done to ourselves can be forgiven as Allah is most merciful and he loves to forgive. As long as we are remorseful and repent sincerely with the intention nevr to repeat such acts then we wil find Allah most forgiving. He loves to forgive and in roder to gain forgiveness we should always repent sincerely.
Life is a learning process and if we did'nt fail then how would we ever learn from our lives? We only learn from failures not our successes. If we alway succeeded in everything then we would never learn from life. But we learn from failures so you should accept that you failing in certain aspects of your life is what has made you a better and wiser person who can now make better decisions about your life and do things better now and in the future. That is what life is all about. We all wish that we could get a time machine and go back to certain aspects of our lives and do things differently but this would be pointless because firstly it will never happen and secondly we have learnt from it and taken lessons from it with which we can do things better in our lives now and in the future.
So the first thing you need to do is accept what has happened in the past and then you should realise that you are now a much better and wiser person from it and that you can now move forward with your life knowing that you have learnt a lot of lessons which you can apply to your daily life ensuring that what has happened will never happen again and in this way you have learnt from your past so that you can have a better present and future.
So strive to be closer to Allah and do everything to please him and refrain from doing anything which displeases him. Ask of him always and repent to him him asking for forgiveness. Tahnk him and share all of your feelings with him. Ask of him for guidance, help and support and know that he will never turn you away. Fulfil your obligations to him in the form of Salaah and remember and glorify him in the form of dhikr.
Recite his beautiful words in the Qur'an and read its meanings. Be the best towards others and serve your parents and family as much as you can. Be with good company and learn as much about Islam as you can and implement what you learn in your daily life. If you do all these things then EVERYTHING will fit into place in your life like a jigsaw puzzle!
Here are some very beneficial lectures for you to increase your imaan and fear of Allah:
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I find my self alot thinking about the past... about all the things that have happened to me... some of it were not under my control at all and some of it are bad choices that I've made....
May Allah make things easy for you and sort all your problems, Aameen.
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